12 Powerful Ways to Reclaim Your Peace When You Can’t Change Others

On June 23, 2025June 23, 2025 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health, spiritual healing5 Comments

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” ~ Maya Angelou

If there is one massive life lesson I have learnt over the years, it is that I can not control or change anyone, anything, or any situation. And trying to do so only hurts me and no one else. Hence, I stopped trying to change or control what is outside of me.

The truth of the matter is, that everything outside of you is never ever going to be in your control. If the traffic is bad, it is bad. You have no choice but to wait for it start moving. No sense in getting angry or hyperventilating over a fact you cannot change. So instead of getting angry or upset, its best to accept this fact and do something to calm your mind in that moment. Whenever I’m stuck in traffic, I people watch, I nature watch. I look out of the window in awe and admire the many wonders that the Divine has created. That’s so much better than hyperventilating! Right?!

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The Role of Healthy Boundaries in Healing

On June 11, 2025June 11, 2025 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health, Positive Self Reflection, spiritual healing2 Comments

The more you value yourself, the healthier your boundaries become.

I often witness the profound transformation that occurs when individuals learn to set and honor healthy boundaries. I’ve witnessed this profound transformation in my clients as they learn to honor and embody healthy boundaries—but this journey has also been deeply personal. As I’ve refined and realigned my own boundaries, I’ve experienced a powerful expansion in emotional clarity, self-trust, and inner peace. Boundaries have not only supported my healing—they’ve deepened my capacity to hold space for others with greater compassion and authenticity.

Boundaries aren’t about building walls, they’re about creating space where safety, trust, and self-respect can thrive. They are acts of self-love that protect our emotional energy, allowing for deeper, more authentic relationships, both with others and ourselves.

As I deepened my own healing journey, I came to understand that setting healthy boundaries is not just a helpful practice—it’s a sacred starting point for true transformation.

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If You’re Always Procrastinating, Read This

On April 10, 2025April 10, 2025 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health2 Comments

How often do you hear yourself say -> “I’ll do it later.” And well, later never really comes.

I used to be a procrastinator, till the stress of the things piling up was hurting me more than actually doing the task. Since then, I try not to put things off for “later”(at least 95% of the time). That’s progress ❤

Procrastination is…

…the act of delaying or postponing tasks, often unnecessarily or irrationally, even when you know there might be negative consequences. It’s basically putting things off—like avoiding that project, homework, chore, or decision—despite knowing it needs to get done.

It’s not just laziness. Procrastination often involves emotional regulation. People might procrastinate because the task feels overwhelming, boring, or stressful. So instead of doing the thing, they choose to do something more pleasant or easier in the short term (like scrolling on your phone, cleaning your room, or binge-watching something).