“Year’s end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on, with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us.” ~ Hal Borland
2022, the year when the world started getting back to normal after the pandemic. The collective human consciousness was in a state of lets go back to normal mode. Everyone wanted to live like they lived pre-pandemic. This was that year when we all made ourselves believe it was almost back to normal. But really, was it? Or rather, is it back to normal?
Normal, I think is totally overrated. When were we all totally normal anyway? But the human mind likes to feel like it can recreate a familiar space, because it needs to feel safe.
“All relationships are a reflection of our relationship to ourself.” ~ Deepak Chopra
We all have been in relationships or are in relationships or are looking for a relationship. The partners we choose to fall in love with and to spend our lives with directly affect our state of happiness for the long haul.
Our life is then entwined and blended with this partner. Be it building a life, a home, a family etc. Its all part of the growth that happens with this partner by our side.
But what happens when who we choose for ourselves, doesn’t exactly make us feel loved Or makes our life difficult and painful. What if they are not who we thought?
One question I get asked a lot in therapy sessions is, “But why did I then choose such a partner who was not going to be a source of happiness for me? And why did he/she choose me?”
From the get go, please know that relationships are complicated and simple all at the same time. Complicated when they don’t work easily and Simple when they do. The LOVE is what keeps most people together even if the partnership is complicated.
As evolving souls, who are trying to attain spiritual growth, we choose to practice radical authenticity and honesty with ourselves about our relational patterns and needs. In that realm of honesty, unavailable partners are no longer attractive or a viable option. But, even though they are not an option, we still tend to choose them. Why?
In our world today we have many figure heads. Many leaders of courtries and many prominent personalities. But, how many of them are we truly happy with?
When I ask this question to anyone, I always get the answer that, ‘not happy, but what can we do?’
Back in my University days, I had a project that I needed to submit on “The Power of Human Kindness”. As part of the project we needed to present factual findings and surveys to prove our hypothesis.
One of the major questions I asked as part of that project to people around was, ‘Who would you choose as a world leader if you had the choice, from anyone living or dead?’…the answer still astounds me.