“Being alone can be the best healing medicine for the heart and soul.” ~ Z~
What happens to you when you are alone?
Do you feel lonely? Or do you use that time to reflect and get to know your Self better?
No matter how you choose to deal with alone time, there’s no need to feel lonely. Being on your own presents a wonderful opportunity to get in touch with your deeper Self.
Does Being Alone Mean You’re Lonely?
There is a vast difference between being alone and being lonely. The first is positive; it’s something we choose. The latter is an emotion that we attach to the fact of being alone. The truth is, you can be lonely even in a crowd of people and you can be alone and enjoy it very much – as long as you are connected and at peace with your Self.
It is NOT negative to be by yourself; in fact it could be considered a luxury if you can think of the time in positive terms.
When you are single, the holidays can be a time of angst. But how much of that feeling is brought on by commercials and store displays and how much is really in your heart? Don’t forget that you always have a choice and there’s no reason you couldn’t volunteer your time over the holidays helping others and making yourself feel good at the same time.
The Luxury of Alone Time
Have you considered alone time, for the luxury, it truly is? What if you unplugged for a while and used that opportunity to get in deeper touch with your Self?
How about using a few minutes, maybe an hour, a day, a week in quiet reflection, allowing yourself to really feel and respond to things that have happened without having to worry about what someone else might think?
When you are alone, you are given the ability to think through all sorts of things. You have the chance to reexamine situations and consider other responses you might have used. You can dream of the future and how you will change your life to fit into that ideal vision.
Whether you believe it or not: Your inner Self is a precious gift that you can choose to share with others. Why not cherish it?
Know Yourself By Making a Date with Yourself
If and when you have scheduled a doctor’s appointment, you keep it right? When you schedule coffee with your best friend, you work hard to make it a priority too, right?
So why not make yourself a priority and make a date with your Self?
- Take the time to reflect.
- Use the time to simply follow whatever whim you might have.
- Be open to discovering something about yourself you might not have realized was there.
- Give your Self permission to NOT live up to anyone’s else’s expectations for a little while and see how it feels.
Renewing and rejuvenating is what alone time can be. It can also bring you to the realization that your regular life isn’t quite as satisfying as you once thought. If you want to return to that period of time, when you could do whatever you wanted, use it as an indication of what your heart and soul – your deep Self – really wants to be doing in your everyday life. Chances are this is what agrees most with your core values. And honoring your core values results in happiness and fulfillment – every day.
Let your alone time be your priority – be your own best friend at least once a month (and more if you can!). Go ahead and try it and see what you find out about your Self. I just know you will rediscover passions you never knew you had.
Knowing yourself helps you to positively heal your past and move forward with success and confidence in your own abilities.
You know what I do in my alone time? I pray. I also go for a walk to the park and meditate. Many of my articles, posts and book ideas have surfaced during my alone time.
So, what are you going to do on a date with yourself? The possibilities are endless and the healing is limitless.
Now its YOUR turn: Do you spend time alone with yourself? How has it helped you? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
With Immense Love & Gratitude,
Counseling Psychologist/ Spiritual Counselor
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