“What if I fall?” Oh but my darling, What if you fly? ~ Eric Hanson

Do you have decision overload and end up doing nothing?

It’s easy to feel a bit lost when the next step in your life plan feels so overwhelming that you freeze up and procrastinate… Which is your brains reaction to a perceived threat.

I see this particularly in younger clients who feel there are certain hoops they need to jump through in order for the next chapter in their lives to begin.

They have to meet THE partner or establish the RIGHT career before STARTING a family or AFFORDING a house in the right area to be close to the RIGHT school… exhausting and also frightening as the constant backdrop is ‘what if I fail.’

It can create analysis paralysis meaning it is impossible to make any decisions as the fear of getting it wrong is so huge.

What if you could think of decisions differently, more positively?

You take so many decisions everyday; like what to eat, when to go to bed or who to hang out with and so on. You don’t fear those decisions because the outcome isn’t loaded.

If you pick the wrong sandwich for lunch nothing bad is going to happen in your mind. You may make a mental note to not pick that particular kind again but there it stops.

But when there are high expectations linked to the outcome of a decision, it can start to feel weighty. Like you CAN’T fail because so much is riding in this.

There is NO Perfect Decision

By reframing the need to make perfect decisions, you can allow yourself to be human and recognise that some decisions are going to be good and others won’t be. And that is ok. Perfection is a myth designed to keep us small.

Come back to the present moment and focus on today, this week or this month. Most things tend to work out, and if they don’t it is something to learn from. With hindsight it might be a better outcome anyway.

Practice making decisions neutral and don’t get so hung up on the outcome. It’ll probably work out to be 50/50 anyway.

And you’ll have a calmer nervous system as you don’t have to fret failure or perfectionism. Isn’t that such a calming and healing way to live? ❤

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