A Positive Step-by-Step Guide to Handling Any BIG Emotion

On March 4, 2025March 4, 2025 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health, Positive Self Reflection, spiritual healing21 Comments

“Depression and anxiety can’t fit in your head if you’re cultivating feelings of joy and inspiration.” ~ Austin Butler

Life is a journey that is actually full of emotions and feelings. Everything that happens in our life we have attached an emotion to it. In fact, if you think of any event from the past(even yesterday) the emotion attached to that event is what you feel first when you think about it.

Its amazing how everything we are, is a sum total of the feelings and emotions we have been through. But, sometimes the emotions feel too BIG to handle in certain situations. And that is very normal. We all can feel overwhelmed when we feel these big emotions coming on. They are often triggered by life-changing decisions or events.

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10 Small Habits That Can Positively Change Your Life

On February 25, 2025February 25, 2025 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health, Positive Self Reflection, spiritual healing12 Comments

“Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.”~ Vincent Van Gogh

When we think about changing our lives for the better, we often think of big lofty goals. Our list is big and the expectations we have of ourselves bigger.

So, we begin with the BIG changes we want to make in our lives, which is a good thing to reflect on from time to time. Then we go about trying to achieve that BIG change, with even bigger, more drastic steps. Only to fall flat on our face within 3 -5 days. Which means we can begin to change, but to stay the course consistently is the problem. And believe me, its a problem we all face.

To bring about BIG positive changes in my life, I realized I didn’t have to do anything big. In fact I had to make small shifts in my habits. As I kept incorporating these small shifts consistently and daily, I started to see BIG changes.

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How to Love Yourself this Valentine’s Day(and everyday!)

On February 14, 2025February 14, 2025 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health, Positive Self Reflection, spiritual healing6 Comments

“My primary relationship is with myself – all others are mirrors of it. As I learn to love myself, I automatically receive the love and appreciation that I desire from others. If I am committed to myself and to living my truth, I will attract others with equal commitment.”~Shakti Gawain

Self Love is the ONLY force that can make us whole and healed. We all KNOW this fact, yet we still struggle with it.

I hold workshops on Self-love and Positive Life Management all the time in my city. In a recent workshop on Self-love, while discussing the merits of it, a kind gentleman asked, “But I think self-love is just too self-indulgent and narcissistic! How can I think of myself when I have so many responsibilities towards my family and loved ones? Shouldn’t I be thinking of them first before my own needs?”

I smiled at him and said, “How can you fully serve your loved ones and make them happy, when you are not happy yourself? If you are having a bad day, will you go home and be loving to your family or be moody?”

He said, “Of course, I’ll be moody! I have to vent at some point.” I responded, “Is that fair to your family? If you love yourself, you will NOT allow yourself to be sucked into a bad day. You will give yourself the gift of calming down and being happy no matter what kind of day you are having, because you know YOU are worth it. Anger, irritations, shitty days etc won’t trouble your inner happiness. And then when you go home, how will you be with your family?”

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