“My primary relationship is with myself – all others are mirrors of it. As I learn to love myself, I automatically receive the love and appreciation that I desire from others. If I am committed to myself and to living my truth, I will attract others with equal commitment.”~Shakti Gawain

Self Love is the ONLY force that can make us whole and healed. We all KNOW this fact, yet we still struggle with it.

I hold workshops on Self-love and Positive Life Management all the time in my city. In a recent workshop on Self-love, while discussing the merits of it, a kind gentleman asked, “But I think self-love is just too self-indulgent and narcissistic! How can I think of myself when I have so many responsibilities towards my family and loved ones? Shouldn’t I be thinking of them first before my own needs?”

I smiled at him and said, “How can you fully serve your loved ones and make them happy, when you are not happy yourself? If you are having a bad day, will you go home and be loving to your family or be moody?”

He said, “Of course, I’ll be moody! I have to vent at some point.” I responded, “Is that fair to your family? If you love yourself, you will NOT allow yourself to be sucked into a bad day. You will give yourself the gift of calming down and being happy no matter what kind of day you are having, because you know YOU are worth it. Anger, irritations, shitty days etc won’t trouble your inner happiness. And then when you go home, how will you be with your family?”

At this point I could see his eyes soften and he said, “I will be loving and kind……..I understand now…. that Self Love is NOT self indulgent or narcissistic…it is actually nurturing to me and all those around me too. Thank you!!!”

How to Love Yourself this Valentine’s Day(and everyday!)

Now the BIG Question we all face from time to time is  ~“How do we truly Love Ourselves?”

My #1 favorite way to Love Myself and why?

This is what I do: To nurture myself every day with things that make me feel good is my idea of daily self-love. I wake up early each morning to pray, to meditate, to go for my nature walk, to stretch, to read and listen to motivational teachings. All these positive habits nurture my spirit and keep me centered throughout the day. In my line of work I meet many many troubled souls, and its very easy for me to fall prey to their lower vibrations…but these practices help me to stay on higher more positive vibrations and to lift up all those who I encounter to those vibrations too.
Isn’t that a marvelous?!! I love ME and that is why I love everyone and everything around me, cause I know they are all part of me and reflections of me.

Hoʻoponopono

My #1 Favorite way to Love myself is A mantra I use for myself and keep repeating in my heart for myself and everyone I meet : “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I Love You.” ~ This is the Hoʻoponopono (ho-o-pono-pono) mantra. It is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness of self and others. It instills Oneness of all in the heart.

My Loving Wish for you ❤

This Valentine’s month aka self-love month, I wish you put yourself first. That you learn to say “no” without guilt whenever something doesn’t feel right for your heart. That you rest before reaching your limits and allow yourself to breathe when life feels heavy.

I hope you recognize your small victories because every step counts, even when no one is watching or clapping. Be kind to yourself, celebrate your progress, and value your journey.

Above all, I wish you love yourself enough to protect your peace. That you know when to walk away from what drains your energy, choose joy over exhaustion, and choose yourself above anything that makes you shrink.

May this February be the month you begin to honor yourself — with lightness, strength, and the self-love you truly deserve. ❤

Happy Self-Love month my lovelies ❤
And, be your own valentine for once in your life…it’s such a healing experience.

Tell me- What is your favorite way to love yourself?

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