What is the Purpose of Pain?

”There is no coming to consciousness without pain.” ~ Carl Jung

Being in the field of counseling for more than 20 years now, I see a range of clients, who have many different and varied issues they need help healing from. But the common factor no matter what the issue is, is the pain that they all felt(or feel).

Pain on its own is a very universal feeling. We all, including me, have had our share of pains. So you do understand that healing from pain is not a simple process. There are a multitude of issues to work through and heal through in order to heal that pain. And no, no one size fits all approach can work either.

That being said, I have noticed that in trying to Heal this pain, there are many things we learn about our selves in the process. I have known so many souls, who claim to attain a sense of spiritual growth while trying to heal from their pain.

A question I get asked a lot, due to the spiritual nature of my work is ->

Does pain bring us closer to our higher self? Is there purpose in my pain?

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How Coffee Can Make You Anxious

“I have measured out my life with coffee spoons.” ~ T.S. Eliot

I know I know, I LOVE coffee too!

How can something that is so warm and fuzzy, make me anxious?

Don’t be mad at me for stating something that we all need to know and understand.

Its actually not just the coffee, its the caffeine in the coffee that can trigger anxiety in some.

Now over the years, I have developed a very loving relationship with my coffee. Its my #1 go to in all times of emotional imbalance. I have had coffee when I was upset, or stressed, or thinking or working, or even simply chilling with my favorite people. Coffee is the comforting aura that is connected with happy memories for me.

There’s nothing more comforting than a warm beverage in your favorite mug, how could that be possibly related to anxiety? For some people, there is clear evidence that points to a connection between caffeine and anxiety.

Read on to learn if this could be true for you.

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Healing Things I would Tell my Younger Self(If time travelling was possible)

“I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.”~ Brené Brown

I didn’t look back on my late teens/early 20s kindly or fondly.

I had gone through a lot of trauma is the first parts of my life which led me to developing anxiety and depression during this time. I was very unwell, and in a state of deep sadness almost all of the time. No, it didnt show on the outside(the people pleaser in me came to the rescue then, in damaging ways ofcourse!).

All my relationships at that time in my life felt toxic, unstable, full of anxiety and insecurity. I was riddled with self-doubt.

My body was yelling out. I had a heap of physical symptoms of anxiety, I had stomach cramps, that no doctor could find the cause or cure of.

Looking back now, I have compassion for this younger self (this needed work, as originally I looked back with anger, guilt and shame).

I understand where my symptoms, struggles and behaviours came from and I can hold loving space for them and my younger self.

I overcame my depression, learned to listen to my body, dissociated less, and came to a place where I am now genuinely happy in my own skin.

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