The Silent Treatment: When Silence Becomes Emotional Abuse in Relationships

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.” ~ Harvey Fierstein

There is a sacred silence that heals the soul. It is the silence of meditation, of dawn before the world awakens, of two people sitting together without the need to fill every moment with words. This silence nourishes. This silence heals. It creates space for truth to emerge.

But there is another kind of silence. It is the silence that punishes. The silence that controls. The silence that leaves another human being questioning their worth.

In sessions with clients, I have often witnessed people who say, “At least they never yelled at me.” Yet as they speak, their shoulders collapse under the weight of months or years …of being ignored, excluded, or emotionally abandoned. The wounds are invisible, but they are no less real.

Not every silence is peaceful. Sometimes silence becomes a weapon.

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The Serenity of Silence: Lessons Learned on My Healing Journey

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Does silence make you uncomfortable?

“Everything that’s created comes out of silence. Your thoughts emerge from the nothingness of silence. Your words come out of this void. Your very essence emerged from emptiness. All creativity requires some stillness.” ~ Wayne Dyer

I live with my husband and teenage daughter in the hustling and bustling city of Mumbai. Both my loves are vocal and noisy. I do enjoy the life they bring to my home, but that also means there’s not a lot of quiet in our house. On the rare occasion I’m in the house on my own, the washing machine is usually running in the background.

I welcome silence.

Some people reject silence, and some people embrace it…I am the latter. Silence recharges me.

However, I have observed some people seem really uncomfortable at the mere prospect of a period of silence. This is why today we see people surrounding themselves with noise: phones, texts, podcasts, tv etc.

Why is this so?

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In Stillness ~ Sunday Self-Reflection

This Sunday I am reflecting about the times when it is better to speak or simply remain silent given the circumstances of the moment as we are in.

Many Years ago I had a good beautiful conversation with a dear friend about discovering our inner beauty and he brought to our dialogue some key ideas from Eckhart Tolle in his book ‘Stillness Speaks’.  There, he said, “True intelligence operates silently” and “Stillness is where creativity and solutions to problems are found”. Continue reading “In Stillness ~ Sunday Self-Reflection”