Healing is Not About Erasing Your Past

On April 19, 2025April 19, 2025 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health, spiritual healing6 Comments

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”~ Brene Brown

Our minds and bodies have an incredible ability to protect us. When we experience trauma or prolonged stress, we develop coping mechanisms to survive. These mechanisms unconsciously become our identity.

In the past, I have used emotional eating as a coping mechanism. I have used immersing myself in work till my bones hurt as a coping mechanism. I have used avoidance and isolation as a coping mechanism. But all because I was too afraid at the time to face the feelings and emotions that were coming up. I did it because I needed to survive through so much trauma without any guidance or knowing how.

I know you know what I am talking about. We all have our very own coping mechanisms.

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5 Positive Questions You Should Always Answer YES to

On March 19, 2025March 19, 2025 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health, spiritual healing8 Comments

“If someone offers you an amazing opportunity to do something and you’re not sure you can do it, say yes. Then learn how to do it later.” ~ Richard Branson

There are some questions that never need to hear the answer NO.

Just imagine the possibility of what your life would be like if you always said YES more often. If you accepted every invitation, dared to enjoy every adventure and chose to be friends with strangers. Of course, this could put you in some risky positions but it could also make your life a whole lot more interesting. There are surely questions that should be answered with a resounding NO. When it comes to your emotional boundaries and healing you need to say No a lot more…but then when it comes to making life more interesting many more questions can be answered with a definitive yes.

“Yes” has magic within it. So often we are afraid of life — we fear failure, we anticipate the worst, we don’t know what to expect. So, we say NO. But often by saying “no”, we reject many of life’s brilliant chances.

Here is a look at five such positive questions that you should always answer YES to:

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A Positive Step-by-Step Guide to Handling Any BIG Emotion

On March 4, 2025March 4, 2025 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind-Mental Health, Positive Self Reflection, spiritual healing21 Comments

“Depression and anxiety can’t fit in your head if you’re cultivating feelings of joy and inspiration.” ~ Austin Butler

Life is a journey that is actually full of emotions and feelings. Everything that happens in our life we have attached an emotion to it. In fact, if you think of any event from the past(even yesterday) the emotion attached to that event is what you feel first when you think about it.

Its amazing how everything we are, is a sum total of the feelings and emotions we have been through. But, sometimes the emotions feel too BIG to handle in certain situations. And that is very normal. We all can feel overwhelmed when we feel these big emotions coming on. They are often triggered by life-changing decisions or events.

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