‘The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.’~ Anthony Robbins
In the last article in this series I spoke of and discussed the immediate need for us to begin loving our-self before we can do any justice to any of the relationships in our lives.
There was a certain cycle of a Happy Relationship that I shared, which is : self love-give love-heal-self love.
In this part lets discuss ‘giving love’ to actually rejuvenate our existing relationships and even make new ones. What do I actually mean by rejuvenate? I mean, infuse *life* in our already existing relationships around us. How? Now aint that the pressing question of the hour ;)
How to Rejuvenate each and every Relationship in your life?
The answer is simple. “Give Love”. But hey, you already know that na….so why am I telling you this again…its because our perception of giving is attached to our perception of getting too. We give only when we know we are gonna get something back in return. Ok most of the time, that is the case. Yup, we dont want to admit this fact…but its the bitter truth. We keep thinking why everyone around us doesnt care about our feelings, when in all reality, when was the last time you really really cared about theirs?
We love to point fingers and pick on another’s faults, but we forget to see our-self in the mirror and admit, that ‘yes, maybe I’m not the biggest giver and carer of love either.’
Let me give you an example- A little misunderstanding emerged between bestest of friends. Friends for over 20 years. The misunderstanding- ‘She didn’t call me for a month. She doesn’t care about me. How many times should I keep calling? If she doesn’t care, why should I?’
The Truth- The friend who didnt call for a whole month or was distracted, was actually dealing and coping with the advent of her young sons newly diagnosed cancer. Hence, wasn’t in the state to probably chit chat.
The solution- If one person shuts down, the other needs to try to understand why that’s happening, rather than become judgmental and crass about the whole relationship, which in truth can be truly damaging to the said relationship. The solution is “give love”. Be there. Dont give anything with expectation. Rather give cause you want to. You feel from the heart to. Even in the worst of situations, genuine love brings about a positive response.
Give Love Completely
Giving love is not that hard to do. Infact its more natural than you think. Everytime you look at a little child, everytime you see a cute puppy, everytime you see a person in need, everytime your heart gets tugged….its a sign for you to GIVE LOVE. And I know Your heart gets tugged many many times everyday and with every relationship you have around you. So there is ample opportunity to Rejuvenate those relationships and even make new ones too!
There are many ways you can Give Love completely-
- Smile- When youre at the grocery store, smile at every passerby. Every. Smile with your heart. Smile at the paperboy, the gas station attendant, the cab driver, the building watchman, the person in the elevator. Just smile Big, with so much love. How on earth can such a beautiful smile not create and rejuvenate a new relationship?
- Be Open- Many times we go by our days, living a certain way. In a certain routine. Thinking that this is what life is supposed to be. The eternal need for everything to be a certain way is what prevents us from truly opening up to new opportunities around us. Be that in life or in relationships. Be open to new and different. New and different can be good too. If your relationship needs a bit of rejuvenation, trying new ways of talking to each other or approaching each others problems can be very healthy.
- Be Raw & Genuine- I’ve seen really close relationships suffer the brunt of the ego. Being raw means to be you. Only you. Not someone the opposite person wants you to be. Any relationship based on ego and veils doesn’t truly blossom till those veils are actually shed. Notice how our best friends/closest relationships are the ones who have seen us and been with us in our most vulnerable moments…Its ok to be You. Its ok to be vulnerable and free. We need to be able to let our guard down and just live and love. This genuinety breathes Life into all our relationships. I have so many relationships in my life, where I can just sit in silence without saying one word for hours. And its ok. We understand each other to that level, that sometimes words are not required.
- Operate from your Heart- Our heart is an entity of gigantic proportions. When we function from our heart center, we see things in an intuitive light. There is no negativity or judgment in the heart, only love. Hence operating from the heart makes any and all your relationships happily rejuvenated.
Stay Tuned: In the next part of this Happy Relationships Series we will shed light on Finding Soul-mates. And if you have already found your soul mate, then how to make sure you don’t lose them.
Please Note: This article is the 2nd part in the series of articles on “Happy Relationships”. From Self-love, to Giving love, to Finding your soul mate, to having happy healthy loving relationships….all will be unraveled in this “Happy Relationships Series” of articles. Be sure to be subscribed(by clicking here) so that you don’t miss any part of this Heart Opening Series.
What are YOUR thoughts on this topic? How do you rejuvenate your relationships? Do you have any tips to share about your life’s relationships? Share your wisdom, thoughts and questions in the comments of this article. I’d love to get to know you!
With Immense Love & Gratitude,
Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor
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