I have always loved the Superman movies. Especially the ones with Christopher Reeve as Superman. I don’t know whether it was his acting or his honest eyes that made me love the wonderful actor. Christopher Reeve, who played Superman, became paralyzed from the neck down after a horse riding accident.
When asked about life and hope he said: “Once you choose hope anything’s possible.” ~ Christopher Reeve
Amazingly, it is often those facing the greatest adversity in life who show us ways of accessing the greatest hope.
Although we use the word hope frequently in our daily life, how we use it is also interesting.
How often do we say?
- I hope so
- I feel hopeful
- I hope things work out
- I hope you’re feeling better
- I’m hoping for good weather.
The simplest definition of hope is expectation, trust, anticipation, optimism. To have hope is to dream, to aspire, to plan, to have faith, to take chances, to prospect, to believe in superb likelihoods and possibilities. Hope is a sense of renewal, a confident desire, a looking forward, a feeling that something awesome is likely to happen.
What is the opposite of hope?
The opposite of hope is despair –In despair hope seems lost.
We believe that good things happen for others but never to us. We feel hopless, alone, uncertain. Our expectations leave us and our existence feels limited. With limited expectations hope is limited. With a limited sense of self, our hope is limited.
Healing with Hope
“Hope is always available to us. When we feel defeated, we need only take a deep breath and say, “Yes,” and hope will reappear.” ~ Monroe Forester
While I was shifting home to a new city, I was caught in a fierce storm of emotions, problems and hurdles, which were hindering me finding the ‘right’ home for us in the new city. The storm was frightening in its intensity, mirroring my inner fears of moving homes, of beginning again.
As it became impossible to see, I was forced to breakdown one night and there I wept out my fears as I waited for the worst of the deluge to depart.
In my despair my focus was on the darkness – of all I was losing, of all I didn’t know and couldn’t see ahead. I remember thinking that both the outer conditions and my inner thoughts resembled a long black tunnel with no light at the end. Eventually my heart felt at peace and I fell exhausted into sleep.
Imagine then, my surprise the next morning when I discovered the house I was to rent(the 45th one I saw in a span of one week, with my real-estate broker) lay bathed in sunshine, amidst a glorious garden awash with scented peace and beauty. I entered the home and said ‘yes! this is it!’
Then it occurred to me that while I was weeping my fears in the darkness, this glorious home was already waiting for me, just around the corner, just out of sight, but already there – already a part of my future reality.
It also made me realize, that HOPE is never really lost. I thought in my darkest hour that there was no hope…but my heart new better and let me sleep over it.
Seeing Beyond is Hope
“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” – Dalai Lama
Its best to let go of your attachment to the outcome!
While we are deciding and controlling the end result, we don’t allow the monumental field of possibilities that is open to us just beyond our vision.
As I mentioned before about actor Christopher Reeve, here is what he did with his HOPE: Although he required a wheelchair and breathing apparatus for the rest of his life after his accident, he lobbied on behalf of people with spinal-cord injuries and for human embryonic stem cell research, founding the Christopher Reeve Foundation and co-founding the Reeve-Irvine Research Center. To read more about his life and works click here.
For me, having my hope, fully realized, is to accept where I am now – in the present – the power of NOW. The paradox is that as I fully accept where I am now, I can begin to hope for the brightest most positive future. Healing then comes more naturally.
Where there is hope there is healing.
“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.” ~ Dale Carnegie
What are your thoughts on this topic? Are you a HOPE FULL person? How has HOPE helped you in your life and what has it made you realize? Do share your wisdom in the comments below. I’d love to hear your glorious thoughts on this hope full topic.
Please Note: In the last post after announcing happily that I’d be writing about ‘infidelity’ , my inbox was flooded with MORE emails on the same issue. Hence the post I was writing needs more work to address every aspect of this topic. As soon as I’m done I’ll post it here. Stay tuned!
With Immense Love & Gratitude,
Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor
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