Take all the time you need to heal emotionally. Moving on doesn’t take a day. It takes a lot of little steps to be able to break free of your broken self.
To acknowledge emotional pain may seem like an obvious step in the healing process that everyone is already doing. If you’re in pain, you already know it, right?
No! Not always.
Many of us have a surprising amount of emotional pain in our energy field that lies below our conscious awareness.
In time we become masters at denial of emotional pain in order to function in our lives. Unconsciously we have learned how to keep the pain at bay so we can “do” our daily lives with some kind of balance. Often, this imbalanced balance within us actually causes us to create more imbalance as an attempt to gain equilibrium. And our only awareness of this might be a sense of feeling “off” or living our lives with limited inner resources, constantly looking for something outside ourselves to “fix” us.
For us to truly heal emotional pain, we need to invite it up into our conscious awareness. We need to care enough about ourselves to spend time with ourselves, looking within and truly BEING with ourselves. When we can do this, we find an infinite source of emotional support and well-being that is always available to us from within our own heart.
I was in that painful emotional phase for a very long time without even realizing it. By the time I realized it, I was questioning my very existence and purpose. Its only after a lot of emotional upheaval and introspection did I realize I was not to blame for it all. But while my healing took time and effort because I didn’t know where to start….your healing does not have to take that long. The few ways below have helped me and countless of my patients heal their lifetimes of emotional scars.
So here goes…..
2 Positive ways to Heal Past Emotional Wounds
Last week I wrote about how simplifying and forgiving yourself can lead to emotional healing…to which many people asked the prodigal question BUT HOW? The two ways below cover the HOW of emotional healing too.
1) Acknowledge your pain
“Tend to your vital heart, and all your worry will be dissolved.” ~ Rumi
You may experience your first awareness of emotional pain as an uncomfortable physical sensation, such as tightness. Or it could be mental confusion and obsession about something. Or you could feel emotionally overwhelmed, like being pulled into a tidal wave that has you spinning and not knowing which end is up. You may be able to determine the quality of the feeling as rage, sadness, despair, etc. If not, that’s okay. Give the feeling / sensation permission to be here within you fully, whether you can describe or define it or not. Make no judgments about yourself or your process. You can’t do this wrong. Just go with whatever you are aware of and congratulate yourself for your courage and determination to let is surface and heal.
Remind yourself that anything that you’re feeling is here for a valid, real reason. As you begin to experience your emotional pain, remind yourself that there is nothing wrong with you for having this wound. Even if your current experience was triggered by something in present time, the root of it is there because there was something that happened to you in the past that caused real, genuine pain and scarring. Therefore, it is normal, natural and HEALTHY for you to feel whatever it is that you feel.
When you can acknowledge your pain, you are simplifying it for your heart to heal it too.
2) Declutter Emotionally to heal
Well a simple way I use to remove emotional clutter is: to write that negative or painful memory on a piece of paper. While writing pour your heart out(Acknowledge your pain). Let the tears flow, the anger soar…no problem. But once you have finished writing it, tear that paper into tiny tiny bits and throw it in the bin outside your living space. That physical act of tearing the paper with the painful memory precipitates into your emotional being and starts the emotional decluttering, which ultimately leads to healing even the deepest and oldest of emotional wounds. (Please do this process in complete solitude)
Now the most important question to ask your self is this :
“Do I care enough about ME to let ME heal?”
“Healing comes when we choose to walk away from darkness and shift towards a brighter light.”
The famous saying that time heals all wounds is NOT exactly true. Time has the ability to mask old wounds, but healing takes effort and acknowledgment of the pain. Do notice that when you think about a past hurt, does it still hurt you? If yes, then time has masked your pain and you have still not healed. This is where the above 2 ways will help immensely.
You know the ways, so its just a matter of time, effort and self loving determination. Emotional healing is a HUGE step in transforming yourself into the person you were truly meant to be…because believe it or not, all those emotional scars inside have a way of weighing us down and preventing our flight.
Let it all out and let yourself heal. You will be SO glad you did. You CAN do it!
And if you are still feeling stuck and need a helping hand to get you started, I am here to positively counsel and help you heal. Just drop me a note by clicking here.
Now its your turn… Do you have any special ways of emotional healing? Do you agree with what I have said above? Please share your thoughts and questions in the comments below. I would love to learn from you and so would all the other readers. Who knows, your healing experience might help another heart heal too.
With Immense Love & Gratitude,
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