How Being Kind to Yourself Helps Heal Trauma+A Self-Kindness Ritual for Healing Trauma

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”~Buddha

Trauma leaves imprints not only on the mind and body, but also on the spirit. When we’ve been hurt, neglected, or overwhelmed, our nervous system often learns to live in survival mode: hypervigilant, self-critical, and disconnected. In this state, we may find it difficult to trust ourselves, our bodies, or even the goodness of life.

Self-kindness becomes a medicine for these wounds. Here’s how:

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How to Be Kind with Yourself – 5 Gentle Ways

“The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.” ~ Maya Angelou

Do you tend to be your own worst critic? Do you judge yourself harshly? Do you blame yourself for anything and everything that goes wrong?

Firstly, let me clarify that its good and healthy to hold yourself accountable, but self-compassion, kindness and gentleness with yourself is a necessity for mental health and healing as well. Let me offer you some tried and tested ways to practice being Kind and Gentle with Yourself…

Healing through treating yourself with Kindness

“When we give ourselves compassion, we are opening our hearts in a way that can transform our lives.” ~ Kristin Neff

People often assume that the best way to motivate yourself is to keep on being self-critical with yourself. That could not be further from the truth. Unfortunately, being constantly critical with yourself can take a real emotional toll. It can trigger depression, anxiety, immensely low self-esteem and self-worth issues, or an unhealthy and unreal level of perfectionism.

If you have found that you tend to be hard on yourself, don’t worry. There are many things you can do to change that negative cycle. I am listing many such positive and healing strategies below that I sometimes reccommend during therapy session, which can be effective treatments for anxiety and depression.

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3 Simple Ways to Be Kind Everyday

“My religion is Kindness.”~ Dalai Lama

In our world today we have many figure heads. Many leaders of courtries and many prominent personalities. But, how many of them are we truly happy with?

When I ask this question to anyone, I always get the answer that, ‘not happy, but what can we do?’

Back in my University days, I had a project that I needed to submit on “The Power of Human Kindness”. As part of the project we needed to present factual findings and surveys to prove our hypothesis. 

One of the major questions I asked as part of that project to people around was, ‘Who would you choose as a world leader if you had the choice, from anyone living or dead?’…the answer still astounds me.

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