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Empowering Your Own Inner Cheerleader
By Adrienne Jurado
After finally completing my M.S. in Psychology, do you know what I’ve learned about human behavior?
We are all amazingly unique, yet surprisingly similar. We have such tremendous potential, and an incredible capacity to learn, to grow, and to love. Not to mention, we’re all just a little bit crazy. Yes, crazy.
Your Inner Dialogue
Think about it. How many different voices do you hear in a given day? No, not out loud. In your head!
Every day, we are engaged in a continuous inner dialogue. We are so used to having this conversation with ourselves, we are often unaware of it. Of course, I can’t say for sure what this dialogue sounds like for you, but for me, it typically goes something like this:
Me: I really need to prepare for this presentation I’m giving tomorrow.
Inner critic: Yeah you do! Your last one was terrible. Your boss is going to be there. You really don’t want to mess this up.
Inner coach: Don’t even worry about that last one, shake it off! Let’s focus on the lessons learned from last time, make some changes, and practice, practice, practice!
Inner ego: Meh, no need to worry about this presentation. You are so good at winging it, you can glance over the slides tomorrow morning before the seminar and still pull it off.
Inner critic: Are you kidding me? You don’t know this stuff. You can barely practice what you preach. How are you going to teach this stuff to anyone else?
This dialogue can become an internal battleground, but it doesn’t have to.
There is another voice in there, one many of us aren’t used to hearing, at least not in our heads. It’s the voice of our inner cheerleader. It sounds something like this:
Inner cheerleader: I know you can do this, and you are going to be great! You already know exactly what you need to do to make that happen.
Your Source of Encouragement and Support
If you’re as fortunate as I am, you’ve been blessed with a real-world cheerleader. Not the kind wearing a skirt and carrying pompoms, but that kind that serves as an unwavering source of encouragement and support.
Thankfully, there has always been a voice telling me I can do anything, and that I deserve it. The voice is nonjudgmental, and seldom carries unasked for advice. It does not say “you should” or “this is how.” Rather, it wraps around me like a warm hug, affirming “I know you will.” Most importantly, the voice never falters. It’s been the steady “rah-rah” on the sideline of my life. For me, that voice belongs to my mom.
She has given me so much in life, but above all her gifts, I treasure her support and encouragement the most. Because of her, I am always able to peer thorough the mists of doubt and see the possibilities that lie beyond. Even when I’m nervous or scared, I am confident that I can get through anything.
The most magical part of her gift is that the voice no longer needs to come from her.
Over the years, hers voice has awakened my own inner cheerleader and showed her how to lead! When the critic starts getting too rowdy or the coach becomes overzealous, she’s not afraid to step in and do her thing!
What about you? Is there someone in your life that has roused your inner cheerleader? If you’re a regular reader here, I think you know that’s exactly what Zeenat does here with her Positive Provocations!
As amazing as it is to have someone to offer you that encouragement and support, it is even more amazing to become that source for yourself!
Empowering Your Own Inner Cheerleader
1. Be your own friend.
I distinctly remember the first time my mom told me, “I really like you.” She’s said “I love you,” a billion times, but this was different. She wasn’t telling me this as a mom to her child, she was saying it as one would say to a friend. She was telling me that she enjoys my company, thinks I am a good person, and that she would be my friend even if she wasn’t my mom. That’s exactly what your inner cheerleader tells you! Your inner critic will try to make you feel silly about it, but don’t let it! Look yourself in the mirror, and let that voice cheer, “I really like you!”
2. Write letters of appreciation to yourself.
Sometimes it’s difficult to hear our inner cheerleader because we’re simply not used to hearing the things she has to say. Think about someone in your life who is a true source of encouragement and support. What words and phrases do they use that you truly appreciate? Practice writing these phrases to yourself, and you will help give your inner cheerleader a voice.
3. Take time for yourself by yourself.
Carve out some alone time to do the things you really enjoy. It may be hiking your favorite trail, knitting a blanket, repairing an old car, or even sitting on your back porch sipping a nice cup of french-press coffee. Regardless of the activity, take some time to focus on your inner dialogue. Yes, I’m suggesting you talk to yourself! Allow your inner cheerleader to take the center stage. Really focus on keeping the spotlight on her for once, rather than letting the coach or another voice push her out of the way.
Basically, you’re already a little crazy. Inner dialogue is part of your everyday life. The good news is, you are in control of that dialogue!
You write the script. Allow your inner cheerleader to play that oh-so-important supporting role.
If this is one of the greatest gifts anyone could ever give to you, why not give it to yourself?
It’s not about pride or arrogance, it’s about authentic self-love and appreciation. It’s about knowing that you can and you will, and that you deserve it, because you do!
About the Author: Adrienne Jurado is a wisdom-seeker on a journey to experience life fully and to encourage others to do the same! Her background in physics and psychology, combined with her military experience and love for the great outdoors, brings a unique perspective to the insights she shares at experiencelifefully.com. Connect with Adrienne on Twitter @adriennejurado.Dearest Readers, I have been away for two weeks, busy with life, which due to some circumstances(all good) and major changes, require my undivided attention. I hope you have enjoyed all the new writers and their words here on Positive Provocations! If any of you have emailed me or contacted me, and I haven’t responded as yet, please know that I will respond to each and every one of you within the coming week. I will be back to my writing, online counseling and blogging schedule this Sunday! See you again then. Till then show Adrienne here some love by sharing this amazing article and leaving a beautiful comment. Love you all
With Immense Love & Gratitude,
Counseling Psychologist/Spiritual Counselor
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