“My primary relationship is with myself – all others are mirrors of it. As I learn to love myself, I automatically receive the love and appreciation that I desire from others. If I am committed to myself and to living my truth, I will attract others with equal commitment.”~Shakti Gawain
While we all know and agree that Self Love is the ONLY force that can make us whole and healed, we still struggle with it. In a recent workshop on Self love, while discussing the merits of it, a kind gentleman asked, “But I think self love is just too self indulgent and narcissistic! How can I think of myself when I have so many responsibilities towards my family and loved ones? Shouldn’t I be thinking of them first before my own needs?” ~ I smiled at him and said, “How can you fully serve your loved ones and make them happy, when you are not happy yourself? If you are having a shitty day, will you go home and be loving to your family or be moody?” He said, “Ofcourse, I’ll be moody! I have to vent at some point.” I responded, “Is that fair to your family? If you love yourself, you will NOT allow yourself to be sucked into a shitty day. You will give yourself the gift of calming down and being happy no matter what kind of day you are having, because you know YOU are worth it. Anger, irritations, shitty days etc won’t trouble your inner happiness. And then when you go home, how will you be with your family?” At this point I could see his eyes soften and he said, “I will be loving and kind……..I understand now…. that Self Love is NOT self indulgent or narcissistic…it is actually nurturing to me and all those around me too. Thank you!!!”
Now the BIG Question we all face from time to time is ~ “How do we cultivate this self love for limitless happiness everyday?” The answer to this question is simple and oh so doable! I do it everyday and so do so many others.
As a Valentine’s Day Gift to YOU(and your inner loving self), this article is going to be chalk full of Positive Ways to Cultivate Self Love by me and the BIG personalities of the Personal Development field. Feast your hearts on the awesomeness that follows and soak it all in. You WILL devour every way!
For in Loving yourself will you find lasting and limitless happiness!
Positive Ways to Cultivate Self Love for Limitless Happiness ~ Happy Valentine’s Month!
What do you do on a daily basis to cultivate your Self Love and how has that positively helped you?
This is what I do: To nurture my spirit everyday with things that make me feel good is my idea of daily self love. I wake up early each morning to pray, to meditate, to go for my nature walk, to do yoga, to read and listen to motivational teachings. All these positive habits nurture my spirit and keep me centered all throughout the day. In my line of work I meet many many troubled souls, and its very easy for me to fall prey to their lower vibrations…but these practices help me to stay on higher more positive vibrations and to lift up all those who I encounter to those vibrations too. Isn’t that a marvelous?!! I love ME and that is why I love everyone and everything around me, cause I know they are all part of me and reflections of me.
A mantra I use for myself and keep repeating in my heart for everyone I meet : “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I Love You.” ~ This is the Hoʻoponopono (ho-o-pono-pono) mantra. It is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness of self and others. It instills Oneness of all in the heart.
Here is what the Big Personalities of Personal Development had to say in response to the above question:
“For me the path and practice of yoga has been transformational. And I am the first to assert that yoga is not about pretzel poses and black stretchy pants. Coming to the mat, coming to my breath and body just as it is every and any given day is self love. Acceptance and love for where I am allows me to expand and reach out to love others more fully.” ~ Lynn Louise Wonders from Wonders of Wellness.
“I find that a major reason why we humans often struggle with loving ourselves is because there is a conflict between how we see ourselves and how we believe we should be: we see ourselves in a very poor light, and at the same time we expect ourselves to be nearly faultless. And this gap creates a lot of needless frustration for us. So one thing I try to do daily is to mentally close this gap. I seek to acknowledge my strengths and see myself in a more positive light, while at the same time letting go of unrealistic expectations of how I should be. It always helps me relax, feel good about myself, and use my time more wisely.” ~ Eduard Ezeanu from People Skills Decoded.
“My day starts with a quiet meditation of up to 30 minutes and this activity of self-love sustains me throughout the day.This meditation nurtures me at a deep level and infuses me with a vibrant positivity which makes me see the world through the eyes of gratitude and love. On a practical level, meditating early in the morning also allows me to plan out my working day and gives me clarity on the key actions I have to take each day. Another key positive practice of self-love I adopt daily is preparing the healthiest meals I can and eating mindfully without any distractions. This sustains me in the best way possible so I can fulfil my worldly obligations and continue to create my legacy in the best ways possible. Life is short and so precious – and by adopting simple but powerful daily practices of self-love, we can all make our lives that much more enjoyable and fulfilling.” ~ Arvind Devalia from Making it Happen.
“I seem to be cultivating more self-love each year! I think it’s a continuous learning journey. I learn one skill, apply it, see the results and then move to the next while still continuing the first. So, it’s like a compounding self-love effect the more I understand who I am and how I operate.For example, a couple of years ago I realised I wasn’t getting the amount of sleep I really needed to function properly. So I made the commitment to get at least 8 hours of sleep every single night. Once I had that knuckled down and I was realising the benefits, I started reading over my goals on a daily basis to help me stay focused on what I truly desire in life. After I had this habit embedded, I moved on to saying positive affirmations each morning that help to train my mind to focus on the good in life. The benefits have been surreal.Now, I’ve just started undertaking a meditation course and I’m starting to apply this into my daily life.It’s been a continuous journey for me when it comes to cultivating self-love. As a result, I’m getting more in-tune with my mind and body.” ~ Brendan Baker from Start of Happiness.
“My morning routine is what increases my self-love. It can include any or a combination of the following: reading A Course In Miracles, meditating, sitting in my backyard journaling, running, walking or hiking. It all began when my 4 daughters were very young. I would wake up a couple of hours earlier than they did. I would be peaceful, centered and ready for our hectic lives. It was a turning point for me that affected our entire family.
And P.s. Love you all! Happiest Valentines Ever! 🙂
With Immense Love & Gratitude,
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