How Being Kind to Yourself Helps Heal Trauma+A Self-Kindness Ritual for Healing Trauma

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”~Buddha

Trauma leaves imprints not only on the mind and body, but also on the spirit. When we’ve been hurt, neglected, or overwhelmed, our nervous system often learns to live in survival mode: hypervigilant, self-critical, and disconnected. In this state, we may find it difficult to trust ourselves, our bodies, or even the goodness of life.

Self-kindness becomes a medicine for these wounds. Here’s how:

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How to Love Yourself this Valentine’s Day(and everyday!)

“My primary relationship is with myself – all others are mirrors of it. As I learn to love myself, I automatically receive the love and appreciation that I desire from others. If I am committed to myself and to living my truth, I will attract others with equal commitment.”~Shakti Gawain

Self Love is the ONLY force that can make us whole and healed. We all KNOW this fact, yet we still struggle with it.

I hold workshops on Self-love and Positive Life Management all the time in my city. In a recent workshop on Self-love, while discussing the merits of it, a kind gentleman asked, “But I think self-love is just too self-indulgent and narcissistic! How can I think of myself when I have so many responsibilities towards my family and loved ones? Shouldn’t I be thinking of them first before my own needs?”

I smiled at him and said, “How can you fully serve your loved ones and make them happy, when you are not happy yourself? If you are having a bad day, will you go home and be loving to your family or be moody?”

He said, “Of course, I’ll be moody! I have to vent at some point.” I responded, “Is that fair to your family? If you love yourself, you will NOT allow yourself to be sucked into a bad day. You will give yourself the gift of calming down and being happy no matter what kind of day you are having, because you know YOU are worth it. Anger, irritations, shitty days etc won’t trouble your inner happiness. And then when you go home, how will you be with your family?”

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What’s in YOUR cup?~Positive Weekend Nudge🩷

You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you or shakes your arm, making you spill your coffee everywhere.

Why do you think you spilled the coffee?

“Because someone bumped into me!”

Wrong answer.

You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea. Right?

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