Joy and Sorrow are Inseparable

“God turns you from one feeling to another and teaches by means of opposites so that you will have two wings to fly, not one” ~ Rumi

As the month of July ends, I can’t help but think of all the opposites our life is full of. More than half of this year is over and I am in a sort of introspective mood, about how much I have accomplished in the first half of this year. While there are so many goals that I had set for myself for this year, I knew realistically that I would put my full effort to reach them…and not beat myself up about not completing them, if I couldn’t. I’m happy that I am working towards some goals which will materialize at the end of this year..but there are some, I have not even begun. And that is ok too. All in good time.

Light and dark, night and day, happy and sad, negative and positive.

One is incomplete or rather unappreciated without the other. Continue reading “Joy and Sorrow are Inseparable”

10 Loving Ways to Add Happiness to your Relationships


“Let your love be like the misty rains, coming softly, but flooding the river.” ~Malagasy Proverb

After receiving countless lovely emails and messages regarding different kinds of relationships and the problems in them, this is the article I wrote, which attempts to answer almost all of those queries. 

One of my friends recently gave me an article about happiness that asked the question, “How happy can we be?” Pretty darn happy if I’m in love, you might say. But according to psychologists, about 50 percent of our happiness is determined by our genes, and amazingly only about 10 percent has to do with our actual circumstances. The other 40 percent has to do with what we do to counteract a seemingly natural tendency for us to stay at or around what we psychologists term our “set point” or “base line.”

In other words people tend to reach a goal, whether it be finding love, getting married, or making more money and feel a surge of happiness for a while, only to soon adapt back down to their “set point.” Continue reading “10 Loving Ways to Add Happiness to your Relationships”