“I love you, not for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.” Roy Croft
When we are in love so to say, everything seems perfect. In time when we begin to spend our life with the person we love or persons(parents, children, spouse, friends etc) we come to love their small habits and become acquainted with their needs. But, in time in getting to be so acquainted there is the point when things can go soar. When we feel like its just soemthing you have to do, rather than something you want to do. This usually happens, when the mutual love and respect have been tested over time. In the hustle bustle of life, we stop paying attention to the other persons needs and start focusing only and only on our-self. Focusing on yourself is a good thing, but not at the expense of hurting anothers feelings. We need to learn to find a middle road.
When a love is inhabiting you, or suffocating you, then its not really, love is it. It has changed. In love you dont need to change, you need to be you and be accepted for it. Love is empowering, not disrespectful. Love is gentle, not violent. Love is unconditional, not situation centric.
When you know you can be something, but your love makes you feel like you already are something, thats what true love is to me. Love can make you fly, support your flight and help you when you land face down.
Take the basic example of the pigeon on my window. The calmness with which the mother pigeon sits patiently over her little eggs and waits for her partner to bring her meal and feed it to her, tells me so much more about love than any human interaction i have seen. The purity and simplicity of love is embedded even in birds and other animals, all living things so to say. Then why we as human beings, the so called superior race of evolution cant understand the true essence of it. I think we have a thing or two to learn from our birds and bees and animal counterparts.
“Kindness in words creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.
Kindness in giving creates love.”
– Lao Tzu
At the end of this post i would like to leave you with the lyrics of The Wind Beneath My Wings sung by Bette Midler. Just a perfect and realistic example of how love can truly help you fly.
“Wind Beneath My Wings”
It must have been cold there in my shadow, to never have sunlight on your face. You were content to let me shine, thats your way. You always walked a step behind.
So I was the one with all the glory, while you were the one with all the strength. A beautiful face without a name for so long. A beautiful smile to hide the pain.
Did you ever know that you’re my hero, and everything I would like to be? I can fly higher than an eagle, ’cause you are the wind beneath my wings.
It might have appeared to go unnoticed, but I’ve got it all here in my heart. I want you to know I know the truth, of course I know it. I would be nothing without you.
Did you ever know that you’re my hero? You’re everything I wish I could be. I could fly higher than an eagle, ’cause you are the wind beneath my wings.
Did I ever tell you you’re my hero? You’re everything, everything I wish I could be. Oh, and I, I could fly higher than an eagle, ’cause you are the wind beneath my wings, ’cause you are the wind beneath my wings.
Oh, the wind beneath my wings. You, you, you, you are the wind beneath my wings.
Fly, fly, fly away. You let me fly so high. Oh, you, you, you, the wind beneath my wings. Oh, you, you, you, the wind beneath my wings.
Fly, fly, fly high against the sky, so high I almost touch the sky. Thank you, thank you, thank God for you, the wind beneath my wings.
What does love mean to you? Have you been able to be the wind beneath someones wings? Or has someone been the wind beneath yours?
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