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Lessons From Motherhood~A Tribute to all Mothers and their Children

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Every day when I look at my little girl, growing up in front of me..all I can think of is how she has so much NEW to her everyday. Everyday there is a new sentence she will learn a new way to say something old. Everyday to me is a marvel with my little girl around.

As I think back to my childhood days, I remember being very naughty. I also remember being very rebellious and difficult when I was a teenager. But I also really remember how my mother tried her hardest to make me understand life with love. She stayed up nights when we were ill, cried when we scraped our knees, nursed us when we were down. She was there always. My mother worked very hard, but she still tried her level best to put a hot meal on the table, made sure we said our prayers, kept us clean and most of all happy. Today as a grown woman I can appreciate all this.

WHY?

Cause today I’m a mother too. I always loved kids. I was the neighborhood’s favorite baby sitter growing up. I knew, I wanted to be a mother even when I was 12 years old. But the first time I felt my little one kick me from inside me, it was the most profound moment of my life. There was life inside me…a life that depended on me completely. It was my largest leap of growing up ever. The sense of immediate responsibility makes your mind boggle.

Haaniya with her Mummy(me)

Then when I saw her smile amidst pain and pants, those tiny fingers, those glimmering eyes….ahhh…that was pure bliss for me. But the real test of motherhood comes amid the smiles. When she would cry all night, when she would get a nappy rash or when she would get a fever….oh I would cry with her too-buckets! My own mum would say, “I haven’t seen you cry this much in so many years, the way you are crying for your little one.” Its kind of true.I literally started appreciating my mother and all she did and still does for us.

I feel at all times, my girl is like this little person who is walking around the world with my heart totally attached to her. The attachment, the love, the connection, the bliss is more precious to me than all treasures of all the worlds put together.

Lessons I learned from 4 years of motherhood:

  • To Love Unconditionally- I knew ‘love’ long before having a baby. Or atleast I thought I knew love. But when you carry and nurture a baby for nine months inside of you, feeling her every move, hearing her every thought…and then when she comes into the world-seeing her every tear, feeling all her pain and knowing, just knowing …as a mother you will be so completely in love with her divinity. I know what she needs before she needs it, or ever asks for it….I feel her moods change, even before she does….if thats not proof of unconditional love what is? I feel like, I will never be able to love her enough….there is still so much love to give….sometimes even I’m in complete amazement at how much love I can feel for this little angel of mine.
  • To Appreciate Purity- Life conditions you to be strong. To be logical. In the process we kind of lose our pure divine states. But becoming a mother, opens you up to so much purity. The purity of the child’s smile, the child’s love, the child’s actions towards you. You cant help but appreciate Purity in its true state…and have some rub off on you too. I always feel like children are Gods little angels, full of love and purity.
  • To go Back to Innocence- As we grow up and take responsibility of life and all things in it, our own innocence gets covered up in layers of worldliness. But with a child in the house, there are innocent questions, there are innocent conversations, there are innocent ring-a-ring-a-roses and chook chook trains and doll houses and tea parties…..how can the innocence of it all not take you back to that childlike state of complete innocence. There is a certain charm, a certain divinity that comes forth from pure innocence.
  • Acquired Tremendous Patience- Children are little angels, but can be naughty too. Parenting and motherhood requires that we nurture our little ones to the best of our ability….yes, even in the middle of a grocery store “I want chocolate” tantrum. At times like these patience is the only virtue that can keep you sane. I have to admit it took me a while to get this one right. The little trick for me is to be calm myself, and then handle whatever tantrums that come my way. Calm me, calms her faster πŸ™‚
  • Fine tuned my personality- Here in comes the taking responsibility bit. When you realize your every move, every word is being watched with complete and total attention and even emulated, it jolts the daylights out of you. Especially when the little one picks up on a something not-so-good you might’ve said or done. Its incentive enough to clean up your act. After all we are the role models for our children.

Noone really has the perfect relationship with their mother’s, but whats imperative is that the love and the connection dont change. Situations change, Love doesnt.

Haaniya with my beautiful mummy πŸ™‚

Today as a grown woman, as a mother, as a human being I try my level best to live a conscious life. But even then, I make mistakes. I fall. And thats ok. I learn, I understand and move ahead with the lessons I learned along the way. Its because of this reason and this reason only, I can let go of the little imperfections of my mother. Infact, thats what makes her more interesting to me today. Today she is my best friend and even my BFF πŸ™‚ We talk about everything, share everything. Yes, she still lectures me, corrects me, takes my case and we do disagree on so many things……but like I said earlier, the love hasn’t changed. I know she means well and says and does everything out of love. I might not understand those reasons sometimes…but that doesn’t affect our relationship. After-all I’m no perfect little daughter either na πŸ™‚ We all have our minor imperfections.

Love does truly Conquer all!

Today on this precious day full of love I salute the spirit of every Mother. The spirit of every Child that teaches the mother new lessons everyday and vice versa.

Other Beautiful thoughts on Motherhood:
A few days back, I had asked a my Facebook community of friends to share their experiences and lessons from motherhood. I got a whole lot of loving responses, but most mothers wanted to keep their learning private between them and me only, which I completely respect. But my dear friend Joy who I call my butterflies and glitter soul sister, responded with immense love. Below is an excerpt from her response, to read the complete post please visit her blog.
Joy’s thoughts on Motherhood: I grew up minus the presence of a mother in my life.Β  I’ve always had a heart full of love and known I was “born” to be a wife and mother.Β  I enjoy serving others, and my entire Being knew one of my life’s purposes was to one day serve my own family with pleasure.Β  I got married, and we planned children.Β  It was a joy to plan to create children and to vision guiding them through life.Β  It was an absolute joy to birth my children (yes, it was painful and they both have their own beginning of life stories, but still what a joy!).Β  My marriage ended.Β  My joy continued. I look at my children and know I am blessed beyond imagination to be their mother.{click here to continue reading}

What are YOUR thoughts on Mother’s Day? What are the lessons you have learned from motherhood or parenthood? How have these lessons changed you? Do share your wondrous thoughts in the comments below and if you liked this article/blog, share it on facebook, twitter…and better still Send it to your Mother with a note saying “I love you” πŸ™‚

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY to each and every one of you!!! Shower some love today…and everyday πŸ™‚

With Immense Love & Gratitude,
~Zeenat~
Counseling Psychologist/Spiritual Counselor
Motivational Speaker/Naturopath


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Author: Zeenat {PositiveProvocations.com}

Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor/Motivational Speaker/Naturopath/Holistic Healer/Writer

12 thoughts on “Lessons From Motherhood~A Tribute to all Mothers and their Children

  1. Beautiful! I have a 10 month old and everything you said is true! Your words are truly from a mother’s heart.

    • HI Aileen,
      So glad to see you here. As a new mother you completely ‘get’ what I’m saying πŸ™‚ I’m happy you agree with me….and that yes, out motherly heart can only overflow with love….
      Thank you for your lovely comment here.
      Much love~

  2. Zeenat,
    I am reading this with my daughter..we both notice that your precious one is your physical reflection, just as my daughter is mine!!! We smile with you both! Lovin’ that:)
    You and I know that the reflection goes far beyond physical, though..what an amazing, fulfilling, Divine relationship!
    I, too, salute all mothers..may we remember to focus on sharing fruits of the Spirit as we relate with our children and All children…

    • Darling Joy,
      Ohhh you and your daughter reading my thoughts….I’m just wondering how she is reacting to all this motherly blabber I’m doing here πŸ™‚ Kids have this amazing way of being honest…very much a learning experience. This connection with our kids is as you say and I completely agree….far beyond just the physical….Divinity abound πŸ™‚
      You are doing a marvelous job there of instilling abundance in your children’s hearts…..the best gift!
      Thank you for this beautiful and heart warming comment here.
      Much Love~

  3. Zeenat,

    I love the idea of returning to innocence and purity! I’m so attached to my kitties that I can’t imagine being the mother of a child for a moment. I admire your positive spirit and how you let the inspiration of your child’s heart and soul to light up your life.

    • HI Sandra,
      Kitties are so so cute! I used to have kitties when i was younger and really loved the whole nurturing process so much. But then I went on to be the same with kids too and now my own kiddo too πŸ™‚
      We each have this mothering nature….it has to come out in someway….be it for mother nature, for the world at large, for animals, pets, partners, friends…..and yes even our kids. All us women are natural born mothers. How we choose to express that nurturing love is entirely upto us. Hence you are a beautiful nurturing mother too…and those kitties are tooooooooooo lucky!
      Love your comment here..and I want to see pics of your kitties soon.
      Much Love~

  4. I’m lucky. My Mother is still here on Earth with me. Even though she did not really know what she was doing (because I was her first child) we are close friends now. I try to maintain this relationship all days, but affording her special honor on a holiday is a fine thing as well.

    • HI Mikey,
      I’m a mother of a first born too…but hey I learned….although I have to admit I really had no clue in the beginning…but going gaga over parenting books, makes a big difference πŸ™‚
      MOthers have a natural instinct to do their best….sometimes situations are different…but the love is there…always only growing.
      I’m glad you have a good relationship with your mother even today..that says a lot about the caring person you really are.
      Thank you for sharing your lovely thoughts here Mikey.
      Much Love,
      p.s. sorry I’ve been offline lately…hence havent been over to your blog. But all that changes today….be prepared…you’ll be seeing too much of me now πŸ˜‰

  5. Zeenat,
    I loved that you’ve shared your adorable daughter with us. I don’t have children but I do have a mother and I truly appreciate her! Happy Mother’s Day to you!

    • Hi Angela,
      Kids have this beautiful quality to their presence no amount of words can describe….but I’ve tried. I’m glad you liked this little tribute.
      Happy Mothers to you and your beautiful mum πŸ™‚
      Much love~

  6. Beautiful Zeenat, and precious mother that you are, I think your little girl is extraordinarily lucky to have you as a mom. She has an angel in her everyday life to teach and guide her; oh what a gift!

    I don’t have any children of my own, but feel the mothering instinct inside of me with those I love when they are in need. There’s something quite delicate and lovely about the nurturing energy. I feel blessed when it rises up within me.

    And you chose quite a mother to include an excerpt from in today’s post. Joy is the most unique of parents, in my opinion, because of her belief in unfolding. I wonder how my life would have been different if my parents had let me help shape our day to day a bit more? No bother, I’m grateful for how I turned out. (smile)

    Love to you, and all mothers today!

    • My Joyful angel,
      You are certainly a great heart! And many times I think if my childhood would’ve been a certain way…I would’ve been different….but in reality I’m so happy with myself today..that I wouldnt change a thing. It has all added to me being ME today so I’m grateful.
      You floor me with your compliments here….thank you! I do hope I’m doing a good job as a mother…only time will tell if it all works out…I just wish I could prepare my little one for the world a little better.
      Joy is amazing..and its no surprise she has her own unique twist to parenting with unfolding in it.
      Thank you for your lovely, super beautiful comment here…and You in my eyes are already a mother….a world mother πŸ™‚ and I love you for that.
      So Much Love~