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Trust is the Glue of Life

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“Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” – Stephen R. Covey

We all want to have successful and blissful relationships. Relationships that help us become better individuals. Relationships that make us feel secure, warm, loved and most of all relationships that compliment and enhance our being.

But, how many of us actually have that? And if you don’t, whose fault is that? Yours or your partners? Our ego will tell us its our partners fault, cause the ego thinks it is perfect, flawless and is such a delight to be around…Seriously!! How often have we actually thought its maybe a problem with our-self and how we look at everyone around us? When will we learn to look at our faults first and rectify them before pointing fingers and playing the blame game?

Before we can have a successful relationship with anyone, we first need a perfect personal relationship. – Russ Von Hoelscher

A personal relationship with our-self. A relationship of complete trust and honesty. If we are unable to be sure of our-self, our life, our wants, our desires, our needs, how can we expect anyone else to be sure of us? When we are unsure it shows. It shows in the way of frequent arguments. It shows in the way you communicate. It shows in your overall physical and mental behavior, which is more inclined toward the negative. Towards seeing faults, towards blaming, towards trying to win an argument rather than soothe it. Now, I know what you’re thinking…that “I’m NOT like that?”. But, let me assure you, that’s your ego talking.We all have our faults. We are not perfect. And that’s fine. Wisdom comes from acknowledging and accepting those imperfections and enhancing yourself irrespective.

When you are completely and utterly honest with yourself, you will start to see your own shortcomings, your own mistakes. You will start taking action to correct them or fine tune them. When that happens, you will so beautifully be able to ward off the minor-turning into-major-arguments. You will be able to first see yourself, ask yourself…WHY? Why you are reacting to a certain remark or a certain behavior or a certain situation negatively? The answers are always right in front of us…we just need to trust ourselves enough to uncover them.

When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself. – Deepak Chopra

Our fundamental need in any relationship, in life is Trust. Trust yourself first. Then watch and experience how wondrous and truly magical your own relationships become. Relationships that are free of malice, free of negativity. Relationships that are based on complete trust and immense Love, cause that’s how pure and divine a union of two souls really is.

Since, focusing on trusting myself all of July, I uncovered some not so lovely things about myself too. I’m now in the process of fine tuning these not so lovely things about me.

Special note: This months Email newsletter is going to focus on POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS. With real examples from my case studies of couples and families who were on the brink of a melt down, and how they revived their relationships. Trust happens to be just one of the many essences of a positive relationship. If you havent signed up for the Email newsletter, please click here to do so.

Now its your turn….How important do you think trust is in a relationship…especially in a relationship with yourself ? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.

With Immense Love and Gratitude,
~Zeenat~

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RAOKA– This article is part of The RAOKA mission that seeks to remind us that Random Acts of Kick Arse{raoka} happen all around us—and also to spread the spirit. Each month, one of us RAOKA groupies picks a new theme to focus our attention toward positivity and goodness in this world. On the first Wednesday of each month (US time zone) we all post about what we’ve observed.

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check out other TRUST posts:
Lori at Jane Be Nimble,Lance at Jungle of Life , -Gayze at Gazehound’s Animal Communication
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Author: Zeenat {PositiveProvocations.com}

Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor/Motivational Speaker/Naturopath/Holistic Healer/Writer

24 thoughts on “Trust is the Glue of Life

  1. Hi Zeenat!
    You really dug deep here, and I love it so much. To think about what you have written, that if we really trust ourselves and be willing to look at weeds amongst the flowers (I’m paraphrasing : ) ) we can truly work towards a higher meaning of trust by addressing the weeds and improving.

    You are gifted, Zeenat. You have a way of clearing the dust, dazzle, and zazzle of life and looking straight into people’s souls to help provide answers.
    I just love you to pieces!
    ~xo

  2. Zeenat,
    What a wonderful look at TRUST, bringing right back to self…a perfect place to start and work at. This reminds me very much of how far I’ve come over the last few years. By no means am I perfect, not by a longshot. Still, I find that I’m able to look at myself with eyes wide open, and in that – see more clearly “me”. The good and the not so good.

    And today you are helping to remind me to just continue down this path, and really be conscious of the trust I have in “me”…in the good and bad…

    • HI Lance,
      We all have our goods and bads..right. Just looking at it all from this perspective makes the trust factor so so important. And yes, our self is where we all must make the start.
      By the way, perfect or not…youre still so so precious, just the way you are 🙂
      Much Love~

  3. Zeenat, how incredibly true. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how the world we see around us is so often a reflection of the world within. If we are angry inside, everyone and every thing around us appears to be grouchy or negative. If we are delighting in an inner joy, the world seems like it’s filled with rainbows behind every cloud. Trust is no different. In order to open our hearts to trusting others, we must first trust in ourselves … and believe that we are worthy of that trust.

    • Hi Gayze,
      You really said it perfectly. When we are unhappy on the inside, its cause we cant trust ourself to look further than the petty crap. Just looking further, trusting ourself, can make such a huge difference on our own life and to those around us too.
      Thank you for your beautiful comment here Gayze. I’m sorry I havent been around your blog lately. Have so much going on. Will be coming on more often fro sure.
      Much love~

  4. Hello Zeenat!

    You really did an amazing job with this topic. You went to the root of trust, and that is to first look within. It is the same as love, don’t you think? If we do not love ourselves, how can we love another. If we do not have trust in ourselves, how can we ever trust another?

    Inner change always precedes outer change.

    I am grateful to you for the work you put into this article, and for opening my heart and mind even further.

    Much peace and many blessings to you Zeenat

    • Hi Keith,
      I’m always happy to be of service..especially the kind that clears your life and makes it beautiful 🙂 Isnt trust such a wonderful and important factor in our life and in our growth…
      Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts here.
      Peace and blessings to you too~

  5. Hello Zeenat, Oh how your words strike a chord. I had so many arguments with my partner when I was younger, but now we rarely go there. I feel the recent 5 year phase of my life has been especially focused on my inner life lessons thanks to the planet Saturn (the taskmaster and teacher). It’s been challenging but so rewarding. You are so on target, it always comes down to looking within. Hugs to you.

    • HI Sandra,
      You seem to have struck the right balance…and found the inner peace to truly look within and trust yourself. I know its mustve been very hard those years when you were having those arguments…but I am guessing these past 5 years must be a treat 🙂 and so worth the effort..right.
      Lots of love and hugs to your for trusting yourself~

  6. Zeenat — Wow. You got me this one. Trust is one of those life skills that I must always work at. I don’t trust easily. I know the reasons for this and they go way back, but that’s the thing about trust…it’s blooms best with a good foundation.

    So, trust is a challenge, but it’s one that I’m more aware of now. I can see, and feel, the difference between the times I allow myself to trust and when I don’t.

    Regarding my partner, I talk to my boyfriend about my trust issues and he knows my history. I’ve given him permission to let me know when I begin to act in a non-trusting way and then we talk about it. This is important as it helps me “see” inside myself more and learn to trust in trusting myself:~)

    Thanks for this post!

    • Hi Sara,
      so nice to see you her after so long 🙂
      You are lucky to have found a partner who understands you…and you are brave to be able to own up to your mistakes when they are pointed out to you. I hope and pray you get more and more trusting as time goes by. Somehow it makes the world a much more beautiful place to be.
      Lots of love~

  7. It took me a while before I learned that lesson.

    I was pretty hard for cooperation in relationship 🙂 But the truth was that I did not have the courage to face myself and my mistakes. I did not have confidence in myself. I believed that my partner is “guilty” for all sorts of things and I thought, “I will not stand to be a victim. I will not be quiet, I will fight back!” But it was the voice of ego.

    So I suffered until entered the relationship with myself. I realized that it was not a problem in the outside world. The problem was in the inner world. This new awareness has brought me a lot of growth and happiness.

    As always, great article Zeenat!

    • HI Marko,
      Its so nice to read your insights…the ones you have learned on this glorious journey. I am proud and happy that you are now on the right road to trusting yourself. In time you will see..it gets better and better. The deeper you go in this inner world..the better life becomes.
      So glad you liked this article 🙂
      Much love~

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  9. What a wonderful job, i really impressed it.

  10. what a wonderful article, i really impressed your work.

  11. This is interesting. I know a couple who seems to have a relationship as you describe – trusting, loving, supportive, never arguing or disagreeing. And what makes it that much more amazing is that one of them had a 10 plus year affair and several others that were uncovered jsut a year ago. They have established rules and restrictions and no privacy kind of structures in their marriage – and it appears to be exactly what you described above – close and connected and loving and without conflict.
    Trust is an amazing thing – and it starts within and moves from that point.

    • Hi E!
      I’m amazed everyday, at how much Trust is such a major factor in all our relationships. Be it romantic or platonic or others. Having no trust is like having no actual meaningful relationship at all.
      Trust is truly amazing!
      Thank you fro your beautiful comment..and for sharing such a lovely example.
      Much love~

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  13. Zeenat, my darling, this is a fantastic article and I can’t top anything else on the subject of trust. A linkback sent your way on my post today. Thank you for highlighting the importance of trust…..the foundation of all relationships in life no doubt…..!

    • Hi Sweet Farnoosh,
      Thank you for the linkback!! I’m glad you liked this article.
      Trust…oh there is still so much to be said about trust…..maybe i will write one more article as a part two 🙂
      Hugs~

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