Do you want to live a better life?
A happier life. A content life. Who are you kidding…Ofcourse you do!
We all very well know what it’s like to want to live a better life. We want to be healed of our childhood wounds. We want to be free of the burdens that weigh us down. We want to feel happier and more content. We want to be engaged in a life we love. We want our hearts to sing, our minds to relax, and our bodies to feel good.
But most of the time in life we are unable to live that way or achieve that level of happiness.
Cause we become are own worst enemies, our own worst critics. Our negative mind takes over in full force when there is some thing we have not been able to do or complete. Our expectation of ourselves are so high, that we spend our whole lives trying to reach those expectations, only to realize at the fag end, that they were not your hopes and dreams to begin with. The world around us will influence us negatively IF we allow it to.
The Positively Magical Tool For a Better Life
“A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.” Christopher Germer
In over 10 years helping people make a shift into a more fulfilling life, I have seen firsthand what works and what doesn’t, what brings success and what brings struggle. From my years of interaction, I have found one tool that makes the most difference to people’s successful transformation. That Magical tool is self-compassion!
What is self-compassion?
Consider your answers to these questions:
• Are you compassionate and gentle to yourself when you lose, fail, or face disappointment as well as when you win or excel?
• Are you kind and forgiving to yourself when you feel regret and sadness?
• Do you build yourself up instead of beating yourself down?
• Are you more likely to think, “Everybody makes mistakes now and then” or fall into a “I’m such a loser” attitude?
Very simply, self-compassion is having mercy, love and sweetness for yourself no matter what else you might be experiencing. It is the ability to treat yourself kindly in the face of failure, rejection, defeat, and other difficult experiences. And it is the ability to accept yourself as human, having a wide variety of human experiences.
With self-compassion, if you care about yourself, you do what’s healthy for you rather than what’s harmful to you.
“I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.” – Audre Londe
Many of us feel that if we are caring for ourselves so much, we are either being selfish or self indulgent. I often hear people say, “But how can I think about ‘me’ when my loved ones are in trouble? Am I not being completely selfish?”
There are always things in life or in ourselves that we are not quite satisfied with. Cultivating self-compassion helps you focus on your present circumstance with more kindness and less judgment. By doing so, you are more likely to relax and find your creative center. Tapping into deep inner creative resources can lead you to discover new solutions to life’s unpleasant events…not only for yourself but also for your loved ones.
A happier, calmer, self compassionate YOU is truly the answer to many of your life’s confusions. When you are happier with yourself, you are happier with the world around you and in-turn are able to take care of your loved ones with more creative passion. Is there anything selfish about that??
When things get rough, take a deep breath, and give yourself a big compassionate break. You deserve it!
I personally use this positive affirmation to center myself, especially on those days when my monkey mind will not stop taking negative somersaults :
“I am happy, I am well, I am kind and loving to myself.”
You must believe that you are doing the best that you can in any given moment. That is truly enough.
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