“But how will I know who my soul mate is?”
One of the most significant questions I get asked is the Soul Mate question. In my time and experience as a Psychological and Spiritual Counselor, I have answered countless questions for my patients, who were wondering who their Soul Mates are, and whether they are with the Love of Their Life.
This is perhaps one of my favorite questions and topics, as the exploration of a Soul Mate is truly a spiritual journey – one that I am privileged to share with my readers and patients.
As I connect with each individual, we exchange the energies that influence the life path, the choices in partners, lessons in love, and explore spiritual imbalances that need to be realigned. This is a sacred connection that I treasure and consider as more of a spiritual counseling.
From the time I could read romance novels which was when I was about 13, with raging hormones and innocence, I often thought of a soul mate as only a lover and nothing more. But in time, with learning, and experience my definition of my soul mates has evolved.
Notice I said “Soul-Mates“
Yup, I believe we each have many many soul mates in our lifetime. The problem most of the time, is our sense of expectation of what a soul mate is supposed to be. The normal definition that we are fed with through romance novels truly does not do this beautifully divine connection any justice.
We each have numerous Soul Mates who take on various forms as we walk through our life time. We may re-encounter them as Lovers, Friends, and Family Members and even as Pets and Nature(butterflies, fish, flowers..). The most important factor is the deep emotional bond we share with each Soul and the ensuing life lessons that we will learn while we encounter them.
What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life? … to strengthen each other…to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories.~George Eliot
This joining, this knowing, this heart connection happens in an instant. That kind of bond never breaks. No amount of time, distance or indifference can deteriorate that bond. Infact, in most cases, the distance, the time and the indifference actually deepens the bond of the soul.
How do I know who is my soul mate?
Here are a few signs of a true soul mate:
-a soul mate is someone you feel a supreme level of comfort and security with. That doesn’t mean that there aren’t issues that remain to be ironed out. But, it simply means we know intuitively that we can resolve issues with our soul mate without losing his or her love and respect.
-a soul mate is someone you can be completely YOU with. No veils, no pretenses, no artificial makeup….just raw YOU. The right soul mate infact brings out the best in you, without even trying too hard.
-a soul mate is that one person we are completely safe with. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own heaven.
Finding your soul mate is not that hard to do, cause they usually come before us and present themselves in some form on our life’s path. Whats hard to do though is fall and get hurt in the process of finding that soul mate.
Fall a bit, heal a bit, learn a bit but Never stop looking for love.
So long as you are in the process of loving with all your heart, the search will provide for you answers in the many souls you encounter on the way.
Your spiritual growth is astounding till you actually find that soul mate. Once you find your soul mate, your spiritual growth becomes a million times more astounding.
When the time is right, when its meant to be you will Know your soul mate
Like I admitted in the first part of this Happy Relationships Series of articles- that I’ve had a string of bad relationships. What I know without a doubt, is that those relationships were just not meant to be. The relationships, bonds and heart connections that developed because of many of those bad relationships, STILL stand strong. It just goes to show, that true love and true heart connections cant be severed.
As I look at my life today, I feel blessed to be surrounded by heart connections I so deeply cherish. The many many soul mates of this life time ‘get’ me. I am open to many more soul mates, many more heart connections, many more loves….but the one truest love of mine remains yet untouched and on a completely different level altogether. Thank You to my darling Husband for opening my heart and shining the light In me. I’m so so extremely lucky to have found you and recognized you.
Let me give you one simple example of how I know my husband is my truest soul mate: If I’m deep in thought, he knows what I’m thinking. If I feel a need or desire for something, he makes it appear before me without even asking. If I’m unsure of myself, he makes me feel like the queen of the Universe. He gives me wings and the wind to fly too!
Aint I the luckiest gal :)
But, it took me a long long while to find him, recognize him and appreciate him. It took a lot of heart ache, a lot of pain and lot of healing after which I found him. But the bottom line- I did find my soul mate, because I was completely open to love. He just happened to have the key, to the lock, that was on my heart.
Next week we will dwell into the world of soar relationships and how we can add a dash of happiness and health to them and us. If you want me to write about a particular type of relationship problem, please let me know in the comments below, by emailing or by messaging me on facebook. I’ll be sure to include your answer in the next article.
Please Note: This article is the 3rd part in the series of articles on “Happy Relationships”. From Self-love, to Giving love, to Finding your soul mate, to having happy healthy loving relationships….all will be unraveled in this “Happy Relationships Series” of articles. Be sure to be subscribed(by clicking here) so that you don’t miss any part of this Heart Opening Series.
What are YOUR thoughts on this topic?
What is Your definition of a soul mate? Have you found your soul mate or soul mates as yet? Do share your precious thoughts and stories in the comments below. You know this is kind of my favorite topic, so all the mushy romantic details would really light up this discussion :)
With Immense Love & Gratitude,
Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor
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