Todays fast paced world leaves all of us wanting more. By the time your day ends, you are exhausted and crave a certain familiar warmth. If only to just sit and watch TV with or have dinner with. Failing to have this, there are many who have gone into a state of self prescribed depression. A state of loneliness.
Now who really likes to be lonely?
Loneliness is very very over rated. The need for companionship is a good thing. It makes you only human. But, what if you are alone? Will you stop living as a result of it?
You cant do that! You have to live and live very well at that too! With constant reminders or feelings of loneliness, your productivity and your sanity both go for a toss.
So what is the alternative?
Think of your life from birth. The very first time a baby comes into this world. This little baby has come into this world alone. When your life ends it will end alone. Your life is not gonna end with another group who are gonna come with you to keep you company at that journey. This journey from the birth to death to the afterlife…you have to go at it alone. Just you! Only You!
Why not make YOU your own best friend?
What are the things you do with best friends?? Go for movies, share funny stories, go for outings, excursions etc. Do all these things with yourself. Just learn to be with yourself. Slowly the loneliness goes away and is replaced with Peace! Yes, peace of mind, peace of heart and total control of your SELF.
At a time when you’re totally at peace with yourself….If you do meet someone and decide to have a relationship, that relationship will be more fruitful and enriching. Why? Because youre no more needy. Youre no more imbalanced. You’re no more unhappy. On the contrary, You have found your SELF!
At this point sharing your life with someone means to let that person grow too. You live your lives with a certain calm, where you help each other grow as individuals. You let each other BE exactly who you are without the temptation to change each other.
But first and foremost, Learn to live with yourself.
Make peace with the skeletons in your closet and the scars on your heart. Let them be. Take a lesson from each skeleton, each scar and apply those lessons in your daily life.
Being your own best friend can be the most enriching experience in the world. I know, cause I did the exact same thing when I went through a very bad and painful separation in the far past. At the time, I didn’t know how to be by myself. I had somehow lost my identity in the crowded relationship I was in. Slowly but steadily I attempted to be by myself. Found myself. Then when I met the love of my life, I knew I was loved for who I was, not for who someone wanted me to be.
The amazing thing about being your own best friend and finding yourself is that you never ever feel lonely and you almost always know what you want. You dont need to second guess yourself ever again.
Its a process. An awesome process!
What about you? Are you your own best friend or are you still looking for YOURSELF?
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