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Unlearning & Healing from Dysfunctional Love

On By Zeenat Merchant Syal|PositiveProvocations.comIn Mind, Mind, Heart& Soul-Motivation&Inspiration, Mind-Mental Health, Positive Self Reflection11 Comments

“Love does not dominate; it cultivates.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Let’s normalise Self Love. Let’s normalise healing. Not only are you worthy of the love you did not recieve as a child, but you are capable of so much more in terms of living your best life.

We all grew up not knowing what self love was. Honestly, we grew up not knowing what LOVE was to begin with. We accepted the fairy tale versions of love as definitions of real love. We accepted our dysfunctional setups as normal love. If that meant living in emotionally and physically abusive households, we thought that was normal. Not anyone’s fault, it was all we knew.

It was our normal.

Only as adults who suffer from pains and traumas, do we realize that past was not normal. It was a dysfunctional setup, that fractured our emotional growth.

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How to End the Year on a Gentle, Healing Note

On By Zeenat Merchant Syal|PositiveProvocations.comIn Mind, Mind, Heart& Soul-Motivation&Inspiration, Mind-Mental Health, Positive Self Reflection7 Comments

“Year’s end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on, with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us.”
~ Hal Borland

2022, the year when the world started getting back to normal after the pandemic. The collective human consciousness was in a state of lets go back to normal mode. Everyone wanted to live like they lived pre-pandemic. This was that year when we all made ourselves believe it was almost back to normal. But really, was it? Or rather, is it back to normal?

Normal, I think is totally overrated. When were we all totally normal anyway? But the human mind likes to feel like it can recreate a familiar space, because it needs to feel safe.

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How to Heal with Positive Self-Talk

On By Zeenat Merchant Syal|PositiveProvocations.comIn Heal Your Soul Column, Mind, Mind, Heart& Soul-Motivation&Inspiration, Mind-Mental Health17 Comments

“Watch what you tell yourself, you’re likely to believe it.” ~ Russ Kyle

Positive self-talk at its core is all about speaking to yourself and treating yourself with kindness and compassion, just like you would treat and talk to someone you love.

Do we get overtly critical or angry at our little kids or pets or loved ones when they make a small mistake? Then why do we not show ourselves the same compassion and kindness when we make a small mistake?

The internal conversation that you have with yourself is therefore so so important and that is referred to as self-talk. It even includes talking to yourself aloud. Ideally in life, when you live on autopilot mode you are not even aware of your own self-talk. But, everyone engages in self-talk. This self talk can either be positive or negative.

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