Joy and Sorrow are Inseparable

“God turns you from one feeling to another and teaches by means of opposites so that you will have two wings to fly, not one” ~ Rumi

As the month of July ends, I can’t help but think of all the opposites our life is full of. More than half of this year is over and I am in a sort of introspective mood, about how much I have accomplished in the first half of this year. While there are so many goals that I had set for myself for this year, I knew realistically that I would put my full effort to reach them…and not beat myself up about not completing them, if I couldn’t. I’m happy that I am working towards some goals which will materialize at the end of this year..but there are some, I have not even begun. And that is ok too. All in good time.

Light and dark, night and day, happy and sad, negative and positive.

One is incomplete or rather unappreciated without the other.

Joy and Sorrow are InseparableAn everyday example of Opposites namely Joy and Sorrow: A few weeks back, my beloved computer crashed all of a sudden. My computer crashing meant a sudden standstill to all my online work(which I love!), which made me sad. In those moments when I was trying to revive the computer all I could feel was sad. I kept thinking of all the online counseling sessions scheduled, all the articles I had to write, which in that moment I thought I couldn’t keep or do cause of this unfortunate event. But, as I let the computer go into the hands of the computer guy, it suddenly dawned on me…”I can use the my mobile till I get the computer fixed.”….hooray! I had a plan..and before you know it, I was back to work within the day. Yes, the mobile/tab is straining on the eyes..only for a short time though. I kept telling myself “Soon the computer will be back and I will be sorted again.”
A few days down and the computer guy came back with bad computer was unfixable. So sadness came back. I thought this is a sign I need to buy a new computer, so I went online to hunt for the prodigal one. Not being able to zero in on any model, I went over to my brother(computer wizard, 3D animator & director) to get his advice. And do you know what he told me? He said “Sister, I need to upgrade my pc. Do you want this one? Its my baby, I’d much rather you have it than sell it. Its only a few months old.”
In that precise moment my jaw dropped and my otherwise gloomy self literally shouted YES! His PC is a super computer because his work demands it he just needs better specs for all the high end graphics work he is into. In my wildest dreams I couldn’t put together a pc like his…and now it was going to be all mine! Woohoo Joy was back into me.

The Universe has plans for us even before we can think or fathom a solution.

The above simple example shows how opposites are a part of our everyday life. My immense joy on acquiring my brothers super computer was the complete opposite of what I felt when my old computer crashed. I wouldn’t have been able to truly enjoy this happiness, this joy had I already not experienced that sorrow of losing my beloved computer. See, opposites…completely inseparable.

We cant appreciate the light if we haven’t seen the dark. Joy and sorrow are much the same way.

The Universe rewards us in the form of opposites, so that we may truly cherish each and appreciate both. I appreciate all the lessons I have learned from the many past traumas of my life, cause they make me truly enjoy and cherish the joy in my everyday now.

One of my favorite philosophers is Khalil GIbran (Poet, painter, writer, philosopher, theologian) rightly says:

Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.

And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?

The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.

Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?

When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.

When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.

Some of you say, “Joy is greater than sorrow,” and others say, “Nay, sorrow is the greater.”

But I say unto you, they are inseparable.

Together they come, and when one sits, alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.

Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.
Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced.

For us to truly find a balance between these opposites, we must not only embrace these feelings but also work towards a certain feeling of calm..where even though I’m embracing and acknowledging these opposite feelings, I am not allowing them to wreck havoc on my core happiness.

I might’ve been sad about my computer crashing, but that didn’t stop me from being me, or from enjoying my life. My heart, my inner serenity should be so strong that nothing and no one can come and wrench the daylights off of it.

Bringing the Power back to yourself is essential to attaining balance between these opposites.

A Positive Affirmation that helps me immensely in these yo yo times:

Positive affirmation“I can choose happiness whenever I wish, no matter what my circumstances. I am Powerful.”

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What are YOUR thoughts on this topic of Joy and Sorrow? Do you think we are surrounded by opposites? How have these opposites in your everyday affected you? Share your thoughts in the comments section. I’d love love love to hear from you!

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7 thoughts on “Joy and Sorrow are Inseparable

  1. Love your ‘happy ending’ Zeenat. I truly believe that regardless of the experiences we have that seem awful or even catastrophic there’s always something wonderful going to come out of them. And it’s what I experience more often than not.! And clearly dear one, so do you. Love that. 🙂

  2. I love the reminder in your opening Rumi quote — those opposites really do provide some balance. And I’m glad your computer adventure had such a happy ending!

  3. Beautiful post, Zeenat. I love it when the Universe sends us something greater than we even imagined possible. It always seems like a sign to me that we are on the right path!

  4. This spoke right to my heart and i could probably expand on that too Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. Amazing how often a challenge unmasks a greater learning for us xxx

  5. Rasna Aisha

    Hi Zeenat! I love you! Maa shaa Allah! You are the kind of person that I want to be and I am just starting on my journey. I am a blogger too, and your kind of writing is the foundation I want for my website. I love persons and writers like you. Soo inspiring and lovable. Thank you for all the positivities! God bless.

  6. Hi Zeenat! A very lovely post, wonderfully written. Only hoping our younger generation can process there sadness the same way you do when their phone battery dies.
    I most enjoyed the written piece from Khalil GIbran and how you connected to your situation, some truly great words. The Positive Affirmation quote is very inspiring!

    Please keep telling those great stories and spreading your positivity.

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