Healing Things I would Tell my Younger Self(If time travelling was possible)

“I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.”~ Brené Brown

I didn’t look back on my late teens/early 20s kindly or fondly.

I had gone through a lot of trauma is the first parts of my life which led me to developing anxiety and depression during this time. I was very unwell, and in a state of deep sadness almost all of the time. No, it didnt show on the outside(the people pleaser in me came to the rescue then, in damaging ways ofcourse!).

All my relationships at that time in my life felt toxic, unstable, full of anxiety and insecurity. I was riddled with self-doubt.

My body was yelling out. I had a heap of physical symptoms of anxiety, I had stomach cramps, that no doctor could find the cause or cure of.

Looking back now, I have compassion for this younger self (this needed work, as originally I looked back with anger, guilt and shame).

I understand where my symptoms, struggles and behaviours came from and I can hold loving space for them and my younger self.

I overcame my depression, learned to listen to my body, dissociated less, and came to a place where I am now genuinely happy in my own skin.

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How to Set Better Emotional Boundaries and Why they are so Important for Healing

If you want people to respect your boundaries, you need to first set them yourself.

Understanding Emotional Boundaries

Imagine your emotional boundaries as a protective bubble. This bubble keeps your emotions in and other people’s emotions out. 

Having emotional boundaries gives you the ability to witness others emotions without taking their emotions personally (into your bubble) or as your responsibility to react to, fix, or solve. Your emotional boundaries enable you to differentiate where your emotions end and other person’s emotions begin. 

When we have unclear emotional boundaries that we have not even set for ourselves, others emotions flood into our safe space. As a result, we become highly reactive to not only other’s emotions, but also our own. 

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Simplicity, A tool for Spiritual Growth

“Simplicity is a state of mind.” ~ Charles Wagner

Over the past few years my focus has been on Simplicity. Specifically simplifying all areas of my life. 

During this period of simplification I couldnt help but think that the chase after a wealthy life style is a rather complicated affair: the standards keep shifting, and the worries are many. 

That’s why Spiritual mystics speak so often of ‘detachment’. By taking our focus off of getting stuff, we have more of ourselves available to focus on learning to love rightly, or taking time to be face-to-face with those in need, or learning , or learning how to depend on the Divine. You can’t be spiritually in tune and chase wealth; most of the time, the paths go in opposite directions.

From the time I started learning about spirituality and the Divine, I was often faced with situations where I needed to make choices. Choices between Needs and Wants.

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