Unavailable Partners ~ Why we choose them & what’s the solution

“All relationships are a reflection of our relationship to ourself.” ~ Deepak Chopra

We all have been in relationships or are in relationships or are looking for a relationship. The partners we choose to fall in love with and to spend our lives with directly affect our state of happiness for the long haul.

Our life is then entwined and blended with this partner. Be it building a life, a home, a family etc. Its all part of the growth that happens with this partner by our side.

But what happens when who we choose for ourselves, doesn’t exactly make us feel loved Or makes our life difficult and painful. What if they are not who we thought?

One question I get asked a lot in therapy sessions is, “But why did I then choose such a partner who was not going to be a source of happiness for me? And why did he/she choose me?”

From the get go, please know that relationships are complicated and simple all at the same time. Complicated when they don’t work easily and Simple when they do. The LOVE is what keeps most people together even if the partnership is complicated.

As evolving souls, who are trying to attain spiritual growth, we choose to practice radical authenticity and honesty with ourselves about our relational patterns and needs. In that realm of honesty, unavailable partners are no longer attractive or a viable option. But, even though they are not an option, we still tend to choose them. Why?

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50 Love Quotes to Help Your Heart Heal on Valentine’s

Happy Valentine’s Day and Month darlings!❤️🌹

How much are you focusing on love today?

Me, oh little ol’ me is all in a crazy valentine chocolate heart loving high 🙂 ❤ Don’t judge me! I love love. And I love February, because my daughter came into this world on 27th of this month. See love all around. She is one love bunny I can’t imagine life without. Love in its purest form she is. ❤

While Love is our default setting, I like how atleast in one month of the year, its SO in your face its hard to miss 🙂

For those who know me, know that I’m a quotes junkie. A very very avid one at that too. But although I love quotes, cause they are SO full of wisdom and life lessons, my favorite kind of quotes are Love Quotes.

Why?

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4 Ways of Calming Life’s Chaos

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“It’s all about finding the calm in the chaos.” ~ Donna Karan

Life is So rich, so stimulating, so amazing! I love how life thrives in me and around me. There are opportunities and activities going on everywhere around me and I feel like a kid at a carnival, wondering which game to play first. Its an amazing feeling to be immersed in the wide tapestry of life and enjoy its colors fully. There is wonder and awe everywhere if we choose to see it that way.

But, while life can be full of all things amazing, it can also be full of unmanageable tension when our mind is going so many places at once. That’s inner chaos for you. On the outside, it all feels doable, approachable, delicious even…but on the inside there is indecisiveness, stress, anxiety and tension.

Sounds familiar?

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