At some point in time, most of us have been in this position. We recognize some pattern of behaviour in ourselves that we would like to change, but often feel powerless to do so. Everything we try seems to lead nowhere. As we probe deeper into the source of this behavior, we can often link the behavior to some past event or experience in our lives. In some cases, it is the result of a single traumatic event, whether that be a betrayal, an injury, an attack or a perceived injustice. In others, it is the result of mental, emotional or physical abuse that has occured over and extended period of time. However, understanding the source of the behaviour is not always enough to change it. If we are unable to release our anger, pain and fear, all of the baggage that we carry as a result of this past experience, we remain stuck, and continue to allow these past experiences to shape our future in ways that aren’t always healthy and often create more pain and suffering in our lives.