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Everything Happens For The Best….???

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As we move on in life, we understand why we are denied certain things – and it may actually be a blessing in disguise!

icecream-cake“So, let’s put it like this: I asked for a small round ice-cream cake with a cherry on top…and I got a 3-tier German chocolate cake with an extra supply of  butter cookies!! 3tiergermanchocolatecake

Now, that’s great.

But the point is… where is my “small round ice-cream cake with a cherry on top?? Is that too much to ask for?”

No, it isn’t too much to ask for. It was never too much. But maybe someone thought they would give you more than you wanted assuming that would make you happier. But they assumed wrong, didn’t they? You wanted just that one small cake, and all the big ones in the world cannot make up for the fact that you didn’t get the one you really wanted.

Things don’t always work out exactly as you want them to. And if the intensity of the desire was strong, then even though you may have got much more than you wanted, the craving for that one thing that escapes you never really goes away.

Such disappointments occur when we allow our desires and dreams to overtake us and start living in anticipation of their fulfillment. A narrow focus makes us oblivious to all else but the goal in mind, very often blinding us to better options or greater pleasures just within our reach. A closed mind doesn’t allow us to enjoy that which we got instead of hankering after what escaped our clutches. And life carries on…a series of regrets and what ifs….

How does one avoid this trap? We all grow up hearing the adage – whatever happens, is for the best. And most of us grow up to believe it and pass it on to the next generation. Situations we have fought and protested against, turns of Fate we have cribbed about, or choices forced upon us that we have kicked out at – haven’t we all so often lived to bless these “adversities?”

In retrospect, much of what we desired and didn’t get later seems like stuff we are well rid of, be it a job, a car, some particular house, a dream or even a lover!

Life has a strange way of falling into a pattern as we move on, creating an interesting mosaic, which though unfathomable from near, assumes greater meaning as we move further away from it. There seems suddenly to have been a reason for whatever happened. Well, the reason was always there, I guess. Suddenly it seems comprehensible to us.

As we move away from a situation and move on in life, we understand why we were denied certain things and how not getting others that we coveted actually was a great blessing for us.

There seems to be a Power, someone up there who knows it all. Someone who has laid out the pattern and reveals it to us only bit by bit. As long as you trust in this, you may rest assured that life seems more manageable and you better equipped to handle it.

This serves as a great source of solace too. Whenever you don’t manage to get what you aimed for, you can always fall back on the face-saver that whatever happens, is for the best!

However, let’s not sound facetious here. If you believe in the Power that be, great, if you don’t then you have to believe that the only reason you seem better off without what you got is because you convince yourself into believing so, and it’s no better than a case of sour grapes!

I prefer to go with the first explanation…What about you?

with love Zeenat

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Author: Zeenat {PositiveProvocations.com}

Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor/Motivational Speaker/Naturopath/Holistic Healer/Writer

18 thoughts on “Everything Happens For The Best….???

  1. Interesting post. I have been interested in Astrological birth charts for several years, and have discovered they more or less back up the theory you are expounding here. There is a pattern to our lives, albeit un-noticed, and our choice of how we decide to fit in with it, makes us the people we are.

    • Hi Jinsky,
      Thanks so much for your valuable insight.
      There is indeed a patter to our lives. Now its upto us to accept it and work around it. But that shouldn’t mean we don’t do anything about our life’s path….We have to work at our life’s path And then of course whatever happens, indeed happens for the best.

  2. Life is, indeed, a complex and beautiful tapestry. If we look at it only from our limited perspective, close up and focused on one tiny square, it just looks like a tangle of frustrating threads. But if we step back, forget about our little square for a while, and appreciate the BIG picture, we will see more beauty than we could have possibly imagined on our own.

    Until we see it, we just have to Trust that it is there. 🙂

  3. Zeenat I really agree with this in your post:

    “Such disappointments occur when we allow our desires and dreams to overtake us and start living in anticipation of their fulfillment. A narrow focus makes us oblivious to all else but the goal in mind, very often blinding us to better options or greater pleasures just within our reach. A closed mind doesn’t allow us to enjoy that which we got instead of hankering after what escaped our clutches. And life carries on…a series of regrets and what ifs….”

    That was wonderful! Thank you!

  4. @Lisis- Thanks for stopping by lisis. The big picture is often so difficult to see in light of the current situations we face, but is we trust in the Higher Power and step back it isnt so difficult. Thanks so much for you valuable insight.

    @Stephen- I am glad you liked my blabbering and agree to it. Thanks for stopping by.

  5. Hi Zeenat,

    Honestly, many of mysteries of being are still mysteries to me. With increasing present-moment awareness, there is a flow–a rightness to the unfolding of life. The mysteries are still mysteries–but they’ve taken on a wonderous glow.

    Thanks for a thoughtful article.

    k

    • Kaushik, So glad you could stop by. It is true as you say the mysteries of life take a wonderous glow with time and and experience. That i feel is the true beauty of life…and it surely is the right perspective.

  6. The longer I live, the more obvious it has become that I am indeed just a small cog in a big wheel. It is my ego that struggled with that, as it does NOT want to be a cog, it wants to be the CEO.
    For me that is where I got unstuck until I understood that the ego is coming from a very limited controlling mind that can only understand what it can control and that is very little. I slowly got to see that there is a CEO with a lot more wisdom at the helm. Once I got to accept that, I could let go of control, do my bit and accept and love the unexpected parts in my life and know all is well.

    • Wilma, Loved your insight! Especially the last line, “Once I got to accept that, I could let go of control, do my bit and accept and love the unexpected parts in my life and know all is well.” This complacency is a rare gift Wilma. I amso glad you found it. Your insight gives us all hope. Thank you for stopping by. I love your blog by the way.

  7. Hi Zeenat, Great thinking here. I try my best to always find the silver lining. Sometimes it’s tough but with practice it is getting easier. Love your site!

  8. Excellent article Zeenat! I wrote an article not too long ago based on this topic – on a quote from A Quote by Robin Sharma. I’ve always wondered whether we make our lives happen or whether our lives are already set in stone no matter what choices we make. I like to think that it’s a combination of both. But I definitely think that you clearly know when it leans more in favor of destiny, especially when you pursue something that you think you should, only to end up with something else. It’s happened to me, and I feel blessed!

    Rhythm Rob

  9. Hello Zeenat. Yes, sometimes what we expect and what we get are two different things. I do believe a higher power knows what we NEED, though, so that is the explanation I will choose 🙂

    Karen

    • Hi Karen,
      Glad you agree with my explaination…God really knows what we need….we might smart but not so smart;)
      Happy you could come here and have a read.
      I loved your last post.

  10. Hi Zeenat,

    Feeling a little bit overwhelmed with life’s experiences, I chanced upon your thoughts and happen to feel so much better. What makes me feel calmer is the belief that there is a higher power above us who is in control of situations and we should just let go. Though life does not always go our way, in the end, whatever happens will be for our BEST.

  11. Hi Zeenat,

    I love your article and I used to think along the exact same lines; however, sometimes I feel like I fall back a bit when I hear of horrible things happening all over the world, especially to children. I can’t help but think ” how is this for the best?” Yes I understand there is a lot of mystery in this world and that God or the Power that be or whatever you would like to call it (not him or her…lol) is all knowing and has the bigger picture…but does it really all happen for the best?!
    It would be amazing to truly and full-heartedly believe that and I want to but I am a bit hesitant you see.

    • HI Sarah,
      So glad you loved this article..and happier to see you here 🙂
      Hesitation is only normal..especially when we see tragedy all around us everyday….But think about it from a broader perspective and you will see what i am talking about.
      Infact, I had written an article called “lost Souls-a tribute” a while back. Where i talk about this exact same helplessness….and what we can do about it. Do click on the article and read it. I am sure you will like it.
      Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts here.I hope to see you here more often 🙂
      Much Love,Z~