Emotional Boundaries: How We Break Them and Why They Heal Us

“No” is a complete sentence. ~ Annie Lamott

When I was growing up, I saw how self-sacrifice was celebrated over self-awareness. Because of whatever I witnessed, I learned to override my inner signals consciously or unconsciously. I did this in the name of being “good,” “helpful,” or “strong.” That’s where the People Pleaser in me was born…And, the cost of this conditioning was profoundly wounding on my mental and emotional health. As I began healing, I realized that when we neglect our own boundaries, we drift away from our center, our truth, and ultimately, our peace.

To reclaim my peace of mind, I have had to solidify and re-enforce my boundaries again and again and again over the years. It’s truly one of the most transformative steps that helped me heal.

Boundaries are not walls that keep love out, they are sacred spaces where love can grow safely. They are energetic expressions of self-respect, self-awareness, and spiritual alignment. To violate them, even subtly, is to step out of integrity with the soul.

❤ The following reflections explore the ways we unknowingly betray our own boundaries—not from weakness, but from woundedness, from patterns of survival, and from longing to belong. As you read through them, I invite you to hold yourself with compassion. This is not a call to self-blame, but an invitation to come home to yourself—with clarity, care, and courage.

I am living proof that we can heal from it all. If I can, so can you ❤

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Spiritual Imbalance: Ancient African Wisdom and the Psychology of Trauma

I’ve been in the healing field for more than two decades now, and there is still always something that I can come across that absolutely leaves me in awe. I’ve studied all the mental and spiritual health modalities under the sun and still continue to do so.

My research always sends me down a deep path with amazing revelations. I’ve been doing a lot of work, research and courses on healing trauma behind the scenes.

I wanted to share with you what I have learned…I’m sure it will enlighten you as it continues to enlighten me.

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14 Subtle Signs Your Body Is Starting to Heal from Trauma (And Why They Matter)

“You have the power to heal yourself, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we’re not. We always have the power of our minds. Claim and consciously use your power.” ~ Louise Hay

Your body doesn’t heal in one dramatic moment of clarity. Healing doesn’t arrive like a thunderclap or a single breakthrough or happen overnight. It unfolds gently, often invisibly through small, surprising shifts.

My own healing journey has been in progress daily since 1999 in the most surprising ways.

It shows up in the quiet, fragmented moments. It’s in those moments that my nervous system finally started to feel safe… safe enough to let go.

And that safety doesn’t come from logic—it comes from felt experience.

It showed up like this for me:

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