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12 Powerful Ways to Reclaim Your Peace When You Can’t Change Others

On By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health, spiritual healing5 Comments

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” ~ Maya Angelou

If there is one massive life lesson I have learnt over the years, it is that I can not control or change anyone, anything, or any situation. And trying to do so only hurts me and no one else. Hence, I stopped trying to change or control what is outside of me.

The truth of the matter is, that everything outside of you is never ever going to be in your control. If the traffic is bad, it is bad. You have no choice but to wait for it start moving. No sense in getting angry or hyperventilating over a fact you cannot change. So instead of getting angry or upset, its best to accept this fact and do something to calm your mind in that moment. Whenever I’m stuck in traffic, I people watch, I nature watch. I look out of the window in awe and admire the many wonders that the Divine has created. That’s so much better than hyperventilating! Right?!

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7 Positive Strategies to Help You Regulate and Manage Negative Emotions

On By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, Heal Your Soul Column, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health2 Comments

“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” ~ Viktor E. Frankl

Managing negative emotions in healthy ways is crucial for overall well-being. When I didn’t know how to manage my own emotions, I would get triggered so fast and then react on that trigger even faster, which often led to me regretting what came out of my mouth.

I came to a point in my life when I was always so exhausted with everything. Which led to the realization that I can’t change anyone, other than myself….and so I need to let everyone be, for the sake of my own peace of mind and sanity.

Basically, mastering my own emotions helped my mind, heart and soul to calm down.

What are negative emotions actually?

Negative emotions are unpleasant or distressing feelings that arise in response to challenging, painful, or threatening situations. They are a natural part of the human emotional spectrum and serve important psychological and survival functions, such as helping us recognize danger, process loss, or respond to injustice.

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Healing is Not About Erasing Your Past

On By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health, spiritual healing6 Comments

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”~ Brene Brown

Our minds and bodies have an incredible ability to protect us. When we experience trauma or prolonged stress, we develop coping mechanisms to survive. These mechanisms unconsciously become our identity.

In the past, I have used emotional eating as a coping mechanism. I have used immersing myself in work till my bones hurt as a coping mechanism. I have used avoidance and isolation as a coping mechanism. But all because I was too afraid at the time to face the feelings and emotions that were coming up. I did it because I needed to survive through so much trauma without any guidance or knowing how.

I know you know what I am talking about. We all have our very own coping mechanisms.

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