Are you lonely this friendship day? Do you crave companionship? Are you perfectly content in your relationships?
Todays fast paced world leaves all of us wanting more. By the time your day ends, you are exhausted and crave a certain familiar warmth. If only to just sit and watch TV with or have dinner with. Failing to have this, there are many who have gone into a state of self prescribed depression. A state of loneliness.
Now who really likes to be lonely?
Loneliness is very very over rated. The need for companionship is a good thing. It makes you only human. But, what if you are alone, by circumstance? Will you stop living as a result of it?
You cant do that! You have to live and live very well at that too! With constant reminders or feelings of loneliness, your productivity and your sanity both go for a toss.
So what is the alternative?
The Simplest and Most Rewarding Cure for Loneliness
Think of your life from birth. The very first time a baby comes into this world. This little baby has come into this world alone. When your life ends it will end alone. Your life is not gonna end with another group who are gonna come with you to keep you company at that journey. This journey from the birth to death to the afterlife…you have to go at it alone. Just you! Only You!
Why not make YOU your own best friend?
“If you learn to really sit with loneliness and embrace it for the gift that it is…an opportunity to get to know YOU, to learn how strong you really are, to depend on no one but YOU for your happiness…you will realize that a little loneliness goes a LONG way in creating a richer, deeper, more vibrant and colorful YOU.” ~ Mandy Hale
What are the things you do with best friends?? Go for movies, share funny stories, go for outings, excursions etc. Do all these things with yourself. Just learn to be with yourself. Slowly the loneliness goes away and is replaced with Peace! Yes, peace of mind, peace of heart and total control of your SELF.
At a time when you’re totally at peace with yourself….If you do meet someone and decide to have a relationship, that relationship will be more fruitful and enriching. Why? Because youre no more needy. Youre no more imbalanced. You’re no more unhappy. On the contrary, You have found your SELF!
At this point sharing your life with someone means to let that person grow too. You live your lives with a certain calm, where you help each other grow as individuals. You let each other BE exactly who you are without the temptation to change each other.
But first and foremost, Learn to live with yourself.
Make peace with the skeletons in your closet and the scars on your heart. Let them be. Take a lesson from each skeleton, each scar and apply those lessons in your daily life.
Being your own best friend can be the most enriching experience in the world. I know, cause I did the exact same thing when I went through a very bad and painful separation in the far past. At the time, I didn’t know how to be by myself. I had somehow lost my identity in the crowded relationship I was in. Slowly but steadily I attempted to be by myself. Found myself. Then when I met the love of my life, I knew I was loved for who I was, not for who someone wanted me to be.
The amazing thing about being your own best friend and finding yourself is that you never ever feel lonely and you almost always know what you want. You dont need to second guess yourself ever again.
Its a process. An awesome process!
Happy Friendship Day Darlings 🙂
Acknowledge and love the friends in your life today, but first and foremost acknowledge and love YOU!
What about you? Are you your own best friend or are you still looking for YOURSELF? Please share your wisdom and thoughts in the comments below. Thank you for stopping by!
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~Zeenat~
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True and wise advice, Zeenat. I, like you, was uncomfortable with myself and, as a result, made a lot of mistakes, especially in relationships. We truly have to learn to like who we are when we are completely alone. It is the sure cure for lonliness.
Blessings!
Hi Zeenat,
HAPPY Friendship day, dear! Who can be lonely with positiveprovocations filling the lives of many with happiness, smiles and positive thoughts!
I completely agree with you – if we befriend our own selves, no negative feelings can ever haunt us because loving our own self, leads us into the vast vistas of our heart…we can understand ourselves so well, we can analyse and make peace with our past and present. Loneliness can prove to be a blessing in disguise if we know how to utilise those hours of loneliness. In fact there is a very thin line between loneliness and solitude, which gets obliterated when we become our best friends.
I like this perspective and reminder to be my own best friend. Thanks Zeenat!
Loneliness is the result of an illusion; ultimately, we are all united in Love. Learning to be at peace with yourself could be understood as a step along the way to the realization of oneness. 🙂
Thank you for this post and Happy Friendship Day!
Best,
Sean
Thank you Zeenat!
Happy Friendship Day!
I finished the evening off by having a water fight with my neighbors…its never lonely…or for the matter dull around here…I am blessed to have crazy fun loving neighbors that love me.
Here is a very interesting bit of history that I would like to give everyone as a gift of *Friendship*:
https://www.sbnature.org/research/anthro/chumash/faq.htm
PS
Make sure to follow the Lone Woman link after reading the first page…
I love being alone. I do. It took me a lot of painful nights and a long, long to get used to being alone but nowadays I could not see myself being with anyone really. I enjoy being on my own too much. I love my weekends alone. I love doing things by myself – I go to cafes and have lunches alone, or go and watch a movie by myself, and I enjoy every minute of it. In my own home, I can be just me. I would watch TV, or my favourite DVDs, I would eat what like, dance naked if I want to and and I do what I want without anyone to please except me. It’s an invigorating feeling being so free xxx
I am my best friend 🙂 I love your message today Z. We enter this world alone and we will depart this world alone. Along the way, we pick up fellow companions, loved ones, children, and bestest friends. But at the end of the day, it’s just me, myself, and I.
Beautiful, it is simply loving and caring, beatiful. No other words to describe it. The article is eye opener. The basic cause of grief and sorrow is the loving the mortals. Those who are mortals can not give you piece and love.Love thyself . Only you can love or hate yourself truly. Nobody else.
My dear Zenat,
I´ve been living alone for 9 years now. I basically do everything alone, go out, shopping, to the beach, to restaurants. I am so confortable being alone. Recently people start telling me that I should have a relationship and stop living the peaceful life I have. So, I subscribe myself into a relationship website. As people started talking to me. I´ve notice I was getting angry and to some of them even said I was reading or busy with something and that was my own moment. I realised that after so many years alone I can´t share time with people anymore. I stay with them for a while and I quickly want to go to my place. I realise I am not ready for a relationship.
Great! Your cure for loneliness is right on point! I am alone for one of the first times in my life. All my relationships have changed, because I have changed. At first I seemed to be plagued with feelings of loneliness and then I began to focus on me and embrace this time by myself to get to know myself. I am now my own best friend! Thanks.
Thank you for this article. It’s been a very difficult day and the instant I got home loneliness hit me. I ‘re-read this article a few times and it came at the best time. I really need to enjoy being with me again and not let my happiness be dependent on someone else. Thank you again.
Thank you everyone for the lovely lovely comments here.
I love each and everyone of you, for sharing your beautiful energy here. I have been swamped with work and my little girls exams so have not been online much.
I’ll see you’ll next week with a brand new post.
Love you all.
xoxo,
Z~