How to Regulate your Emotions and NOT Suppress them

On April 23, 2024May 11, 2024 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind, Heart& Soul-Motivation&Inspiration, Mind-Mental Health, Positive Self Reflection8 Comments

“Don’t try to force anything. Let life be a deep let-go. God opens millions of flowers every day without forcing their buds.” ~ Osho

Are you suppressing your emotions?

Anger, sadness, joy, and shame are all common feelings that play an important role in daily life. When people have a hard time expressing or accepting these feelings, they may be struggling with suppressed emotions. Sometimes suppressed emotions are part of the bigger picture, which could include substance use or mood disorders that need professional help to heal from.

Understanding Suppressed Emotions

Everyone at some time or the other in their life do suppress emotions. Sometimes, we may consciously or unconsciously choose to avoid experiencing certain emotions because we believe we are unable to handle them. In doing so, we push these emotions deep down within ourself.

However, it’s important to recognize that suppressing emotions is not a healthy coping mechanism. In fact, it can have negative consequences for mental, emotional and physical health.

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Forgive to Truly Heal : Healing Through Forgiveness Series, Part 1

On February 22, 2016 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Heal Your Soul Column, Mind, Mind, Heart& Soul-Motivation&Inspiration, Mind-Mental Health10 Comments

“Forgiveness means that we choose to Love. Love MORE than we choose to hate or hurt.”

Among all the ways of counseling I offer, I also offer family therapy to families to heal from issues that are eating away at their core happiness. In one such recent session, there was SO much negativity coming out of every member of the family, which was making the whole atmosphere very very tense. The key was ofcourse a past event that had triggered and hurt many of the members of the family. After gently proposing “forgiveness with love” of self and all those involved…and applying it, I could see the whole family calm down. But, forgiveness is a hard pill to swallow.

I often get asked, “But how can I forgive, when it hurts so much?”

At some point in time, most of us have been in this position. We recognize some pattern or behavior in ourselves or others, that we would like to change, but often feel powerless to do so. Everything we try seems to lead nowhere.

Have you been in this situation? Continue reading “Forgive to Truly Heal : Healing Through Forgiveness Series, Part 1” →

The Healing Power of Forgiveness & Release

On January 25, 2013 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Mind, Heart& Soul-Motivation&Inspiration, Mind-Mental Health14 Comments

“You are not guilty of any sin, my brother. But you believe that you are. And while you believe this, you will need forgiveness. It is the only way out of your self-imposed illusion.” ~ Paul Ferrini

I often get asked, “But how can I forgive, when it hurts so much?”

At some point in time, most of us have been in this position. We recognize some pattern or behaviour in ourselves or others, that we would like to change, but often feel powerless to do so. Everything we try seems to lead nowhere.

Have you been in this situation? Continue reading “The Healing Power of Forgiveness & Release” →