Being you is not always the easiest thing to be. Believe me I have had a hard time in the past just being me until I found out who I was.
Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else. ~Judy Garland
Being YOU means to celebrate your individuality – learning to express yourself and be happy with who you are. For some it’s learning to love yourself, for others, it’s not hiding who you are or changing things about you to fit in.
Let me share with you 7 tips that will help you to be the best version of yourself, no matter what:
1} How do you define yourself:
Your primary goal should be to know, understand and accept yourself. Take out time to contemplate on your life’s choices. Try to think about what kind of things you would or wouldn’t like to do, and act accordingly; finding out through trial and error helps more than you know. Work on accepting mistakes and choices you’ve made; they’re done and in the past, so there is no use crying over spilled milk.
2} Lets not worry about others perceptions:
It’s impossible to be yourself when you’re caught up in wondering “Do they like me? Does she think I’m fat? Do they think I’m smart?” To be yourself, you’ve got to let go of these concerns and just let your behavior flow. What you think and know of yourself is important not what others think of you. Don’t wear different masks to please different people….you will ultimately lose yourself. Be you, be authentic without being rude and self-indulgent.
3} Focus on Being Honest and Open:
We’re all imperfect, evolving, learning human beings. If there are aspects of yourself you are uncomfortable with— and you feel that you have to hide those parts of you, physically or emotionally — then you have to come to terms with that and learn to convert your so-called flaws into positive quirks. Be honest with yourself, but don’t beat yourself up; apply this philosophy to others, as well. There is a difference between being critical and being honest; learn to watch the way you say things to yourself and others when being honest.
4} Please Relax and laugh a bit:
Stop worrying about the worst, especially in social situations. So what if you fall flat on your face? Or have candy stuck on your hair? Learn to laugh at yourself both when it happens and afterwards. Turn it into a fun story that you can share with friends & family. It makes you feel more at ease with yourself. Relax, breathe and enjoy each experience as it comes.
5} Be your authentic self:
Develop and express your authenticity. Whether it’s your sense of style, or even your manner of speaking, if your preferred way of doing something strays from the rest of the crowd, then be proud of it. Follow your own style. The common thing a lot of people do is copy others actions because it seems like the better route to fit in, but really its the best way to lose yourself in the crowd.
6}Acceptance is key:
Accept that sometimes you are really fun to be with and sometimes you just might want to be left alone. Its ok. Accept what your heart tells and do that. People might raise eyebrows, but as long as you can say “Hey, that’s just me being ME” (without being obnoxious) and leave it at that, people will ultimately respect you for it, and you’ll respect yourself.
7}Believe in You:
When we constantly try to be like someone else, how can we be happy? Be yourself and show the world you’re proud of the way you are! You deserve to be your own best friend, so start trying to figure out how you can do that. If you had to spend the day with yourself, which version of YOU would you spend it with? Work on this best version. Believe in this YOU and use that as your starting point. Lovingly accept yourself as you are now.
Being different, Being YOU is absolutely beautiful!
We are all born with unique DNA, unique finger-prints and unique faces. Why should our personality then be anything else?
“All the knowledge I possess everyone else can acquire, but my heart is all my own.” ~Goethe
Listen to your heart. Its your best guide and confidant. Your heart is unique & one of a kind. It will help you sense how to be the best you at all times, no matter what. Just relax and let your heart do its job.
What about you? How do you remain YOU in this world everyday? Share your tips in the comments below. And, if you liked this article please share it with your friends & family on facebook, twitter, stumble…the sharing buttons are below.
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With Immense Love & Gratitude,
Counseling Psychologist/Spiritual Counselor