How to Nurture Self Love + 16 Practical Ways to Begin Your Self Love Journey

How to Nurture Self Love + 16 Practical Ways to Begin Your Self Love Journey“My primary relationship is with myself – all others are mirrors of it. As I learn to love myself, I automatically receive the love and appreciation that I desire from others. If I am committed to myself and to living my truth, I will attract others with equal commitment.”~Shakti Gawain

While we all know and agree that Self Love is the ONLY force that can make us whole and healed, we still struggle with it daily. In the last article I shared why you deserve to be loved, no matter what! Lets take that a step further and understand the importance of self love and how we can heal through it.

In a recent workshop on Self love, while discussing the merits of it, a kind gentleman asked, “But I think self love is just too self indulgent and narcissistic! How can I think of myself when I have so many responsibilities towards my family and loved ones? Shouldn’t I be thinking of them first before my own needs?”

I smiled at him and said, “How can you fully serve your loved ones and make them happy, when you are not happy yourself? If you are having a shitty day, will you go home and be loving to your family or be moody?” He said, “Ofcourse, I’ll be moody! I have to vent at some point.” I responded, “Is that fair to your family? If you love yourself, you will NOT allow yourself to be sucked into a shitty day. You will give yourself the gift of calming down and being happy no matter what kind of day you are having, because you know YOU are worth it. Anger, irritations, shitty days etc won’t trouble your inner happiness. And then when you go home, how will you be with your family?” At this point I could see his eyes soften and he said, “I will be loving and kind……..I understand now…. that Self Love is NOT self indulgent or narcissistic…it is actually nurturing to me and all those around me too. Thank you!!!”

Now the BIG Question we all face from time to time is  ~ “How to Nurture Self Love for True Healing?” The answer to this question is simple and oh so doable! I do it everyday and so do so many others.

Self love is at the very core of wellbeing, joy, self-empowerment, and your ability to create and enjoy the kind of life you want. You cannot enjoy happiness if you are not at peace with yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you’ll ever have.

From the spiritual perspective, it is by turning your attention inward to yourSelf that you are able to experience your connection with Life, with God, with All That Is.

From the human perspective, every relationship you ever have with someone else exactly mirrors one or more aspects of the relationship you have with yourself.

Yet, how often have you heard yourself say, “I am my own worst enemy”? If your goals involve raising your confidence, ending depression, moving beyond diets or overeating behaviors, or just plain wanting to live a happier, fulfilled life, you have to know what self-love looks like. Learn how to define self-love and then how to bring it into your own life!

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” ~Oscar Wilde

Love is a mystery and not easily definable. However, it does have certain characteristics. Self-love is a consuming passion for your own happiness. It is an ongoing choice you make to be glad to be alive, here on Earth, in your own body.

Self-love occurs when you decide who you are and what you want is important. It is an inner state of being which develops as you decide it is all right to build a kind, sensuous, and meaningful partnership with your self. Self-love involves deciding to connect with your dreams and then supporting yourself with encouraging thoughts and empowering self-supportive actions.

How to Nurture Self Love

This is what I do:To nurture my spirit everyday with things that make me feel good is my idea of daily self love. I wake up early each morning to pray, to meditate, to go for my nature walk, to do yoga, to read and listen to motivational teachings. All these positive habits nurture my spirit and keep me centered all throughout the day. In my line of work I meet many many troubled souls, and its very easy for me to fall prey to their lower vibrations…but these practices help me to stay on higher more positive vibrations and to lift up all those who I encounter to those vibrations too. Isn’t that a marvelous thing?!! I love ME and that is why I love everyone and everything around me, cause I know they are all part of me and reflections of me.
A mantra I use for myself and keep repeating in my heart for everyone I meet : “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I Love You.” ~ This is the Hoʻoponopono (ho-o-pono-pono) mantra. It is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness of self and others. It instills Oneness of all in the heart.

 

How I Define Self-Love?
Self-love is not so much a feeling as it is a decrease of self-doubt and self-disapproval. It involves an ever-growing sense of balance and belonging. Respect, responsibility for self, and feeling good are important values. Self-love means that your well-being matters to yourself unconditionally and in practical terms.

9 Characteristics of Self Loving People

  • Self-loving people focus on feeling good.
  • Self-loving people allow themselves to be happy and to share this with others.
  • Self-loving people tend to treat themselves well.
  • They see enjoyment of life as a primary goal most of the time.
  • They do not remain in mistreatment by others.
  • They are caring towards others. (Because it feels good to do so).
  • They put themselves first.
  • They find a thought that feels good, and practice it.
  • They let themselves succeed.

My 3 Basic Principles of Self Love

  1. Who you are is more important than what you are.
  2. You are valuable. Nothing can change that.
  3. What you want always matters.

Again, “How to Nurture Self Love for True Healing?”

Increasing your love of self involves an intention to become more self-loving and then following up this intention with reinforcing actions. An intention involves a conscious decision to be happier and more fulfilled in your own life. You make a new decision to be alive . . . and then accept personal responsibility to make your life a better, more enjoyable experience. It may take considerable effort to pry yourself out of a life that feels less than joyful, but it is entirely possible to have the kind of life you want for yourself.

16 Practical Ways to Begin Your Self Love Journey:

  1. Acknowledge and verbally praise yourself.
  2. Have fun more often.
  3. Learn new ways to relax and release tension.
  4. Practice conscious, deep, full-bodied breathing several times each day.
  5. Think inspiring thoughts.
  6. Instead of always focusing on the problem, decide to focus on desired outcomes.
  7. Fill your life with beauty, such as times of silence, beautiful flowers.
  8. Raise your confidence by taking daily small, achievable actions steps that support your goal.
  9. Acknowledge your efforts and your successes.
  10. Reward yourself daily.
  11. Listen to your intuition and then follow it.
  12. Let yourself succeed.
  13. Nurture yourself by imagining desired outcomes to life’s situations.
  14. Offer yourself affection in many, many different ways.
  15. Choose to think thoughts that bring inner peace (rather than worry).
  16. Remember and feel gratitude.

Love may be a mystery. The good news is that the art of increasing self-love is not so mysterious. In fact, it is something you can learn through knowledge and practice. Imagine your self-love as a seed inside of you. Even if it is just a tiny, undernourished seed right now, you have the ability to grow that seed into something spectacular. The growth of your self-love is not going to happen overnight. However, by taking certain actions, your seed will most assuredly grow.

Today, make a commitment to yourself to nurture your inner seed of love. Ask yourself, “How can I be more loving to myself today?” Use your imagination and come up with several possibilities. Then, follow through with your thoughts and put them into action. Do this every day, and watch as you begin to create the loving life you truly deserve.

What are YOUR thoughts on this topic? Do you have a favorite self love way? Share your beautiful thoughts in the comments of this article.

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19 thoughts on “How to Nurture Self Love + 16 Practical Ways to Begin Your Self Love Journey

  1. Hey Zeenat,
    This was a fantastic article (just like all others). I totally agree on this one, everything begins or ends within you! Thank you and best wishes…

  2. I love the Shatki Gawain quote. Our experience of our entire lives emanates from our relationship with ourselves. It makes all the difference. I know, for me, it was the shift that turned my life around and prompted other healing. Your 16 suggestions are so right on, too! 🙂

  3. cathytaugh

    This is such a helpful article on self-love. I love this quote – “To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” ~Oscar Wilde. And your helpful list of 16 Practical Ways to Begin Your Self Love Journey is great as well. Self-love has helped me feel better and be able to give to others.

  4. Lore Raymond

    As always you are so generous with your thoughts and information WOW! It feels like this could be made into a min- eBook, Zeenat!
    Today I’m connecting with:
    “Let yourself succeed.
    Nurture yourself by imagining desired outcomes to life’s situations.”

    xo Namaste

  5. I love everything about the article Zeenat because it is a journey I’m on and I keep learning everyday.
    Self love to me will be accepting to go within and live from that authentic self.

  6. The concept of self-love can be a bit nebulous for analytical folks like me. I appreciated how this article broke it down to describe what it is and how to practice it. Yes, all of our relationships with others are a reflection of our relationship with ourselves.

  7. This piece is so rich. I love how you look at self-love from a spiritual and a human perspective. I appreciate the reminder that our relationships mirror an aspect of ourself. That is truly something deep to reflect upon. I like your definition of self-love as not necessarily being a gaga feeling, but a collection of ways that we treat ourselves with positive regards. And of course each of the practices you share is potent in and of itself. Thank you!

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