Perfectionism – Positive Provocations

“What if I fall?” Oh but my darling, What if you fly? ~ Eric Hanson

Do you have decision overload and end up doing nothing?

It’s easy to feel a bit lost when the next step in your life plan feels so overwhelming that you freeze up and procrastinate… Which is your brains reaction to a perceived threat.

I see this particularly in younger clients who feel there are certain hoops they need to jump through in order for the next chapter in their lives to begin.

They have to meet THE partner or establish the RIGHT career before STARTING a family or AFFORDING a house in the right area to be close to the RIGHT school… exhausting and also frightening as the constant backdrop is ‘what if I fail.’

It can create analysis paralysis meaning it is impossible to make any decisions as the fear of getting it wrong is so huge.

What if you could think of decisions differently, more positively?

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Simplify and Forgive Yourself for True Emotional Healing “Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it.” ~ Tori Amos

I am not one of those people who plan their every move. I just cant live that way. I prefer going with the flow or rather going with my heart.

In doing so, sometimes I make mistakes.

I never said I was perfect, nor do I aspire to be perfect.

But, somehow we have all been hardwired to be that way.. isn’t it?

From the time you think you start to understand or comprehend life, we are fed the perfectionism myth. The perfect look, the perfect body, the perfect scores in academics, the perfect set of friends. …Anything remotely less than perfect is just not acceptable.

I grew up in a time when if you didn’t have the right look, the perfect high marks in academics, you were considered a lost cause. Its only when I grew up {Ok maybe I do refuse to still actually grow up } , did I realize that Its not how much you score, or how perfect everything in you or around you is that matters…. What matters is just already right there…its our own true self. IN fulfilling the qualms of society and its perfectionism attitude we do often forget what we truly are. We are living lives we are supposed to, but not lives we want to. Continue reading “Simplify and Forgive Yourself for True Emotional Healing” →