How to Set Better Emotional Boundaries and Why they are so Important for Healing

If you want people to respect your boundaries, you need to first set them yourself.

Understanding Emotional Boundaries

Imagine your emotional boundaries as a protective bubble. This bubble keeps your emotions in and other people’s emotions out. 

Having emotional boundaries gives you the ability to witness others emotions without taking their emotions personally (into your bubble) or as your responsibility to react to, fix, or solve. Your emotional boundaries enable you to differentiate where your emotions end and other person’s emotions begin. 

When we have unclear emotional boundaries that we have not even set for ourselves, others emotions flood into our safe space. As a result, we become highly reactive to not only other’s emotions, but also our own. 

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How to Positively Cope with Being Emotionally Triggered

“The best way out is always through.”~ Robert Frost

Have you ever had the feeling that a comment has been passed or a statement has been said which triggers you? It might be a simple statement or comment for others, but for you it triggered you, in a negative way. It totally derailed your mood and suddenly you feel anxious, guilty, angry or sad but you don’t really know why it triggered you? Then as time passes and you reflect on the situation later, you realise how unnecessarily emotional your reaction was, and that leaves you even more confused about why you had such a strong emotional response?

Sounds familiar? Its not uncommon to feel triggered in this way, infact we all feel emotionally triggered at some point in our lives.

It’s okay to feel triggered, here is a positive guide to help you through those passing feelings.

To begin with let’s understand what an emotional trigger really is…

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Unlearning & Healing from Dysfunctional Love

“Love does not dominate; it cultivates.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Let’s normalise Self Love. Let’s normalise healing. Not only are you worthy of the love you did not recieve as a child, but you are capable of so much more in terms of living your best life.

We all grew up not knowing what self love was. Honestly, we grew up not knowing what LOVE was to begin with. We accepted the fairy tale versions of love as definitions of real love. We accepted our dysfunctional setups as normal love. If that meant living in emotionally and physically abusive households, we thought that was normal. Not anyone’s fault, it was all we knew.

It was our normal.

Only as adults who suffer from pains and traumas, do we realize that past was not normal. It was a dysfunctional setup, that fractured our emotional growth.

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