Please Note: This is a guest post by my dear friend Evita from EvolvingBeings.com
Have you ever been in a situation where you really, really wanted something to work out? You so called had your “heart set on it”?
Well, I think it is safe to say that we have all been there at one time or another. Excited to have something work out, in fact counting on something working out, investing a lot of our thoughts and focus to it. And sometimes it is there, exactly how we imagined it, or perhaps even better. But sometimes, it isn’t. So what happens when it doesn’t, or didn’t work out quite as you’d hoped?
Perhaps you didn’t get the job you were counting on. Perhaps a project did not get finished on time. Perhaps an item you really needed/wanted to buy, became unavailable for whatever reason. Perhaps a family member, friend or a lover didn’t come through in some way.
This is where most people spiral down a staircase of negative emotions. From anger and sadness, to hopelessness and depression. We blame other people, we blame God, we think we aren’t good enough, we claim we have no “luck” and on and on. The results aren’t pretty.
But let us step back for a moment. What is really at the heart of all of these situations? To contrary belief it may have nothing to do with our heart at all, and everything to do with our mind. Such that, it would be better to say “I have my mind set on it”, not “my heart”.
For you see, when we think, speak and act from our hearts, there are no negative emotions attached. We understand that everything that happens has a greater purpose. We understand that there is perfection even there, where it is least apparent.
The mind on the other hand attaches to future events and specific outcomes for various reasons. It can be for reasons to shape us, define us, give us a sense of purpose or meaning. It can be to feel loved, needed, appreciated or understood. It can be to prove something to another, to show off, to gain a certain status and the list continues. None of these reasons however come from your higher self, they are the language of the Ego.
So how can we turn it all around?
The next time you are super excited about something working out, bring some space, clarity and balance to the situation. This isn’t about proving or disproving the Law of Attraction, but about getting in touch with where your focus and intention really lies.
If we have hidden fears and doubts brewing around in our subconscious, even if on the surface we think we have it all under control, deep within we are sending the Universe completely different messages.
Thus, have the courage to examine your situation from all angles. Not negative angles, but different possible outcomes. There is no need to label each outcome as “bad” or “good”, but simply to see them all having equal value in the eyes of the Universe. Practice with how each outcome makes you feel, and you will very quickly discover any blockage or resistance you have to a certain situation.
Finally, be okay with what is. This is not a solution of defeat, but rather a solution of connecting with your heart, not your mind. You may not always know or be in control of how things turn out, but you always have a choice in how you will choose to act, to no matter what happens. Thus, choose to trust, that if you truly gave a situation your heart-centered and conscious focus, it has turned out exactly as it was meant to.
The heart chooses reactions of unconditional love, joy, kindness, respect, care, peace, stillness and gratitude.
The mind chooses Ego-based responses of fear, anger, sadness, hatred, revenge, depression, unworthiness and blame.
In the end, it is definitely not always the easiest thing to do, to choose a heart-centered approach, when the mind is screaming at us otherwise. But the more we tune into our heart, our inner being and our higher self, the more we act from the most natural place of who we truly are – love.
Now its your turn- Have you been living a heart centered life? Or do you still let your Ego rule your life? What are your thoughts on this? Please share your wisdom in the comments below.
About the author: Evita Ochel, B.Sc., B.Ed., CHN – is the founder and editor of EvolvingBeings.com – an online publication to awaken and inspire people to grow in consciousness and connect with a heart-centered way of life. You can sign up for the RSS feed or follow Evita Ochel on Twitter.
With Immense Love and Gratitude,
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