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Believe this ~ You ARE loved….constantly

Believe this ~ You ARE loved….constantly. Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~ RUMI“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~ RUMI

When it comes to understanding love, we all have different notions of what love is. Today I will attempt to help you understand, how love heals you, motivates you, inspires you and makes you truly come alive. I’m not talking about the love that makes you dependent….but the love that makes you Free.

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How to kick Negative Patterns from Your Life and Evolve into a Positive Soul

How to kick Negative Patterns from Your Life and Evolve into a Positive Soul“The one thing in the world, of value, is the active soul” ~ RALPH WALDO EMERSON
Ever notice how we keep falling into the same negative patterns repeatedly, especially in relationships?

Be it trusting the wrong person or being too giving or any other pattern that gives you a sense of unease after. It could be actions, words or events in patterns that you don’t completely understand, as to why they keep happening to you?

We start to question why this is happening to us again and again and again. Why me? Why does this happen to me repeatedly?

Does this Sounds familiar to you?

Lets think about this : all of us go through negative recurring patterns with something or the other, usually someone or the other. Incidents that are completely unrelated to each other manifest themselves as patterns once we recognize their negative vibrations.

For Example- A woman who after an abusive marriage, walked into another marriage with a guy who not just had an extra-marital affair, but had repeated affairs and was also mentally abusive. This woman comes from a good, educated and well off background and is an intelligent and for the whole part a well-sorted person. Now, are you wondering how such an intelligent, bright and evolved woman could have chosen wrong both times for herself! And keeps living in those negative patterns….

Such a recurring pattern IS definitely negative, but let’s find the Positive in it! 

When we are surrounded by crap, we are unlikely to note the positives; they get taken for granted. We are convinced that we are essentially good people and so don’t question the good things that come our way. It’s only when things start going wrong that we start watching out for and questioning patterns! It’s then that we start blaming the world around for the chaos we find ourselves in. But is the world where the problem really is? Is this negative pattern an external force jeopardizing our life or is it within?

Why do we get into Negative patterns repeatedly? Here comes the positive…..

We get into these self destructive, negative patterns because there are lessons to be learnt from our past that we haven’t learned and till such time that we do so, we will find ourselves falling into the same trap again and again and again. That thought in itself consoling but still tedious to my heart!

Negative patterns are like scars that haven’t healed. Rather scars we have not allowed to heal. When we have a wound, if we keep touching it, keep itching, keep fidgeting with it, it becomes poisonous, septic and painful. But when we apply an ointment on it, take efforts to let it breathe and heal, it does! Right?!

But still as human beings we love to blame Destiny for some of these negative recurrences, even though some could be due to flaws in our own personality, but we fail to see them. Its easier to blame Destiny, Fate and God…. Its hard work to take ownership of our faults and work on them. This will mean we need to kick that EGO that we love to massage so diligently!

A negative pattern is a defense mechanism called projective identification where we attract through our behavior or our body’s vibrations – incidents, situations, life events or people who inflict similar kind of pain or act in a manner that helps our whole environment to go horribly wrong. And then we say the world is too chaotic for us!  We become paranoid to say the least.

How to kick Negative Patterns from Your Life

Now that we know what these Negative Patterns really are, lets get to how we can kick such destructive negative patterns.

1} AWARENESS ~ We NEED to come to an understanding and an acceptance that we are victims of such a negative pattern. Then we must let go of the ego and again accept, that the problem is within, not outside us. We have to understand that the negativity we visualize in our world, is actually a reflection of the negativity within us. We are attracting those people and situations towards us. Its a hard pill to swallow, but taking ownership often is! Awareness is the first necessary step.

2} POSITIVE SOUL SEARCHING ~ To come to a level of where we take ownership of our life takes a lot of soul searching. Even if we cannot understand why we are on this negative path, just an awareness that we are on it, is enough to set us on the path of healing.  The truth is, these negative situations, incidents or people are not really destructive, but positive in terms of Spiritual growth because they help make us aware of the problem within. Pain especially emotional pain is a calling from our soul, that invites us to look within to heal it.

Evolving into a Positive Soul

When we become aware of the pain that is deep within, we begin to start taking ownership of our thoughts, our feelings and our life….this level of higher consciousness facilitates positive change and deep soul healing. We stop blaming the world or destiny for our problems and infact begin to pray for healing for our self and for all those who cross our path in this world, be it a negative or positive crossing. We understand that these negative patterns are infact penetrable, breakable and the power to do so is WITHIN.

And, it’s when you start thinking positively about your relationship with yourSELF, that all the relationships in your life begin to take a positive turn. When the ego diminishes, we see ourselves for who we truly are and who we would like to become. We become our own best friend. This is that pivotal point when the negative patterns break.  You will then automatically attract only positive people and situations in your life. And, whenever a negative pattern begins to emerge, you will know the work needs to be done within.

I am Only Human!

For me personally, I have to admit, that there are still a few negative patterns I am working on. I am no saint, nor do I intend to be. I am only Human! But although I am a predominant positive thinker, sometimes old wounds I never thought existed come to the surface. I don’t get discouraged by them. I simply take it as a sign and start working on healing the wound and breaking the negative pattern.

Kicking these negative patterns from our lives is a process, but a highly rewarding and spiritually fulfilling one. Those higher planes of consciousness don’t just open up without a bit of pain. No pain no gain :)

What about YOU? Have you noticed any negative patterns in your life? Have you identified them and healed them? Share your thoughts and questions in the comments and lets heal together! 

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7 Positive Ways to keep Stress far, REALLY far away from you this New Year

7 Positive Ways to keep Stress far, REALLY far away from you this New Year“Stress is not what happens to us. It’s our response to what happens and response is something we can choose.” ~ Maureen Killoran

HAPPY NEW YEAR DARLINGS :)

A New Year means a new dawn. A new beginning. Are you coming into this glorious new year with old unnecessary baggage(stress)??? 

Believe it or not, we are almost always surrounded by stress. Be it work stress, relationship stress, self image stress, social stress….the list can be endless. Stress is unavoidable…it will be thrown at us at every nook and corner…BUT although we don’t have a choice at what is thrown at us…we have a choice as to how we allow it to effect us.

New year stress can be a very real thing. Its human tendency to reflect on the year gone by and think of all the things we achieved or didn’t achieve. I personally choose to focus on what I did achieve…that leads me to feel happy for the year that has gone by and makes me feel hopeful for the new year. Continue reading


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6 Timeless and Positive Life Lessons from #RUMI

6 Timeless and Positive Life Lessons from #RUMI

My Dad’s Favorite Rumi Quote :)

Rumi’s words, his verses and his poetry has always inspired me. Its moved me at the soul level. Its made me understand so many of life’s truths that sometimes when I sit to soak in his words, I am astounded by what they reveal. You can read the same poetry a hundred times over and each time you will come to understand another layer of the wisdom it offers. Amazing right?!

I was introduced to Rumi by my very brilliant dad. He loved all things poetry and I was always surrounded by books and debates discussing essential life philosophy. I started reading Rumi when I was just 12 years old! While other girls my age read Nancy Drews I was reading Rumi and Gibran…go figure :) I obviously couldn’t process Rumi’s words at the time, but I loved how his words calmed me. Dad would often quote Rumi in his day to day interactions. He would quote him in Urdu, Farsi and English. All these years of being exposed to this Sufi wisdom tends to rub off  :) Continue reading


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7 Must-Have Traits of Legendary Positive Thinkers

7 Must-Have Traits of Legendary Positive Thinkers“We can change our future by merely changing our attitude to the positive.” ~Z

In an ideal world there are rainbows, butterflies, happiness and smiles always. But, we don’t really live in an ideal world…do we? Our days and our world is so full of everything that can sometimes be the exact opposite of rainbows, butterflies, happiness and smiles. To stay positive in a negative world is an art all by itself.

With the constant bombardment of bad news on almost all forms of media HOW oh how do we stay positive? Continue reading

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