The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring.~ Oscar Wilde
Let me begin by asking you a simple question:
Are You Loved? Truly and completely loved for who you truly are….
Many of my patients and people I meet feel like they Dont deserve to be loved, even if they are being loved.
Everyone deserves love! Love is a divine gift we each possess the spark of.
Everyone on Earth wants to experience and be loved, but with so many struggling relationships and the enormous divorce rate, something is obviously missing. Why are we still not getting it?
LOVE is whats missing.
There is a simple cycle to solving this major issue of struggling relationships. The cycle is:
self love – give love – heal – self love
Notice how ‘give love’ and ‘heal’ are safely tucked in between self love?
We each deserve to be loved, but first and foremost loved by our-self. If we don’t love our-self for who we are, we will never be able to do justice to any of our relationships. And the relationship that suffers the most in this gross in-acceptance is our relationship with our-self.
Your relationship with Your- Self is the longest relationship you will ever have in this lifetime. You might as well, work on that relationship first. We need to infuse happiness and healing into our self, before we can infuse that same happiness and healing into the world around us.
We all want to be completely healed of our past emotional scars. The simplest and only step you need to make the effort for is self love. The whole healing cycle will just follow naturally.
“Fear is the question. Love is the answer.” – Rain Bojangles
I have an admission to make- I have had a string of failed relationships in my past. Its not a fact I admit to normally, nor am I proud of this. But Today, after all I’ve learned, understood, encountered and felt I know one thing for certain….that all those relationships failed because I wasn’t ‘in self-love’ at the time. Had I been loving towards myself, there are many of those relationships I would’ve have never even gotten into. My broken emotional heart at the time wanted to latch onto to anything that looked like love, even though it clearly wasn’t. Every time any of these relationships failed, I would blame myself and think I dont deserve to be loved.
Today, after a lot of self love and divine intervention I’m whole and healed. I know I deserve love, cause I’m a divine creation meant for it. Today, If after all my giving of healthy love, a relationship still fails, its ok. Its not my fault. I don’t blame myself. Because I know I’ve given all my love in the nurturing of the relationship. And again, if a certain relationship runs its course, the end of it doesn’t distraught me. Infact it gives me a new found clarity about myself and my needs. If the relationship is meant to be, it will be.
My relationship with myself is my guiding force today. I need to be able to look myself in the mirror everyday with a clear conscience and a beaming smile that so so deserves all the love it can get. Giving love and healing become such an amazing by product of self love.
Incase you’re wondering how you too can cultivate and nurture self love….just click here to read the article I wrote sometime back. Its packed with all you need to kick start your self love relationship.
Please Note: This article is the 1st part in the series of articles on “Happy Relationships”. From Self-love, to Giving love, to Finding your soul mate, to having happy healthy loving relationships….all will be unraveled in this “Happy Relationships Series” of articles. Be sure to be subscribed(by clicking here) so that you don’t miss any part of this Heart Opening Series.
What are YOUR thoughts on this topic? Do YOU deserve to be loved? When it comes to self-love, what are your thoughts and experiences on the same? Share your beautiful thoughts in the comments of this article.
With Immense Love & Gratitude,
Counseling Psychologist/Spiritual Counselor
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