The Power of Self-Love

“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.” ~ Louise Hay

In a world where comparison and self-criticism run rampant, the concept of self-love has emerged as a beacon of hope and empowerment. Self-love is not merely a fleeting trend or a buzzword; it’s a transformative practice that can lead to profound personal growth, happiness, and emotional healing. In this article, I’ll share the essence of self-love, its benefits, and practical steps to cultivate this beautiful virtue within ourselves.

What is Self-love?

“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.” ~ Mandy Hale

I’m a huge fan of all things love. Self-love came on my radar when I started working on my own past emotional wounds. Till that time, and for a long while after that too, I thought self-love was a downright self-indulgent and self-serving concept. That is what most people still think of it. But as I studied it further and explored all the facets of this beautiful practice, did I realize that THIS is in fact one of the most healing practices to fully and completely integrate my fractured emotional self.

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Unlearning & Healing from Dysfunctional Love

“Love does not dominate; it cultivates.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Let’s normalise Self Love. Let’s normalise healing. Not only are you worthy of the love you did not recieve as a child, but you are capable of so much more in terms of living your best life.

We all grew up not knowing what self love was. Honestly, we grew up not knowing what LOVE was to begin with. We accepted the fairy tale versions of love as definitions of real love. We accepted our dysfunctional setups as normal love. If that meant living in emotionally and physically abusive households, we thought that was normal. Not anyone’s fault, it was all we knew.

It was our normal.

Only as adults who suffer from pains and traumas, do we realize that past was not normal. It was a dysfunctional setup, that fractured our emotional growth.

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Unavailable Partners ~ Why we choose them & what’s the solution

“All relationships are a reflection of our relationship to ourself.” ~ Deepak Chopra

We all have been in relationships or are in relationships or are looking for a relationship. The partners we choose to fall in love with and to spend our lives with directly affect our state of happiness for the long haul.

Our life is then entwined and blended with this partner. Be it building a life, a home, a family etc. Its all part of the growth that happens with this partner by our side.

But what happens when who we choose for ourselves, doesn’t exactly make us feel loved Or makes our life difficult and painful. What if they are not who we thought?

One question I get asked a lot in therapy sessions is, “But why did I then choose such a partner who was not going to be a source of happiness for me? And why did he/she choose me?”

From the get go, please know that relationships are complicated and simple all at the same time. Complicated when they don’t work easily and Simple when they do. The LOVE is what keeps most people together even if the partnership is complicated.

As evolving souls, who are trying to attain spiritual growth, we choose to practice radical authenticity and honesty with ourselves about our relational patterns and needs. In that realm of honesty, unavailable partners are no longer attractive or a viable option. But, even though they are not an option, we still tend to choose them. Why?

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