Self Healing through Self Love : The Amplify Love Series, Part 3

On By Zeenat Merchant Syal|PositiveProvocations.comIn Mind, Heart& Soul-Motivation&Inspiration, Mind-Mental Health

Self Healing through Self Love : The Amplify Love Series, Part 3“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~ Rumi

In the last two parts of The Amplify Love Series we spoke of How to Honor Love & Secrets to a Happy Loving Relationship. The natural third part of this series will dwell into Self Healing through Self Love.

We each live with many many scars on our heart and soul. Many we acknowledge, many we shove under the carpet of neglect while many others stay fresh and bring heart ache and pain so often it becomes purely unbearable.

What is the solution to this pain we either acknowledge or neglect? Why dont we allow our past scars to heal?

Very simply, its because we dont truly love ourself.

Self love is at the very core of healing, wellbeing, joy, self-empowerment, and your ability to create and enjoy the kind of life you want. You cannot enjoy happiness if you are not at peace with yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you’ll ever have.

From the spiritual perspective, it is by turning your attention inward to yourSelf that you are able to experience your connection with Life, with God, with All That Is. From the physical perspective, every relationship you ever have with someone else exactly mirrors one or more aspects of the relationship you have with yourself.

Yet, how often have you heard yourself say, “I am my own worst enemy”?

Self-love is a consuming passion for your own happiness. It is an ongoing choice you make to be glad to alive, here on Earth, in your own body.

Self-love occurs when you decide who you are and what you want is important. It is an inner state of being which develops as you decide it is all right to build a kind, sensuous, and meaningful partnership with your self. Self-love involves deciding to connect with your dreams and then supporting yourself with encouraging thoughts and empowering self-supportive actions.

How Self Love helped me to Heal:

“We are healed of a suffering only by experiencing it to the full.” – Marcel Proust

21, bitterly heart broken, depressed, lost in the middle of nowhere, I had discovered positivity. Surrounded amidst crowds, I began loving myself.

Here is how: As I began my spiritual journey many years back, I came to the conclusion that I did not ‘need’ anything except love to survive. I had long given up on material and superficial wants. Its during this time that I began rekindling and acting on my passion to help people. I started doing a lot of charity work, social work…I just let myself be immersed in the crowd. At one such place, while I was playing with a few kids at an orphanage, a little girl came up to me and said, “Didi(means big sister in hindi) you are so nice. I feel very loved when you come over to play with us. Where do you get so much love from?”(this conversation took place in hindi, am translating it here). The little girls question got me thinking…and made me realize that I had infact began loving myself, compared to how much I was blaming myself a few years back. This self-love had helped me love so many more effortlessly. My heart blossomed at this realization…after which my own little love affair with myself and the world continues to this day. Very happily so :)

Self-love is not so much a feeling as it is a decrease of self-doubt and self-disapproval. It involves an ever-growing sense of balance and belonging.

Respect, responsibility for self, and feeling good are important values.

Self-love means that your well-being matters to yourself unconditionally and in practical terms.

  • Who you are is more important than what you are.
  • You are valuable. Nothing can change that.
  • What you want always matters.

When we are operating from a loving and healed space within, the negativity of the external world doesn’t fade our sense of self. Infact, it reinforces Love in the most beautiful way.

Our past scars need not be ugly and painful….with enough self love, they can be healed, beautiful and full of loving light.

Today, make a commitment to yourself to be more loving to yourself. Ask yourself everyday, “How can I be more loving to myself today?”

And never forget: YOU ARE VALUABLE! YOU ARE IMPORTANT! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! Don’t you ever allow anyone else to convince you otherwise!

The Amplify Love SeriesThe Amplify LOVE Series: With so much negativity dominating the current events and our lives these days, I feel there is an immediate need to Amplify love in our world.  This series of articles/posts aims to make you more loving, more soulful and more heart centered as it progresses. I want each and everyone of you to become ‘human love angels’ by the time this series ends. Please subscribe(click here) and stay updated of the latest in this series and more!

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With Immense Love & Gratitude,
~Zeenat~

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20 thoughts on “Self Healing through Self Love : The Amplify Love Series, Part 3”

  1. This is a lovely post Zeenat. I appreciate hearing about your journey to love and happiness. I have only recently come back to the idea of self love and have been repeating the phrase “I love you” over and over to myself. It seems to soothe my body, mind and soul. And sometimes I find love with self-less service as you did years ago on the streets. It’s interesting to me that sometimes we find love with self care and sometimes by losing self in service. One of life’s many paradoxes! Thanks for sharing your love, wisdom and joy! Brad

  2. I found this core message so important, Zeenat: “This self-love had helped me love so many more effortlessly. My heart blossomed at this realization…after which my own little love affair with myself and the world continues to this day.” It’s just so true that eventually we stop making a distinction between self-love and loving others and we just become love.

    Thanks for sharing your story. It’s wonderful to see how you transformed your life. It shows how possible it is for any one of us!

    1. Dear Sandra,
      Many people often think that those who are happy all the time, havent really had any difficulties…when in reality no one attains true happiness till they have lived through their difficulties and failures.
      We each have the ability to positive transform ourselves….the realization that we ‘need’ it is what catapults us.
      So glad my story resonated with you.
      Thank you for your beautiful comment here.
      Much Love~

  5. Hi Zeenat,
    Your story reminds me of my own…full of pain and sadness, which descended into my life very early and made me an introvert…I don’t like to share it but some traces do creep out at times. Nobody ever told me that ‘I am valuable’, in my impressionable years, Self love had no meaning for me till my students made me realise that I possessed some qualities which they admired. That made me embellish them further…I slowly crept out of my shell, became more friendly, patient and loving. But couldn’t really love myself as all the time I was busy in giving what I could not get- love, care and affection.

    Thanks for writing so well about self love…I am valuable, I will keep repeating!

    1. Dear Balroop,
      While we all suffer our share of pain to learn and come out on the other positive side…many of us have the support and many of us dont. I can understand how it must’ve been for you.
      And no matter how late you hear it… YOU are Valuable! Know it and believe it.
      Sending you lots of love~

  7. Great post! It’s amazing what wonderful things can happen when we start loving ourself. Many people get so caught up in giving themselves to those around them that they forget to prioritize themselves, when the truth is that they benefit their loved ones so much more if they value and love themselves! Thank you for the reminder.

    1. Hi Maggie,
      You are so right….we often give more than we realize and then feel all exhausted to be bothered to take care of ourselves. When truthfully it should be the other way around. We must first take care of ourself in order to fully take care of the ones around us happily.
      So glad you liked this positive reminder. Thank you so much for stopping by and for your comment here.
      Much Love~

  9. reflectingalife

    It’s the old story that we can’t give what we don’t have. We are radiating our inner selves out into our world and if we have love within, then it’s love that we radiate out. You dearest Zeenat are the personification of this.

  10. Many people often think that those who are happy all the time, haven’t really had any difficulties…when in reality no one attains true happiness till they have lived through their difficulties and failures.

    I so agree with you on that.

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