Do you want to know how to build vibrant positive relationships? If yes, read on…
Often, I receive questions by email asking for advice on particular situations. This week when I received one such question, I thought the answer would be beneficial to more people that just the person who asked the question. With the permission of the reader(who sent this question), I am posting the question and the answer below.
Question: My Friend has been made my immediate boss. I must admit that it’s pulling me down a bit. Not a feeling I like. How do I deal with this situation Positively? I don’t understand why I could be feeling like this.
Answer: Whats it that’s getting to you? Your inability to deal with the fact that your friend has become your boss? Or the behavior of your friend(which may have changed), that you find strange? You need to deal with each one differently.
If its the former, you need to understand that the source of this negative energy is the way in which you are looking at the situation. Could you be thinking that you deserved it more? Or feeling low that this friend will now get more respect and adulation than you? All experiences of life can make us either bitter or help us get better. You can use this situation as inspiration and motivation to acquire new skills and produce outstanding results, so you too can get promoted. If you hold on this thought and work on it, it will raise your energy levels. Also remember, your friend becoming your immediate boss may have its advantages and disadvantages. Focus on the advantages it may bring in terms of extra openness and acceptance of your ideas, more sensitivity to your personal needs, more value as a team member. This will create more vibrancy and energy to focus on what you need to do.
For the latter, bear in mind that being a new boss, your friend will need to project a certain image and work towards producing some results. This may not leave him/her with enough time for friendly conversations near the water cooler. He/she may suddenly become unpleasant simply because of pressure. Try to understand the reasons why he/she is behaving that way. This will build understanding and sensitivity in your relationship with him/her.
Here are some Tips To Build A Vibrant Relationship:
- Respect and understand your friends role and limitations as a new boss.
- Ignore worrisome behavior a few times but if you see a pattern, discuss it patiently and gently.
- Decide on behaviors you both need to follow. Accept and adhere to them.
- Do not bring emotions in when discussing work or worries. Be professional in your approach at work at all times.
Good Luck! I hope these tips ease your mind and positively help you in your current situation.
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