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~Healing with Positivity, Love & Happiness!~


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How to deepen your relationships with the help of communication

This is a beautiful Article by Heidi Paavilainen who is a Transformative coach, Yoga teacher and Writer. Enjoy darlings!

The other day we were spending the evening with my partner in our newly met friends’ home. We were only couples there and at some point our conversation moved to love and how often do we express our feelings of affection.

Someone mentioned how in Finland we almost never say the words “I love you”. Since I have been away from my home country for a while I was first puzzled by this statement, but soon recognized how that might be true. In our culture we are simply not used to say those three words.

Even if I believe that we don’t need to limit our expression of love to words, I’m still a big believer in expressing our good feelings to one another.

Not only do we make people around us to feel good and deepen the feeling in our relationships, but also share more of who we really are. Continue reading

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5 Positive Ways You NEED to Be Humble for more Happiness

“We must not be wise and prudent according to the flesh. Rather, we must be simple, humble and pure.” ~ Francis of Assisi

In our modern society, full of corporate power and stardom, being humble, being modest is often viewed as a weakness.  And the funny part is, we celebrate entitlement and elitist behavior in the name of social norm.

What hope do we have as a society if we celebrate over confidence and elitist attitudes? Where is the spiritual growth in that? Aren’t we all getting rather materialistic?

This is the reason being humble is such a deep necessity for our society at large. But can we go change every person on this planet? NO! That’s literally impossible…so then what? Do we go on living the same way? Can we really find happiness in this cesspool of over indulgence? Continue reading


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Positive Prompt for May: Your Positive Growth Depends on This

“I am still learning.” ~ Michelangelo at age 87

Michelangelo (6 March 1475 – 18 February 1564) was an Italian sculptor, painter, architect, and poet of the High Renaissance who is considered to be the greatest living artist during his lifetime, he has since been described as one of the greatest artists of all time.

And even after being considered the greatest living artist of all time, he still said “I am still learning.” at the age of 87. An age where people usually think they have done it all and need to retire and take it easy. Michelangelo at that age knows that he is still learning….That’s the difference between greatness and mediocrity. That’s the difference between humility and ego.

“We now accept the fact that learning is a lifelong process of keeping abreast of change. And the most pressing task is to teach people how to learn.”Peter Drucker

Are you open to learning everyday? Or do you live in the “I know everything” mode? 

Being closed to learning is like being closed to life itself.

Saying “I know everything” is NOT being wise, its being foolish. If you aren’t learning in every given moment of every given day, then its a waste of the grey matter we are all SO blessed with. Continue reading


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7 Positive Daily Habits to Live Stress Free

“Stress is not what happens to us. It’s our response to what happens and response is something we can choose.” ~ Maureen Killoran

Believe it or not, we are almost always surrounded by stress. Be it work stress, relationship stress, self image stress, social stress, world events stress….the list can be endless. Stress is unavoidable…it will be thrown at us at every nook and corner…BUT although we don’t have a choice at what is thrown at us…we have a choice as to how we allow it to effect us.

As human tendency we tend to reflect on the past and think of all the things we achieved or didn’t achieve. I personally choose to focus on what I did achieve…that leads me to feel happy for the time that has gone by and makes me feel hopeful for the future.

Over the years I’ve come to understand and manage stress positively and keep it as far away from me as possible. The one thing I do know, is that I have to work on keeping stress away from me on a daily basis. A conscious effort to live stress free is imperative. Continue reading


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10 Loving Ways to Add Happiness to your Relationships


“Let your love be like the misty rains, coming softly, but flooding the river.” ~Malagasy Proverb

After receiving countless lovely emails and messages regarding different kinds of relationships and the problems in them, this is the article I wrote, which attempts to answer almost all of those queries. 

One of my friends recently gave me an article about happiness that asked the question, “How happy can we be?” Pretty darn happy if I’m in love, you might say. But according to psychologists, about 50 percent of our happiness is determined by our genes, and amazingly only about 10 percent has to do with our actual circumstances. The other 40 percent has to do with what we do to counteract a seemingly natural tendency for us to stay at or around what we psychologists term our “set point” or “base line.”

In other words people tend to reach a goal, whether it be finding love, getting married, or making more money and feel a surge of happiness for a while, only to soon adapt back down to their “set point.” Continue reading