A Powerful Morning and Evening Practice for Positive Thinking, Inner Peace & Self-Trust

On September 27, 2026September 27, 2026 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, Mind, Mind-Mental Health, Positive Self Reflection, relationships2 Comments

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” ~ Viktor Frankl

I have come to believe that the moments at the beginning and end of our day hold a quiet kind of power.

Before I reach for my phone, before I begin responding to the world and thinking about everything that needs to be done, I have a small window of time that belongs only to me. And at night, before I close my eyes, I have another opportunity to pause, breathe, and gently let the day go.

I don’t see these moments as a way of forcing myself to “think positively.” Life doesn’t always feel positive, and I don’t believe we need to pretend that it does. Instead, I think of these practices as a way of choosing how I want to relate to myself…especially when life feels uncertain, overwhelming or simply too full.

When I place my hand over my heart and take a few slow breaths, I am reminding myself that I don’t need to have everything figured out. I can meet myself where I am. I can choose a kinder thought. I can take one small step rather than demanding that I know the whole way forward.

Over time, I have found that these small moments of intention can become something much more than a routine. They become a way of coming home to myself.

I invite you to try the following morning and evening practices in whatever way feels natural to you. There is nothing here to get perfect. Just a few quiet minutes to listen inward, reconnect with yourself and remember that you are allowed to begin again.

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How Slowing Down Can Bring More Peace, Happiness and Balance

On August 27, 2026August 27, 2026 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health, Positive Self Reflection, relationships7 Comments

“Shifting the mind into lower gear can bring better health, inner calm, enhanced concentration and the ability to think more creatively.”~ Carl Honoré

We often confuse stimulation with aliveness. A packed calendar, constant messages, social plans, travel, entertainment, and productivity can make us feel like we are doing life, but they don’t necessarily mean we are actually experiencing it.

Sometimes the soul becomes tired from constantly processing.

Staying home, moving slowly and reducing unnecessary stimulation can give the mind something it rarely receives: space.

For example, imagine coming home after a demanding week and resisting the urge to immediately make plans. You make tea, put your phone away for an hour, take a shower, sit by the window, and let the evening unfold without needing it to be “productive.”

Nothing extraordinary happened. And yet, you may notice yourself breathing more deeply.

That is peace. Peace can be a form of nervous-system healing.

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The Silent Treatment: When Silence Becomes Emotional Abuse in Relationships

On July 21, 2026July 21, 2026 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health, Positive Self Reflection, relationships, spiritual healingLeave a comment

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.” ~ Harvey Fierstein

There is a sacred silence that heals the soul. It is the silence of meditation, of dawn before the world awakens, of two people sitting together without the need to fill every moment with words. This silence nourishes. This silence heals. It creates space for truth to emerge.

But there is another kind of silence. It is the silence that punishes. The silence that controls. The silence that leaves another human being questioning their worth.

In sessions with clients, I have often witnessed people who say, “At least they never yelled at me.” Yet as they speak, their shoulders collapse under the weight of months or years …of being ignored, excluded, or emotionally abandoned. The wounds are invisible, but they are no less real.

Not every silence is peaceful. Sometimes silence becomes a weapon.

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