12 Powerful Ways to Reclaim Your Peace When You Can’t Change Others

On June 23, 2025June 23, 2025 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health, spiritual healing5 Comments

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” ~ Maya Angelou

If there is one massive life lesson I have learnt over the years, it is that I can not control or change anyone, anything, or any situation. And trying to do so only hurts me and no one else. Hence, I stopped trying to change or control what is outside of me.

The truth of the matter is, that everything outside of you is never ever going to be in your control. If the traffic is bad, it is bad. You have no choice but to wait for it start moving. No sense in getting angry or hyperventilating over a fact you cannot change. So instead of getting angry or upset, its best to accept this fact and do something to calm your mind in that moment. Whenever I’m stuck in traffic, I people watch, I nature watch. I look out of the window in awe and admire the many wonders that the Divine has created. That’s so much better than hyperventilating! Right?!

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How to Believe in Yourself & Positively Change Your life

On January 27, 2020 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Mind, Mind, Heart& Soul-Motivation&Inspiration, Mind-Mental Health10 Comments

“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” ~ Norman Vincent Peale

Most people will spend their entire life being told that their dreams are something that they can’t do. I was told many such things -> “You can’t play football with the boys!”(I was the only girl in an all boys team for so long), or “How can you become a psychologist?” etc. We all face this at some point in our lives. No one is immune to the negativity of the world. But you can still believe in yourself and change your life.

Do You find it hard to hear everyone around you tell you “You can’t”?
Can’t is such an ugly, often demotivating word. The more times you hear it, the easier it is to believe the lies that are being told. You have to search for a healing way to respond to it. Don’t believe any negative thoughts that people say about what you can’t do, because only you truly KNOW what you can or cannot do! And understand, that people who are negative towards you are often hiding a certain level of their own insecurity behind that “all put together” mask.

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5 Steps to Replace Unwanted(negative) Habits with Positive Ones

On July 3, 2018 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Mind, Heart& Soul-Motivation&Inspiration12 Comments

“They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom.” ~Confucius

Sometimes, change comes easily and naturally. Some things are just easy to change. Then, there are deeply ingrained habits that are much more difficult to change. You try to change those habits, and you succeed for a while, then you stop and end up feeling like a failure. When this cycle of trying and failing happens a few times, you finally decide to give up and decide this good change is not for you. Story over. Not really, cause something inside you will keep making you want to make the change that your heart so desires. But the fear of failure will not allow you to try. Its a vicious cycle full of negativity and self doubt.