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How to kick Negative Patterns from Your Life and Evolve into a Positive Soul

How to kick Negative Patterns from Your Life and Evolve into a Positive Soul“The one thing in the world, of value, is the active soul” ~ RALPH WALDO EMERSON
Ever notice how we keep falling into the same negative patterns repeatedly, especially in relationships?

Be it trusting the wrong person or being too giving or any other pattern that gives you a sense of unease after. It could be actions, words or events in patterns that you don’t completely understand, as to why they keep happening to you?

We start to question why this is happening to us again and again and again. Why me? Why does this happen to me repeatedly?

Does this Sounds familiar to you?

Lets think about this : all of us go through negative recurring patterns with something or the other, usually someone or the other. Incidents that are completely unrelated to each other manifest themselves as patterns once we recognize their negative vibrations.

For Example- A woman who after an abusive marriage, walked into another marriage with a guy who not just had an extra-marital affair, but had repeated affairs and was also mentally abusive. This woman comes from a good, educated and well off background and is an intelligent and for the whole part a well-sorted person. Now, are you wondering how such an intelligent, bright and evolved woman could have chosen wrong both times for herself! And keeps living in those negative patterns….

Such a recurring pattern IS definitely negative, but let’s find the Positive in it! 

When we are surrounded by crap, we are unlikely to note the positives; they get taken for granted. We are convinced that we are essentially good people and so don’t question the good things that come our way. It’s only when things start going wrong that we start watching out for and questioning patterns! It’s then that we start blaming the world around for the chaos we find ourselves in. But is the world where the problem really is? Is this negative pattern an external force jeopardizing our life or is it within?

Why do we get into Negative patterns repeatedly? Here comes the positive…..

We get into these self destructive, negative patterns because there are lessons to be learnt from our past that we haven’t learned and till such time that we do so, we will find ourselves falling into the same trap again and again and again. That thought in itself consoling but still tedious to my heart!

Negative patterns are like scars that haven’t healed. Rather scars we have not allowed to heal. When we have a wound, if we keep touching it, keep itching, keep fidgeting with it, it becomes poisonous, septic and painful. But when we apply an ointment on it, take efforts to let it breathe and heal, it does! Right?!

But still as human beings we love to blame Destiny for some of these negative recurrences, even though some could be due to flaws in our own personality, but we fail to see them. Its easier to blame Destiny, Fate and God…. Its hard work to take ownership of our faults and work on them. This will mean we need to kick that EGO that we love to massage so diligently!

A negative pattern is a defense mechanism called projective identification where we attract through our behavior or our body’s vibrations – incidents, situations, life events or people who inflict similar kind of pain or act in a manner that helps our whole environment to go horribly wrong. And then we say the world is too chaotic for us!  We become paranoid to say the least.

How to kick Negative Patterns from Your Life

Now that we know what these Negative Patterns really are, lets get to how we can kick such destructive negative patterns.

1} AWARENESS ~ We NEED to come to an understanding and an acceptance that we are victims of such a negative pattern. Then we must let go of the ego and again accept, that the problem is within, not outside us. We have to understand that the negativity we visualize in our world, is actually a reflection of the negativity within us. We are attracting those people and situations towards us. Its a hard pill to swallow, but taking ownership often is! Awareness is the first necessary step.

2} POSITIVE SOUL SEARCHING ~ To come to a level of where we take ownership of our life takes a lot of soul searching. Even if we cannot understand why we are on this negative path, just an awareness that we are on it, is enough to set us on the path of healing.  The truth is, these negative situations, incidents or people are not really destructive, but positive in terms of Spiritual growth because they help make us aware of the problem within. Pain especially emotional pain is a calling from our soul, that invites us to look within to heal it.

Evolving into a Positive Soul

When we become aware of the pain that is deep within, we begin to start taking ownership of our thoughts, our feelings and our life….this level of higher consciousness facilitates positive change and deep soul healing. We stop blaming the world or destiny for our problems and infact begin to pray for healing for our self and for all those who cross our path in this world, be it a negative or positive crossing. We understand that these negative patterns are infact penetrable, breakable and the power to do so is WITHIN.

And, it’s when you start thinking positively about your relationship with yourSELF, that all the relationships in your life begin to take a positive turn. When the ego diminishes, we see ourselves for who we truly are and who we would like to become. We become our own best friend. This is that pivotal point when the negative patterns break.  You will then automatically attract only positive people and situations in your life. And, whenever a negative pattern begins to emerge, you will know the work needs to be done within.

I am Only Human!

For me personally, I have to admit, that there are still a few negative patterns I am working on. I am no saint, nor do I intend to be. I am only Human! But although I am a predominant positive thinker, sometimes old wounds I never thought existed come to the surface. I don’t get discouraged by them. I simply take it as a sign and start working on healing the wound and breaking the negative pattern.

Kicking these negative patterns from our lives is a process, but a highly rewarding and spiritually fulfilling one. Those higher planes of consciousness don’t just open up without a bit of pain. No pain no gain :)

What about YOU? Have you noticed any negative patterns in your life? Have you identified them and healed them? Share your thoughts and questions in the comments and lets heal together! 

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23 Positive Thoughts, Tips and Affirmations for a Shinier and Happier 2015

With 2015 in full swing…I would like to wish you a Really Happy and Abundant Year ahead.

You know, I’m a Positive Thoughts/Quotes/Affirmations junkie. Yes, I love those little nuggets of pure inspiration. I feel like the wisdom in those few lines can sometimes capture the very essence of our being and that too so poignantly.

The*Positive Provocations* Facebook Page and my Google+ Page are very vibrant and active communities where I share these little nuggets of inspiration almost everyday. I love writing and creating these posters for you!

I usually have positive images, affirmations and quotes pinned to my desktop, fridge, desks and mirrors for instant positive boosts throughout the day. You can save these posters and use them to inspire yourself too :)

I want to share some of these awesome little nuggets of inspiration with you today, so that you may be truly inspired to make this NEW year your most SHINY yet! Let this NEW Year bring with it joy, love, peace, success and above all immense happiness….just soak in these Positive Thoughts, Tips and Affirmations and let your soul be guided. Continue reading


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12 Things That Will Make You Bold, Courageous and Successful

12 Things That Will Make You Bold, Courageous and Successful

Please note: This is a beautifully bold guest post from the Amazing Tess Marshall! Enjoy darlings :)

When we put successful people on pedestals, we put ourselves down. We forget that they’re human. We forget that they experience fear, failure and rejection just like everyone else.

The difference is that they keep going, in spite of their fears. They’re not afraid to put it all on the line.

They let go of what others think of them. They risk experimenting with something new to get closer to their dreams. They’re not afraid of the spotlight.

Begin to see yourself as equal to everyone else, especially the people you admire. See yourself as being just as capable and brave. Continue reading


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7 Positive Ways to keep Stress far, REALLY far away from you this New Year

7 Positive Ways to keep Stress far, REALLY far away from you this New Year“Stress is not what happens to us. It’s our response to what happens and response is something we can choose.” ~ Maureen Killoran

HAPPY NEW YEAR DARLINGS :)

A New Year means a new dawn. A new beginning. Are you coming into this glorious new year with old unnecessary baggage(stress)??? 

Believe it or not, we are almost always surrounded by stress. Be it work stress, relationship stress, self image stress, social stress….the list can be endless. Stress is unavoidable…it will be thrown at us at every nook and corner…BUT although we don’t have a choice at what is thrown at us…we have a choice as to how we allow it to effect us.

New year stress can be a very real thing. Its human tendency to reflect on the year gone by and think of all the things we achieved or didn’t achieve. I personally choose to focus on what I did achieve…that leads me to feel happy for the year that has gone by and makes me feel hopeful for the new year. Continue reading


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Positively Looking Ahead and Beyond-A Preview, Review and New Year 2015 Gift

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ~ Lao Tzu

As the new year comes closer, I feel its like a New dawn approaching rapidly. I feel that same level of excitement and happy butterflies inside my being, as I felt when I was waiting for my little girl to enter this world. I am not sure if its just me or not..but this coming year is feeling Pivotal in my heart. There is so much happening around the world that is making me feel like “yes! we do have a chance to make a positive and happy world.”

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Positive Weight-loss Tips from a Happier, Healthier and Lighter me

Positive Weight-loss Tips from a Happier, Healthier and Lighter me“Because weight loss is really a mind over matter thing.”

I was always the chubby and bubbly girl growing up. Always.

Ask any of my friends and they will say YES so fast its not even funny :) And I loved being that way. I had fun eating what I wanted and being simply happy.

Tumultuous Times

But, all that happiness changed and took a nasty turn when I entered my teens. Suddenly, the cute chubby girl needed to become thin to fit in. I tried. I tried. And then I tried some more. I just couldn’t become thin and hence never fit in. Now, in this healed state, I know that’s a good thing. I know owning my Uniqueness is my happiness. But in that tumultuous teenage time, it was horror. I became SO conscious. Stopped being myself and did many awful things to fill that hole in my heart. Rest assured it never got full till I began to love myself when I discovered spirituality. Continue reading


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The ONLY Two Promises you NEED to make(to yourself!) for A Positive New Year

The ONLY Two Promises you NEED to make(to yourself!) for A Positive New YearFor last year’s words belong to last year’s language And next year’s words await another voice.’ ~ T. S. Eliot

As the year end inches closer and closer, I find myself introspecting a whole lot. I find myself thinking about the year in terms of achievements, high points, low points, successes, failures, learning points etc. Introspection and a constant need to be a better more evolved human(e) being makes me think of the year that’s gone by in a learning light. I have definitely learnt a whole LOT this past year.

We are all in a state of constant growth, be it physical, mental or spiritual. We don’t necessarily like to believe we are growing constantly, cause that would mean an admittance to NOT knowing EVERYTHING. Funny how we love to show the world we are master champions about everything, but in reality we are just trying SO hard to fit in. Continue reading

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