How Self-Care IS Self-Love {Self-love Series #1}

On February 6, 2024 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Emotions, healing, Mind, Mind, Heart& Soul-Motivation&Inspiration, Mind-Mental Health, spiritual healing7 Comments

“Your heart is the size of an ocean. Go find yourself in its hidden depths.” ~ Rumi

Happy February aka Self Love month darlings! I know I know, its supposed to be valentines this and valentines that everywhere. Unmissable even if you don’t celebrate the day.

Just yesterday as I was out shopping a friend asked, “what are you getting for valentine’s day? what gifts are you giving on valentine’s day?” I replied, “Every year I gift myself on Valentine’s day.” She looked at me like I was speaking a foreign language. I excitedly exclaimed to her “Self love baby!”

Self-love is one of my favorite topics to talk about. One of the reasons that I love talking about it so much is because its such a wholesome topic and also that it’s different for everyone. The BEST thing about it is, it facilitates massive healing shifts within.

So, How do we go about loving ourself in that healing way? Where do we start the self-love journey?

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Unlearning & Healing from Dysfunctional Love

On February 15, 2023 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Mind, Mind, Heart& Soul-Motivation&Inspiration, Mind-Mental Health, Positive Self Reflection11 Comments

“Love does not dominate; it cultivates.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Let’s normalise Self Love. Let’s normalise healing. Not only are you worthy of the love you did not recieve as a child, but you are capable of so much more in terms of living your best life.

We all grew up not knowing what self love was. Honestly, we grew up not knowing what LOVE was to begin with. We accepted the fairy tale versions of love as definitions of real love. We accepted our dysfunctional setups as normal love. If that meant living in emotionally and physically abusive households, we thought that was normal. Not anyone’s fault, it was all we knew.

It was our normal.

Only as adults who suffer from pains and traumas, do we realize that past was not normal. It was a dysfunctional setup, that fractured our emotional growth.

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How to Believe in Divine Love and Deal With Loneliness

On February 13, 2019 By Zeenat Merchant Syal-Counseling Psychologist|Spiritual CounselorIn Heal Your Soul Column, Mind, Mind, Heart& Soul-Motivation&Inspiration, Mind-Mental Health, Positive Self Reflection7 Comments

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~ RUMI

And just like that my darlings, we are in February 2019 the Month of Valentine and all things Love. While Love is our default setting, I like how atleast in one month of the year, its SO in your face its hard to miss 🙂

But yet, when it comes to understanding love, we all have different notions of what love is. Today I will attempt to help you understand, how love heals you, motivates you, inspires you and makes you truly come alive. And how LOVE is Divine and nothing less. I’m not talking about the love that makes you dependent….but the love that makes you Free.

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