Every day when I look at my little girl,

As I think back to my childhood days, I remember being very naughty. I also remember being very rebellious and difficult when I was a teenager. But I also really remember how my mother tried her hardest to make me understand life with love. She stayed up nights when we were ill, cried when we scraped our knees, nursed us when we were down. She was there always. My mother worked very hard, but she still tried her level best to put a hot meal on the table, made sure we said our prayers, kept us clean and most of all happy. Today as a grown woman I can appreciate all this.

WHY?

Cause today I’m a mother too. I always loved kids. I was the neighborhood’s favorite baby sitter growing up. I knew, I wanted to be a mother even when I was 12 years old. But the first time I felt my little one kick me from inside me, it was the most profound moment of my life. There was life inside me…a life that depended on me completely. It was my largest leap of growing up ever. The sense of immediate responsibility makes your mind boggle.

Then when I saw her smile amidst pain and pants, those tiny fingers, those glimmering eyes….ahhh…that was pure bliss for me. But the real test of motherhood comes amid the smiles. When she would cry all night, when she would get a nappy rash or when she would get a fever….oh I would cry with her too-buckets! My own mum would say, “I haven’t seen you cry this much in so many years, the way you are crying for your little one.” Its kind of true.I literally started appreciating my mother and all she did and still does for us.

I feel at all times, my girl is like this little person who is walking around the world with my heart totally attached to her. The attachment, the love, the connection, the bliss is more precious to me than all treasures of all the worlds put together.

Lessons I learned from 6 years of motherhood:

• To Love Unconditionally- I knew ‘love’ long before having a baby. Or atleast I thought I knew love. But when you carry and nurture a baby for nine months inside of you, feeling her every move, hearing her every thought…and then when she comes into the world-seeing her every tear, feeling all her pain and knowing, just knowing …as a mother you will be so completely in love with her divinity. I know what she needs before she needs it, or ever asks for it….I feel her moods change, even before she does….if thats not proof of unconditional love what is? I feel like, I will never be able to love her enough….there is still so much love to give….sometimes even I’m in complete amazement at how much love I can feel for this little angel of mine.
• To Appreciate Purity- Life conditions you to be strong. To be logical. In the process we kind of lose our pure divine states. But becoming a mother, opens you up to so much purity. The purity of the child’s smile, the child’s love, the child’s actions towards you. You cant help but appreciate Purity in its true state…and have some rub off on you too. I always feel like children are Gods little angels, full of love and purity.
• To go Back to Innocence- As we grow up and take responsibility of life and all things in it, our own innocence gets covered up in layers of worldliness. But with a child in the house, there are innocent questions, there are innocent conversations, there are innocent ring-a-ring-a-roses and chook chook trains and doll houses and tea parties…..how can the innocence of it all not take you back to that childlike state of complete innocence. There is a certain charm, a certain divinity that comes forth from pure innocence.
• Acquired Tremendous Patience- Children are little angels, but can be naughty too. Parenting and motherhood requires that we nurture our little ones to the best of our ability….yes, even in the middle of a grocery store “I want chocolate” tantrum. At times like these patience is the only virtue that can keep you sane. I have to admit it took me a while to get this one right. The little trick for me is to be calm myself, and then handle whatever tantrums that come my way. Calm me, calms her faster
• Fine tuned my personality- Here in comes the taking responsibility bit. When you realize your every move, every word is being watched with complete and total attention and even emulated, it jolts the daylights out of you. Especially when the little one picks up on a something not-so-good you might’ve said or done. Its incentive enough to clean up your act. After all we are the role models for our children. Being a positive role model is all I can think of since I have become a mother.

Noone really has the perfect relationship with their mother’s, but whats imperative is that the love and the connection don’t change. Situations change, Love doesn’t.

Today as a grown woman, as a mother, as a human being I try my level best to live a conscious life. But even then, I make mistakes. I fall. And that’s ok. I learn, I understand and move ahead with the lessons I learned along the way. Its because of this reason and this reason only, I can let go of the little imperfections of my mother. Infact, thats what makes her more interesting to me today. Today she is my best friend and even my BFF We talk about everything, share everything. Yes, she still lectures me, corrects me, takes my case and we do disagree on so many things……but like I said earlier, the love hasn’t changed. I know she means well and says, and does everything out of love. I might not understand those reasons sometimes…but that doesn’t affect our relationship. After-all I’m no perfect little daughter either na We all have our minor imperfections.

Love does truly Conquer all!

Today on this precious day full of love I salute the spirit of every Mother. The spirit of every Child that teaches the mother new lessons everyday and vice versa.

What are YOUR thoughts on Mother’s Day? What are the lessons you have learned from motherhood or parenthood? How have these lessons changed you? Do share your wondrous thoughts in the comments below and if you liked this article/blog, share it on facebook, twitter…and better still Send it to your Mother with a note saying “I love you”

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY to each and every one of you!!!

Shower some love today…and everyday

With Immense Love & Gratitude,
~Zeenat~
Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor
Motivational Speaker/Naturopath
Holistic Healer/Writer

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Having traveled extensively to many countries and meeting many many souls, I have noticed one common negative trait in almost 95% of people(for sometime even me!). What is this negative trait?

Here it is: We do good(awesome!), but only because we feel like we are going to get something back in return(not so awesome!). Doing good for personal gain is no good at all.

As an occupational hazard, I tend to analyze everything. So, when someone I know made a huge donation to a charity dear to my heart I was mighty pleased ofcourse….up until this ‘someone’ started talking to press and media about the huge donation they had made. Now I know these people…I know they started out donating money to this charity out of the goodness of their heart. But, almost unconsciously, when that goodness of heart turned into self promotion and self gain is hard to pin point.

Negative or Positive Mental Conditioning

I believe it all starts with our mental conditioning. We have been trained since childhood to be a certain way or do a certain act to please someone else. As children we were told “If you want your teacher to like you, be on your best behavior ”, “If you do well is your exams, you will get a new toy.” ….We have been brought up to believe that all good acts we do deserve a gift or remuneration of some sort. While I have nothing against positive reinforcement, we must realize that there is a very fine line between ‘positive reinforcement’ and ‘promoting personal gain’.

What if we were brought up to believe that every good act we do was good for our heart, for our mind and our soul? What is we were brought up to believe that all good acts we do bring immense joy to us and to the person we are doing it for?

Since I have realized this trait was present in me too, I have kept myself in check by asking myself a simple question before I do any GOOD act for anyone. I ask myself “What am I expecting in return?” If a bit of personal gain comes up, I correct that thinking by telling myself  ”I do all GOOD acts only for JOY.”

With practice we can let go of the negative ‘personal gain’ mindset and just DO good for the joy of it. What a wonderful world that would be

Here are 12 ways to Just DO Good for the Joy of it:

1. Lend your shoulder to someone who needs it without judging their story.
2. Donate a small amount to a charity anonymously.
3. Teach someone something they need to learn without making them feel like you know best and they don’t.
4. Solve someones problem without rubbing it in their face at anytime in the present or future.
5. Appreciate someone even though you know they have never been kind to you.
6. Tell someone you believe in them without really expecting the same support back.
7. Alter or change your plans for someone you love, without ever expecting the same from them.
8. Ask someone, “Can I do something for you today?”…then do it and let it go.
9. Allow someone else to teach you a thing a two, even though you might be closed minded about it.
10. Forgive someone who has wronged you, not because you are proving to be better than them, but because you have genuine compassion for them.
11. Leave an appreciative comment/line in someones inbox. Not because you want to show them you are so nice, but because you genuinely care.
12. ………………………this one is for you. Share one way you can just do good for the joy of it in the comments below. Lets learn from each other.

Human tendency dictates that we will make mistakes and we will get on the negative mindset wagon once in a while. And that is ok. The important thing is we started off with good intention hence when this negative mindset sets in, we can make an effort to change it. It gets easier with practice…I promise. I’m living proof of it.

Lets just DO GOOD and teach our children to DO Good too, cause that’s how we are laying the foundation for a truly positive and loving world.

What are your thoughts on this topic? Share your thoughts and your own ways to DO GOOD with me in the comments below. I love learning from your wisdom!

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With Immense Love & Gratitude,
~Zeenat~
Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor
Motivational Speaker/Naturopath
Holistic Healer/Writer

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“Kind words do not cost much….Yet they accomplish much.” ~ Blaise Pascal

Whether we like it or not Social Media is here and SO in your face, that its pretty hard to ignore it. I agree it might not be for everyone, but its here and its literally everywhere.

When I started writing this post it started on my wordpress app on my phone while stuck in traffic. I however continued to finish this post on my laptop later on. If someone whould’ve told me 5 years back that I would be so uber techie I would have surely had a hearty laugh…cause at that time all the app and techie jargon was for geeks and nerds(who I love by the way…psst married to one ).

Today Facebook, twitter, Google+, Linkedin etc are part of our everyday lives. We connect with friends, we stay upto date on current events, we get latest product news, latest book and movie releases are instantly downloadable….all through these social networks. And in many many cases, while in the eye of the storm, tweets and facebook status updates have saved lives.

The world today is truly a global village.

Among all the positives of Social Networking…there are negatives too. While there are ‘not so emotionally balanced people’ who try to take advantage of innocence there are also some ‘emotionally balanced’ people who don’t spare language and feelings while voicing opinions online. While its a free world and everyone can say whatever they want, can’t it be said with a little more politeness?

I have been on these social networks for more than four years now. During this time I have devised ways to BE a Positive Social networking Butterfly By that I mean to be a positively happy social networker rather than a ranting, constantly complaining whiny kind….cause really there are way too many whiny ones out there.

How to be a Positive Social Networking Butterfly

1) BE a friend, Have a friend: 

Making friends has never been easier than it is right now, mainly thanks to social networking sites. Just a few decades ago it was pretty tough to connect with people, unless you were the overly outgoing type able to make conversation with anyone at a party. The rise of mobile phones helped change this, connecting people in a new way, but then social networks sprang up and the whole idea of friendship changed once more and for ever. It’s entirely possible to have hundreds of friends on Facebook. They may not be friends you know on a personal level and spend time with in the real world on a weekly basis. But they’re friends nevertheless. There are several people I consider friends who I have never met – indeed, who I do intent to meet one day – but that doesn’t lessen the connection we have thanks to social networks.

Being a Positive Social Networking butterfly means making new friends and keeping them. Infact I have reconnected with so many old school friends through social networks. I love seeing their families grow with new births and snippets of anniversary celebrations.

2) Have an Empathetic Heart: 

We each spend a little too long talking about ourselves on social networking sites. Which is perfectly natural. We’re sharing our lives – the ups and downs, the twists and turns – with people we think will care. They generally do care, and will tell you so. They will listen to what you have to say, and help you deal with any problems you may be facing. If this isn’t the case then you may want to find new friends. The point is that by all of us sharing our experiences, both good and bad, on social networking sites, we’re able to empathize with each other. A friend may have gone through a similar problem you are now going through, and they will be able to inform you how they got through it. You’ll also be able to read for yourself how they came out of the situation, that this issue didn’t derail them, and that they’re perhaps better for the experience.

Being a Positive Social Networking Butterfly means giving your helpful input and lending your experience positively. Social networking sites can act as a kind of group therapy session. You can be a catalyst in someones healing by simply being empathetic.

3) Communicate freely and simply: 

Our time is being stretched thinner and thinner by work and family commitments, but social networking sites offer a chance to communicate in a speedy and efficient manner. Writing an update for Twitter takes all of 20 seconds, and with cross-posting over other social networks switched on, that update reaches everyone you want it to reach (and probably more besides) in an instant.

Being a Positive Social Networking butterfly means using this mode of communication to spread happiness and good vibes. It means congratulating friends when they get engaged, married, have a baby, have a birthday etc….no matter where you are geographically located. You can spread happy positive vibes right from your own little computer.

4) Be the builder of Great relationships: 

It is true that social networking sites can lead to the breaking up of relationships. But there is another side to the tale, which is that people are moving onto other, perhaps better, relationships at the same time. Social networks can put you (back) in touch with those you have lots in common with, and that common ground is often the starting point for long-lasting relationships.

Being a Positive Social Networking Butterfly means making an effort to foster friendships and create long and lasting bonds. I have found soul sisters on my Social Networking sites…which is such an uplifting feeling. When we make the effort to create more meaningful relationships, we are indeed connecting on a heart level. When hearts are connected  only love is spread.

5) Be a Like minded Sharer: 

As I have said earlier, social networking sites can help you find people you share interests with. Facebook, for example, asks you to list who and what you are into right from the start, meaning common ground with others is much easier to find. On Twitter you will follow those who have something to say that you’re interested in, making connections with like-minded individuals much easier than is sometimes possible offline. This does require sharing information, and giving up a certain amount of privacy in order to do so. Which is enough for some people to reject social networking outright. Keeping key personal information private(address&phone number) is necessary, but likes and dislikes, interests and obsessions, thought and views, isn’t. And actually contributes to an open, highly communicative society.

Being a Positive Social networking Butterfly means you belong and fit in simply because you are ‘in network’ with like minded people who share with you similar interests. To be a happy and positive sharer adds icing to the fun Social Networking cake. Yes, this does mean you open up a little bit…but isn’t that awesome for your self confidence?!

In Conclusion – Only Kindness Matters!

I love how just a kind line from an old friend can bring a smile to my face.

Almost every week I make an effort to write a small 3 line message to the lovely friends on my social networks. In the private note I tell them how their being there has helped me and how much I appreciate them. This is my personal Positive Social Networking Butterfly habit. Make it yours I know from experience how satisfying this practice can be.

There is far too much negativity around us everyday…if we can make Social Networking about spreading positive vibes and good cheer it can be another great step in healing the world as we know it.

Be a Positive Social Networking Butterfly and watch how this Social Networking can bring about major positive changes IN you.

psst..please stay away from the stuff bashing kinda negative posts. They are not productive nor positive to indulge your good energy into.

Now its YOUR turn…How do you use social networking sites? Do have any positive experiences to share regarding your interactions on these social sites? How do you keep things positive in your communications daily? I would love to hear your thoughts..please share them in the comment below. 

With Immense Love & Gratitude,
~Zeenat~
Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor
Motivational Speaker/Naturopath
Holistic Healer/Writer

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“The pursuit, even of the best things, ought to be calm and tranquil.” ~ Marcus Tullius Cicero

As I stood in my little kitchen preparing dinner for my family, it suddenly dawned on me “Four Years! Its been four years. I have been blogging for so long. wow!” Then the mind completely on autopilot goes to where it all began.

My little girl had just turned two and was a joyous handful(still is!). I was slowly getting back to work finding the balancing act of work and home very overwhelming…when a dear friend suggested starting a blog. “But why?” I asked her. And she immediately responded “The world needs what only YOU have.” This friend was a blogger/writer/corporate diva. I had counseled her out of a sticky emotional situation and thought she is just flattering me. Four years back blogging was next to invisible in India and was just kind of picking up in some other countries. I took it on as a silly experiment. I thoughts to myself, “Alright so I will start a blog. Whats the worst that can happen? Noone will read it…but then hey I already expect that.”

Ha! The jokes on me now Cause not only did I get a good response to the actual writing(which I never thought I had IN me) I was growing spiritually and learning so much in the process of it all.

Inhaling Calm, Exhaling Love

The one thing I heard all my life from all those near and dear to me…”You are SO patient.” While I might have developed patience in the experiences of life, by no means was I of calm mind.

Starting this blog, writing every line in every blog post here, every interaction, each and every soul connection, every tweet, retweet, comment, like, share, email and above all the love that overflowed my heart over these past four years have instilled in me a Calm. A calm that comes when right in between that oh so deep meditative state.

So you see, in all its reality, I am Inhaling Calm and Exhaling love because this blog made it possible. Your presence made it possible. I am constantly amazed and mesmerized by the love I feel in this blogging art form.

BLISSFULLY POSITIVE

Every year this month I release an Ebook which I offer free to every Email Subscriber. This year will be a bit different. This year I am writing a book for my little Positive Provocations heaven and the world too! Yes, “Blissfully Positive” is where my energies are being spent these days. There are still three ebooks which will forever remain free to every subscriber here, but now as I exhale love some more, I feel like I need to spread my wings. God willing, the book will be ready for release my July/August this year. You will ofcourse get the first preference.

My Simple Mission

My mission with this blog and with my life in general is to “To ease human suffering through Positivity, Love and Happiness“. I want to be remembered as a person who shed light & made a positive impact on the lives of others. This might well be my legacy.

ONLINE COUNSELING: Over the past few months I have also relaunched my Online Counseling service. I offer online counseling by email, chat and skype. If I could help you heal and become more positive…it would be my honor and privilege. This is my passion, my purpose and my calling afterall

As I head into another year of blogging/helping/healing … and exhaling love, I feel nostalgic. I love how I was so excited when I started this little experiment and now I am happy and excited that this experiment is my purpose, my calling. I always saw myself having a private healing practice. But I had no idea this blog would make it a world WIDE Private healing practice.  We create our very own limits. My choice was to flow with life and not limit myself and that created limitless possibilities for me.

Love & Gratitude

I thank my Diva Blogger friend for nudging me into this gorgeous art form. I know she isn’t blogging anymore cause she is knee deep in diapers and baby cuteness, but you know who you are and I am forever grateful.

I would like to take this opportunity to also thank YOU the reader for making me feel oh so special these four years. I will continue to be ever grateful to every soul that lands on this Positive Little Heaven.

This post also marks 300+ articles/posts on Positive Provocations! Yippee!

If you were in front of me, you would see me *bowing* in eternal gratitude to you. But since you cant see it…I hope  you can feel my eternal gratitude and love for you with this *BOW*…..to many more positive healing words and countless healed hearts.

In the next post: All about Positive Social networking! Cause we all love our social media don’t we!?

With Immense Love & Gratitude,
~Zeenat~
Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor
Motivational Speaker/Naturopath
Holistic Healer/Writer

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“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”

Almost always when a relationship ends, one person tends to shed it faster, while the other wades through the pain and grief of parting.

Your response to this parting depends on your personality type and state of dependence on your partner. It can also be impacted by the manner in which the parting happened. Did one unexpectedly walk out of the relationship while the other was unprepared? Or, was it a slow and helpless falling out of love on both sides? Did one cheat or hurt the other in any way? Was there respect in the relationship?

If the break up is for the right reasons it helps. If two partners decide to break off to move on to more positive and fulfilling stuff, the parting is likely to be amicable. However, if one partner walks out seeking to hurt or punish the other, the parting and subsequent interaction is bound to be acrimonious and painful for both.

In order to have a peaceful after, it’s important to weed out the negativity along with the relationship.

For the sake of the relationship and earlier shared love, it is an absolutely necessity on the break-up pair to ensure the impact on the other is minimal. Some people find it helps to have a Transition Relationship around the time of a break up. Almost always in a break up, one person has found someone else to love, while the other is dwelling under disbelief and grief.

Whoever is hurt the most may attract such a temporary relationship. It is commonly looked upon as a “relationship on the rebound.” However, I prefer to look upon a transition affair as ahelpful hand Destiny extends to get us through a difficult period. And since such help is needed for just a while, these relationships, by their very nature, are short lasting.

In the midst of the grief the most critical thing to remember is that time heals all.

A time will come when the tears dry up, the heartache stops and what remains is a regret for what could have been. Unless of course you have reason not to let go that last link with the relationship.

You will move on and stops grieving, no matter how sharp and unnerving the parting. Knowing this as a reality in the middle of your tragedy helps. And what helps more than anything else is if both partners accord each other due respect and make an effort to help make the parting easier.

You cannot predict or dictate how a relationship ends.

But you can certainly choose to let go of it with dignity. For this, it is important to first accept that the relationship has actually ended. The support of friends and family is something that should be actively sought to help tide over the worst of the crisis.

When a relationship is on the breaking point, tempers can be mercurial; try and avoid getting into fights, and make some allowances for the other partner’s irrational words and actions; it will help you retain your sanity.

Although you might have moved into a new relationship, try not  to flaunt it in front of your ex or mutual friends; it can hurt like nothing else. Try and give your relationship a closure. It is important to talk as well as to listen, to discuss and together try to understand rationally and without emotion what went wrong. Also, inject a positive note by thinking of all the things you can do once you are free. Plan your days in a manner that doesn’t allow you time for brooding.

Staying away from reminders of happy times spent with your ex is a good idea, at least for a while. Those memories will bring a smile later, currently they will only make you miserable. Do not try to remain friends at least not at this stage it’s unnatural when you are hurting and can perhaps come later.

When handled carefully on both sides, a break-up though still painful, can at least cease to be a lifelong trauma. And perhaps when you look back in the autumn of life, it can just be a sweet sorrow. .

Now its your turn: Have you positively handled your past breakups? Do you have anymore tips to handle a break up positively? Please share in the comments. 

Please Note: I shared this post 3 years back…but due to the countless, current emails I got about this very topic, I have re-posted it here so that all those who are going through a bad time can take one step towards happiness and positivity. 

With Immense Love & Gratitude,
~Zeenat~
Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor
Motivational Speaker/Naturopath
Holistic Healer/Writer

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“I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition.” ~ Martha Washington

What is your definition of happiness? Do you think you need to be successful to be happy?

I am sure you’ve caught yourself a time or two saying things like, “I’ll be happy when I lose 5 kgs,” or “I’ll be happy when I find Mr./Mrs. Right,” or “I’ll be happy when I have my dream home,” or “I’ll be happy when my husband/wife changes his/her attitude.”

It does not really work like that. Does it!?!?

In my experience I have come to realize that, success follows happiness. Not the other way around. When we really feel happy things in our life begin to take a positive turn.

Just think about it – Is it easier to attract Mr./Mrs. Right with a look of sadness and doom on your face, or with a cheerful smile and bright outlook on life? Is it easier to live healthy and exercise when you’re miserable or when you’re feeling good?  Will you ever be able to afford that dream home when you’re so negative you can’t attract abundance? And as far as the husband/wife goes … is it possible that when you’re lighter and happier, people around you will seem easier to deal with and more fun to be around?

hmmm….lots to think about eh Dont worry.

Try something different. Make the decision to be happy NOW – you may very well find that you attract all that you want by first becoming happy, by simply deciding to do so.

Here are 15 tips you can incorporate in your life today that will free you and lead you to happiness – yes, right now!

15 Positive Tips to Be Happy right NOW!

1. Please accept yourself and love yourself – unconditionally. Practice extreme self-care and set healthy boundaries. Self-love is not selfish.

2. Just Stop resurfacing and rethinking the past. Don’t invest your energy in things you can’t go back and redo. Make peace with it. Get out of the past and into your life.

3. Do not make the mistake of comparing your life to others. Don’t try to walk in their shoes – you have no clue what their life’s journey is all about. Keep your feet in your own shoes and follow your own path. Discover your own life’s purpose.

4. Oh please oh please, don’t waste your precious time and energy on idle gossip.

5. Take a really good look around you. Who are you spending time with? Are they draining your energy? Clear out your heart space and physical space to make room for positive, like-minded people who will contribute to your life – not take away from it.

6. Laugh a lot, smile a lot and lighten up. Don’t take yourself so seriously. Life is more fun when we greet it with a smile.

7. Let go of the “what if’s”. Please do not bother rehearsing the future with a whole lot of “what if’s” – it never turns out like you rehearsed it – and then you have wasted every minute you were caught up in the worry of it….time you could have spent more positively.

8. Embrace your dreams and dream Big! Even while you’re awake – dream big! Working towards that dream will reignite your passion and life purpose.

9. You need to realize that there is only one person responsible for your happiness – and that person is YOU. Noone can make you feel sad or down unless YOU let them.

10. Know without a doubt that everything happens FOR you – not TO you. Problems are opportunities for personal and spiritual growth. Embrace your life. All of it.

11. Being right is not a necessity. You don’t always have to be right. It’s perfectly fine to agree to disagree. Its freeing.

12. Firmly practice mindfulness – in everything you do. Be IN the moment you are IN and not somewhere else.

13. Considerably reduce your expectations and change your perceptions. Don’t try to change things you can’t control.

14. You don’t have to have what everybody else has. Don’t long for what everybody else has. Its boring really. Know that you have everything you need and carve your own path. Envy is a wasted emotion.

15. Say NO to hatred and revenge. Life is too short to waste on these negative emotions. It’s like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. It will eat you up inside. Forgive. Then Drop it…let it go like a balloon in the sky forever.

Just think a little, imagine a little… what your life would be like if you made these choices?

What would positively change?

How would your life improve?

The bigger and more important question you need to ask yourself is…..

Do you have the courage to give it a try?

Come on…I know you have it IN you

Now its YOUR turn! Share your own Positive Tips in the comments below and lets all get HAPPY together right now! yay!!

With Immense Love & Gratitude,
~Zeenat~
Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor
Motivational Speaker/Naturopath
Holistic Healer/Writer

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“We have to heal our wounded world. The chaos, despair, and senseless destruction we see today are a result of the alienation that people feel from each other and their environment.”

When it comes to inner healing, I often think I have completely healed. Then sometimes a trigger comes along, and I’m reminded of the old pain. But is this trigger reminding me of the pain or is it teaching me something about myself? I believe our past pains sometimes come into our today to teach us and to warn us of the impending pain incase we move forward and do the very same thing again. And being positive and happy doesn’t mean we haven’t had pain in our lives. It simply means that even though we have gone through so much pain, we still choose to be happy and positive. That’s what truly paves the way for our inner healing.

Every person we encounter in this big beautiful world has his/her own past pains. Each soul has a story of triumph inside it.

Now imagine this, that during your really painful times, you had a friend to talk to, you had a shoulder to cry on, you had a support system to help you cope. Did you have that or rather do you have that now? Wouldn’t that have felt great? Wouldn’t that have helped you heal and bounce back faster?

To understand that we each are going through or have gone through a hard time humbles us. It makes us realize that we are not alone.

“Healing yourself is connected with healing others.” – Yoko Ono

The simplest way to keep healing your heart and soul is to help others heal too….How??

Here are five really simple heart centered ways to positively heal everyone you meet. You have the power to make a lasting healing impression on every soul you meet…..mind blowing when you think about it…right?

5 heart-centered ways to positively heal everyone you meet(and get self-healed too!):

1. Smile from the heart: The first pleasant encounter you have with a stranger almost always begins with a smile. Many a times we give that fake smile…not really healing is it? However bad your mood maybe, when you go out and flash that beautiful smile, not only do you feel good, but the receiver of your smile feels mighty special too. It might be the only happy that person has seen all day….and You were the source of it. How amazing is that? Ok, now please don’t go around creepy smiling people A nice one from the heart should do it.
2. Be genuinely concerned: Other than the strangers we meet on a daily basis, there are many friends, relatives and acquaintance we share energy with daily too. Often our reaction to them is far more unconcerned than we would have for a stranger. Is it because they have been unpleasant with us or is it cause they have hurt you in the past? If that’s the case, think about how he/she is also trying to deal with their life and all the choices they have made. Put yourself in their shoes and be genuinely concerned about whats going on in their lives. In this way, not only are you healing your own relationship with them, but you are also helping them to become better human(e) beings. Some might be easier to heal than others…but you got to try. The feeling of letting all your inhibitions go and just genuinely being there for another human being is priceless.
3. Be dependable: We think we are highly independent and self sufficient…but in reality we are completely dependent and don’t even realize it. Be it our dependency on the grocery store clerk or the taxi/cab driver who took us to our destination. We are dependent. A society and the world works on inter-dependency. Just like the farmer is dependent on the rains for his crops to grow, we are dependent on that crop to come to stores so that we can buy it. But how dependable are you? Can anyone depend on you? Are you a source of solace and comfort to anyone in your life? Increase this inter-dependability network everyday. The more dependable you become, the more you can depend on someone to be there for you. By acknowledging this healthy inter-dependent relationship we have with every soul we encounter, we are paving the way for emotional healing, calmness and Oneness. For when you know you have support you can truly do anything!
4. Be and DO Kind: I know we have all been told or heard about kindness and how good it feels. Although we all know this magic pill to healing, how many of us actually use it in our daily lives? Yes, everyday….not just once a month or when we attend a charity event..everyday, come what may! How many of us can look in the mirror everyday and say “I have been kind today.”? When I talk of kindness, I talk of lending a helping hand to a stranger with a wailing baby at the grocery store or when you see an upset individual you make an effort to ask “How are you today? Can I help you with anything?”. You DO kind not just Be kind. We are all kind at heart. That’s the way God made us. But how many of us DO kind is what can truly heal this world of its sadness. Yes, one soul at a time…If your kindness can heal one soul, that in-turn leads to the healing of every soul he/she meets and the kindness ripple effect carries on and on….It all started with YOU. All those kind healing vibes you created, come back ten folds. So go on DO kind and heal.
5. Be Love like Worlds End: What goes around comes around, on this we all agree. The thing everyone wants to come around is love. Everyone wants to know, “How can I be loved?” Perhaps, though, a better question to ask is, “How can I be love”? You BE love by giving love…simple and powerful. But, give love like the world is coming to an end at the end of this very day. Like there is no tomorrow. If you had just TODAY….how much love would you then give. You don’t love conditionally, rather you love unconditionally. When everyday of your life is spent giving Love unconditionally, you are blessed with a life full of love. And that love you are giving out is healing the world. With all the mayhem that’s surrounding us these days, Being Love seems like the only truest medicine to it.

We are each born healers. We just need to realize our true potential. Its not difficult to heal the world if we each play our part.

Just look out the window or glance at a busy street…If every soul lived everyday in the above heart-centered way, nothing is impossible!  But it all starts with ONE and that One is YOU….

What are YOUR thoughts on this topic? Do you have any other positively healing ways to share? Please share your thoughts and wisdom in the comments below. I’d love to learn from your experience. 

With Immense Love & Gratitude,
~Zeenat~
Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor
Motivational Speaker/Naturopath
Holistic Healer/Writer

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Is this the way to live? Are you truly ALIVE?

Hence, when I started writing this article, I had the many people in mind who still are looking for the meaning. Looking for the answer to the age old question of “why am I here?”. This has helped me look at some aspects of my life too. Where I need to infuse more passion and where I need to dream and BE more. What I have noticed is that whatever you do, whatever your goals, your desires…there are only 3 P’s we all require to reach them, to be completely Happy & Successful.

The 3 P’s of Happiness and Success:

~PRACTICE~

“Practice means to perform, over and over again in the face of all obstacles, some act of vision, of faith, of desire. Practice is a means of inviting the perfection desired.” Martha Graham
If you have a passion for something but still aren’t good at it, its ok. Practice practice practice. If there is a habit you want to give up, that too requires practice, a practice to control self.
“We learn by practice. Whether it means to learn to dance by practicing dancing or to learn to live by practicing living, the principles are the same. One becomes in some area an athlete of God.” Martha Graham

~PATIENCE~

“With time and patience the mulberry leaf becomes a silk gown.” Chinese Proverb
In this quick fix, fast forward world we often forget that the things that are most precious to us have come to us after a lot of time and patience. Be it having a baby, before which a mother has to carry it to term 9 months. Ask an expecting mother how long that 9 months seems to her. But she keeps her thoughts positive and dreams of how her life will be with that bundle of joy in her arms. Looking ahead, dreaming good dreams, keeping your thoughts positive all helps in developing patience.
“Knowing trees, I understand the meaning of patience. Knowing grass, I can appreciate persistence.” Hal Borland

~PERSISTENCE~

“A little more persistence, a little more effort, and what seemed hopeless failure may turn to glorious success.” Elbert Hubbard
When things don’t go according to plan, according to our expectations we get upset, agitated and give up. Look around you…how many projects have you started and not finished? How many ideas have you thought of that haven’t seen the light of day? Its these ideas, these sudden bursts of thoughts that hold the key to your uniqueness, your passion…YOU! We all need to be more persistent towards our-selves, towards our ideas our thoughts. Take out 2 minutes in a  day to scan your life and yourself- Bring out all those ideas, those thoughts and let them breathe. You will Breathe such a sigh of happiness when you do. Follow through those ideas to the very end. Who knows this idea this thought is what will MAKE you..
“Energy and persistence conquer all things.” Benjamin Franklin

To me success is not the end result, its the learning journey, its the moments where I fail and pick myself up. Its the failures that teach me more about myself. Getting up after a fall and standing tall…that is true success to me. The kind of success that gives me happiness and makes me feel like a conqueror- a conqueror of my Self.~

Its my sincere hope and prayer that all that I share here on this blog helps you. If there are any topics you want me to write about do let me know.

What about you? Do you have any particular ways or tips for success and happiness? What is Your definition of success? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.

With Immense Love & Gratitude,
~Zeenat~
Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor
Motivational Speaker/Naturopath
Holistic Healer/Writer

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“Everyone has inside of her a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is!” – Anne Frank.

Women of the world…the daughters, the mothers, the aunts, the wives, the grandmothers, the sisters, the soul sisters, the ultimate nurturers..get UP and embrace your inner awesomeness! It’s time to empower yourselves!

Empowered is a word that gets said way too much, even though many people do not understand exactly what it means. Women, often want to be known as empowered. The idea of being an empowered woman implies that you are in control of your life. There is a bit of feminism in this, but truly many women want to feel that they are empowered and in control of their lives. The question is how do you get there? What makes an empowered woman? If these are the questions that you have been asking yourself, then you will want to keep reading.

Every woman has the ability to take charge of her life with grace, strength, and confidence—including you. That’s right, the power to be happy and fulfilled lies in your own hands. So why not live the life of your dreams? It may be easier than you think.

Here are some simple positive tips to get you started …..

8 Tips on How to Become a Positively Empowered Woman

1) Know Yourself: 

An empowered woman knows who she is. Many women today feel as though they have lost themselves. Maybe they gave too much in a relationship that didn’t work out. Maybe they put too much time into work and not enough time into themselves. Maybe they feel lost in the challenges of motherhood. Regardless, many women need to spend some time getting to know themselves. Knowing yourself goes way beyond what you do or who you are. Knowing yourself means understanding your own strengths and weaknesses. Do you work best by yourself or on a team? Do you communicate well? Are you organized? Are you a leader? These are questions that the empowered woman knows the answers to, because the empowered woman understands who she is as a person.

2) Keep Learning:

Never ever stop learning. Freeing and expanding your mind is one of the most imperative step toward empowering yourself, so educate yourself in any way you can. Even if you don’t have a formal education there are still plenty of ways to increase your knowledge on your own. Taking the initiative to teach yourself something new is one of the most empowering things you can do. Read books, go to the library or a bookstore, join a book club, or do research on the Internet. Why not sign up for a class that interests you? It can be as simple as knitting or as complex as physics. The point is to explore an area you have never explored before. Look for weekend workshops in your newspaper or drop by your local institutes to see what classes they have to offer. And if you are a busy mom with no time to take a class, check out an educational book from the library and read a few pages before bed each night. A smart woman is an empowered woman. Noone dare mess with thee

3) Know What YOU Want:

An empowered woman knows what she wants. This means that she has goals and dreams for her life. They may or may not include marriage, a family, or rising up the career ladder. Regardless of what the goals are, the empowered woman knows what she wants out of life. This enables her to act in ways that will move her closer to these goals. If she has a goal of getting married, then she will date with that goal in mind. If she has a goal of advancing in her career, then she will work with the idea of earning an eventual promotion. No matter what the goals are, having them clearly mentally defined enables the empowered woman to go after what she wants. Are you going after what you want?

4) Be Independent: 

When was the last time you left your house without your cell phone? Have you ever gone to a restaurant and had dinner all alone with just your awesome self for company? Being comfortable with who you are, and knowing that you are strong enough to face any situation on your own, is an empowering feeling. It doesn’t matter whether you have a partner or not. Enjoying YOU time energizes your spirit in countless ways. Don’t let not having a partner or special someone to share things with stop you from doing everything you want to do. Treat yourself to a movie or a weekend getaway for one. Make it a goal to try something new that you wouldn’t normally do alone. While you’re out there living it up you’ll be building confidence and increasing your chances of knowing yourself better.

5) Make Connections:

An empowered woman makes deep connections, both personal and professional. This means that she knows people, but it goes deeper than that. The empowered woman has a network of people that she has relationships with and can count on. They may be business relationships or personal ones, but she knows that she can count on these people. The business relationships may be people she can count on to help with a project or give honest feedback. The personal relationships may be friends that she can rely on when she needs them. The connections that an empowered woman makes are with people whom she can help and who can inturn help her to become a better person.

6) Give Back:

When you help others, you help yourself. Give back to the community in any way you can and you will be rewarded in more ways than one. Try volunteering one day a week for a program you really believe in. Find a charity you want to support, help with events around the holidays, or organize your own community program. Volunteering is not the only way to get involved with your community. Watching your neighbor’s kids or helping a friend in need is just as big a contribution. Giving back does not have to be a grand gesture. It’s as simple as saying good morning and holding the door for someone. Open your heart to others and they will open theirs to you. What a positively empowering act..right!

7) Dream Big:  

Don’t be afraid to go after your dreams. No dream is too big or unobtainable. An empowered woman knows that she can accomplish anything she sets out to do, it is simply a matter of perseverance, believing in yourself, and following your heart. If you truly believe in your dreams you can make them happen. But in order to do this you must try. Consider making a vision board to illustrate and remind yourself of all the goals you would like to accomplish. Listen to your heart. It was put there to empower you.

8) Empower Others:

An empowered woman empowers others. This is maybe the most difficult but most rewarding of all. An empowered woman can encourage other women to strive for what they want. She doesn’t pull people down but instead helps them to discover their full potential. This enables her to contribute positively to the lives of other women that she knows.

Happy Women’s Day darlings! Have a beautilicious day full of glitter and sparkle.

p.s. I apologize for being away from the blog these past few weeks. I was stuck with some passport renewals. Now that all that is in order, I’m going to be back to posting weekly and creating fun surprises behind the scenes Stay tuned my lovelies

Tell me what YOU are going to do for Woman’s day? Think about how you’re going to become a positively empowered being. And, If you are a man … love and honor the women in your life. 

With Immense Love & Gratitude,
~Zeenat~
Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor
Motivational Speaker/Naturopath
Holistic Healer/Writer

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“This is a wonderful day. And I have never seen this one ever before.” — Maya Angelou

What if everyday of your life could be unique and wonderful?

I believe we all have the ability to create and enjoy a beautiful, satisfying and wonderful day….everyday!

You can start, by making small changes in your daily life.

Small Changes for Big Wonder

Sit down on your bed, just before going to sleep, and tell yourself that you will wake up tomorrow one hour earlier than usual. Repeat a few affirmations, so that your mind accepts this idea. Think for a while about the benefits you will gain by waking and getting up earlier, and about the things you can do in this extra hour.

Set your alarm clock to the appointed hour, and lie down on your bed. While in bed, watch the thoughts that pop up into your mind, but try to do so detachedly and without any tension. Just watch them calmly, and in a relaxed manner, until you fall asleep.

When the alarm clock rings in the morning, get up immediately, with a smile on your face.

Don’t give in to the desire to stay some more minutes in bed. Don’t listen to your mind, which will probably persuade you to stay in bed a little longer, because it is too early to get up.

Get up, wash, change your clothes, and sit down for prayer/meditation for about fifteen minutes, using any prayer/meditation technique that you know. If you do not know how to pray/meditate, just sit down and visualize some pleasurable and happy events from the past.

It is not enough just to wake up early. Often, after waking up, we do not get out of bed, but stay for some more minutes, and then fall asleep again. You have to persuade yourself to get out of bed immediately after you wake up.

It is pleasant to cuddle under the blankets, especially on a cold morning, but on this special day you need to get out of bed immediately. The feeling of pleasure and power you gain by getting immediately is greater than the pleasure of staying in bed.

I am not going to describe how to handle each and every action and situation during the day, as every individual has a different life and schedule. However, I am going to give some general examples and hints to help you design your own day.

Examples of How to design, create and enjoy a wonderful day…Everyday

1) Waking up earlier, gives you extra time in the morning. So why not enjoy a nourishing and tasty breakfast? Prepare something you love, something that you usually do not have the time to prepare in the morning. You have got the time today.

2) Endeavor to be aware of what you are doing throughout the day. When you eat, for example, pay attention to your food, and don’t read the newspaper or watch the television at the same time. If you do so, you will enjoy your food much more. In the same way, try to focus your attention on your other activities. Concentrating on what you are doing helps you do it better and more efficiently.

3) Remember to smile more often during the day. It is important that the smile is not an artificial one, but that it comes from inside you. Smiling makes you and other people feel happier.

4) Expect the best and do your best.

5) Be patient and tolerant toward others.

6) Be Kind: While driving your car, decide to be kind and tolerant of the other drivers. Stop at street crossings to let the pedestrians cross the street. Be courteous and considerate on the road. This behavior will make you, and the other drivers and pedestrians feel good. As a consequence, they too will be kind to other drivers and pedestrians, at least for a little while.

7) Smile: A good morning with a smile has a great influence on everyone. Greet the people who work with you, even if you have never done so before.

Coming to work with a strong intention to have a great day, and handling everything in a positive and decisive manner, will have its influence upon the people whom you come in contact with. This will help you to broadcast peace, good will and happiness.

Do your best to be nice and polite today, to your family, colleagues, friends, the seller at the grocery or supermarket, to the bus or cab driver, to the delivery boy and to anyone else you meet today. It is all a matter of inner attitude and choice.

Lets Exercise our power to choose a polite and considerate attitude.

One Positive Decision

Make a decision that during this special day, you are going to handle everything in a cool and calm way. If you need to meet someone or do something that usually makes you feel nervous or irritated, have a talk with yourself beforehand. Tell yourself that you are going to stay calm and relaxed, and that you are going to handle everything in the best way. If you feel you need it, make several mental rehearsals. Visualize yourself going through the situation in a very efficient way, and achieving a positive outcome.

Remember..Its Your Wonderful Day

In this special day act unhurriedly. Do your best to stay relaxed. Remind yourself often that it is your beautiful, wonderful day. Invite into your mind thoughts and feelings of happiness, satisfaction and competence. Imagine scenes and events from your past experiences, when you felt good and happy. By concentrating on these mental images you let the associated feelings and emotions well up again. Enjoy these good feelings, and try to go on enjoying them, even after you stop thinking about them.

Give Love Generously

When back home from work, what about a flower, a book, or some other small gift to your spouse and children? Even a smile, a hug or a kiss will do. You have tried all day to be kind to other people and stay positive. Do this at home too. Devote some quality time to your family. You have been out the whole day; now enjoy being together with them. Earning money to support your family is not enough. They need to feel your love and attention too.

Inspire Yourself

During this special day, make also some special effort to use your time more efficiently. Do not watch too much TV, and shorten the time that you read the newspaper. It is better to use this time to read something inspiring that will help you improve your life, or devote a few minutes to prayer/meditation in the afternoon or evening.

Time for Self

Don’t forget to devote some time for yourself. I have talked about meditation, but do also something that you love, such as reading a book, writing, devoting some time to your hobby, walking or any other physical exercises.

In conclusion:

The above are only suggestions to show you what you can do. You can adapt them to your specific situation with great ease.

At first try to design and live one wonderful day. Then enjoy another day like it. If you continue like this, you will turn this into a positive habit.

Today, remember, that its a beautiful day to have a wonderful day

Now its your turn…What do you think is a wonderful day? How do you make sure your day stays wonderful? Share your thoughts, tips and wisdom in the comments below. Lets learn from each other. 

With Immense Love & Gratitude,
~Zeenat~
Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor
Motivational Speaker/Naturopath
Holistic Healer/Writer

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