Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results. ~Willie Nelson
With the year end coming closer than ever, we all find ourselves looking back at the year gone by with its highs and lows.I know I am thinking it. But, today as I embark on this adventure to create my best year yet, I choose to focus on the positives, the highs of the year gone by and learn from the lows.
My little girl is going to get her winter break from school soon and I plan to go visit my mother and not so little brother for it. We usually look forward to our holidays, cause it gives each of us a chance to catch up with the other, while having a marvelous time. For my mum though, she looks forward to seeing what new stuff my little girl has learned in the time apart. They will be geared with love, cameras and yummy food, while we will be geared with love and only love :)
When it comes to spending time with family over the holidays, we all especially have this “issue” with it. We either tend to avoid it(the holiday& the issue) or go for the holiday, with long faces and end up ruining the whole experience.
Alright, we might not always agree to the ways of our relatives and we might not always like their ways, but that should be no excuse not to enjoy a holiday with them. We each think differently, and that’s what makes each and every one of us interesting. How about focusing on that “beautiful difference” for a change, rather than making it the enemy.
We need to give each other the space to grow, to be ourselves, to exercise our diversity. We need to give each other space so that we may both give and receive such beautiful things as ideas, openness, dignity, joy, healing, and inclusion. ~Max de Pree
Focus on the Positive infused with love
When you meet anyone, be it family or friends or just acquaintances, try to only focus on their positives. Every-time a negative trait comes forth, just shrug it aside and replace it with a positive trait. I personally love thinking of each and every person I meet like a huge giant glowing heart :)
Example- if a relative is too inquisitive, then feed his/her inquisitiveness with a funny story about you, all the while focusing and seeing them as a giant beautiful glowing heart. Watch them light up after you have shared your story and feel how good it feels to you. You will instantly start seeing that person in a different more love-filled light. While focusing on their positives also add a bit of love into the mix. Positivity plus love makes for an awesome combination to mend, make and enhance any relationship.
Love one another and help others to rise to the higher levels, simply by pouring out love. Love is infectious and the greatest healing energy.
As I mentioned before, I’m off on my holiday next week. I usually travel light. I don’t carry my laptop etc with me. Just the basics. I don’t want to work on my holiday right :) I do ofcourse carry my awesome phone where I can keep in touch with all of you i.e. blog,email, twitter, facebook.
Sometimes, when I’m at my mums, and I need to use the computer(for personal stuff), my little brother teases me to no end. Let alone tease, he will let me use it only when he is not on it. He is a computer 3d Animator and never off it! So you can imagine my dilemma. But, I’m the positive and loving older sister. Since, we usually meet after so long, we talk into the wee hours of the night. And, then when he is all soft on me after sharing his fun life’s secrets and all that he has been upto, he himself says with a hug, “Didi(elder sister), use the laptop whenever you like.” Isn’t he the sweetest?
I could state many such examples, which include aunts, and relatives from all over. All relationships can become awesome with just the right amount of positivity + love.
So, don’t worry about the holidays. Go enjoy them with your family and friends and keep picturing them as big beautiful hearts. How can your holiday not be Awesome then :)
Here is wishing all of you an awesome, love-filled holiday.
What are your plans for the coming holidays? How do you plan to make them love-filled and memorable? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
Stay Tuned– Next week by popular demand from all my beautiful readers I will talk about how to make the Most positive and productive New year Resolutions Ever! So that you, can start the new year with a big happy positive BANG :)
With Immense Love & Gratitude,
Counseling Psychologist/Spiritual Counselor